I was just sitting at home with my mom when my dad comes downstairs. She glared at him like she did everyday, and he tried to hurry getting food so he could go away from my mom. He was headed upstairs when my mom says, “How could he not even make food for his daughter while he makes some for himself.” SHE KNEW I WASN’T HUNGRY! I told her so many times before he even came down that I wasn’t hungry and that I would get food if I was. She just tries to pick him for his faults. She does this every time, and I just try to stay quiet because I don’t want her to get angrier. But this was just so RIDICULOUS! I told her to stop and after my dad went to his room, she turns on me.
How could you do this to your own mother? Why are you and your brother so nasty to me but never your dad? Why don’t you ever call him out for what he never does? Am I supposed to be the only one doing anything in this house? I BET YOU’D LOVE IT IF I JUST DIED?
By this point I’m basically crying, but I don’t to give her the satisfaction of anything so I try not to let any tears fall. I try to respond to her but anytime I say anything, she just yells at me to shut up.
What am I supposed to do? Do I just keep living with her?I have 3 more years until I graduate high school and leave for college. Should I just wait it out? Please. help.
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your mom has problems and your parents don’t get along. it seems like she just throw her anger at you. i know any kind of professional would tell you otherwise, but I think the best thing to do is smile, do nothing, ignore her (emotionally) when she act like a *****. tell her that you love her. mind your own business and hope this 5 years will move quickly
Hey
2 things
1] big big hug <3
2] What to do? I think you need to have a good, kind, long talk with ur mom…
perhaps in writing rather than through speaking, that way you have a chance to say
all what you want to say without her interrupting u… which is for her own good because it's important to her that she knows what you want to say
I'd love to offer suggestions on what to write her & to talk to you more about your future plans
Would you like to talk?
it’s surprising how similar to you I once felt. in our story, on the surface, my mom always seemed like the root of all the family conflicts, but in fact it was my father who had been cheating on her for such a long time and never giving her the love she deserved,. he was the only who secretly turned her into that sad and angry woman. what I’m trying to say is that your mother seems to be in pain too and maybe getting closer to her is a better solution than letting her alone with her thoughts, for both of you. just my humble opinion.
Perfect perfect answer… that’s exactly what I want to say
It does not have to be her Dad [though still possible but not a must], but I’m sure *something* is hurting her mom deep inside & it’s what making her act this way… & I think as her children they hold the key to her heart & they can get in & know what’s going on & try to help her get out of that dark place…
Salutes to u
thanks, and yes of course. the root is not necessarily her dad. I mentioned our example to make this point that maybe it’s her mom who needs help the most. this is something I wish I could see when I was younger and I regret it a lot now.
🙁
I’m sorry
& I can imagine the regret
but I hope that it may console you
if I remind you [I’m sure you know this]
that mothers have the kindest of hearts
& they truly forgive & forget
& they can know how their children are feeling without even seeing them
I’m sure somewhere deep down,
your mom knew & knows
that you have that love in ur heart towards her
even if through out a period of time you did not show / express it
& I think that’s all what really matters…
that she knows you love her
I wish u all the best 🙂