I have nobody that will help me. I can’t say to anyone “hey, so my teacher just removed me from the uni list because he found out that I’m not going, and my parents will notice because it affects the monthly fee, can you help me?” Because nobody knows what I’m doing.
There’s no way out. I’m really scared. I really wanted to die on Aug. 15th.
Now I’ll have to hurry everything just in case I have to do it before.
I’m so alone, nobody can help me.
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I’d like to inform you of two things
[1]
You’re not alone…
you’r not alone in this situation because
[a]
it’s logical to assume that
hundreds
maybe even thousands
of students ur age have passed
are passing
will pass through
that same exact sitution
& [b]
you’r not alone right now because it is a fact that I’m right here reading what you wrote & replying to you…
okay ?
[2]
I’m here to help
& I want to help any way I can
I just need to understand what the problem[s] is [are]
so I could do my best to help you solve it [them]
I’ll go through ur previous posts
but it would be helpful if, for now, u list me all ur problems & any details u wish to add
@FarahLajeenNourAlDeen Hi! I think it’s so nice of you to offer your help. You said it in another comment too that if the person lists all their problems for you then you’d be able to help try and solve them – similar to what you’re saying here also 🙂 I was wondering, are you a therapist or counselor?? 🙂
Heyyyy… 🙂
I’m so so sorry it took me all that time to reply 🙁
I swear… ur comment & another post… I’ve been wanting to reply to them since hours ago but was so in the middle of other things…
Thank you very much for your kind comment
I find no better way to answer your question than to quote myself from another post…
”
I wanna help you
any way I can
I’m not a psychiatrist / psychologist / psychotherapist / any of these other words that all start with either “psychi” or “psycho”
😀
I took only one psychology course back at uni & that was years ago
so I can’t really call it “professional”
but it’s “help” & i’m offering it for free
I’m willing to take ur hand
& try my out most best
to help you get out of that sad & dark place
u feel u’r in
I only need you to give me a chance…
“
I think it’s ironic how the end of my quote is
“give me a chance”
when your name here is “NeverHadAChance”
Can you give me a chance to give you a chance? 🙂
Thank you, you’re so kind.
Well to sum up, my parents hate me and abuse me in various ways, they even forced me to study a career I hate.
So I got tired and this year I decided I wouldn’t go to classes, and instead focus on things I’ve always wanted to do. My parents still believe I’m going, but I’m not.
But now one of my teachers said that he removed me from the list because he found out I wasn’t going, and now I’m really scared because this affects the monthly fee and this way my parents can find out I wasn’t going! And of course there won’t be any mercy from me.
I will die this year, on August 15th. But if I can’t solve this I’ll have to do it earlier, and I don’t want that because I still have things to finish.
So yeah, thank you for reading my story. I don’t know what to do and I can’t go to anyone for help, so that’s why I feel so alone.
okay, let’s break this down & take it one step at a time
[1]
May I ask why you hate that career ? [if any reason exists]
& also how bad do you hate that career?
Is it a field / line of work you always hated even before getting to uni. ?
in other words
Do you really hate “that career”?
OR
[2]
Is it more accurate to say that you hate “the fact that your parents forced u into that career” & so as a result, you feel you hate the career too?
[In other words,
Would you have felt exactly the same way, had your parents chosen any other career / field / line of work?…
I think this is a very important question
because if your answer is yes
then it’s “the fact that they chose for you”, that you hate
not “the career” in & of itself
In this case we might be able to find a way
so you can “not hate” the career
even though you hate “the fact that your parents forced u into it”…
—
[3]
I think you need to have a long silent [or out loud] talk with yourself
before you answer the above two questions…
—
[4]
Is the situation with your teacher removing u from the list permanent?
or is it possible that you can explain the situation, make an “honest” promise to attend & catch up on anything you missed
&, respectfully, ask them to give you another chance?
[I understand that you might tell me that you hate “the career” itself… but I’m suggesting this a temporary step to fix the current situation before we could start looking at the bigger questions regarding your future…]
—
[5]
Regardless of your answer to [4]
Is there a problem in coming forward to your parents with the truth?
What is the worst thing that could possibly happen?
[That is a real question, I’m asking you to tell me what’s the worst that you expect]
In other words, could you kindly explain what you mean by “no mercy”?
—
[6]
What are the things you need to finish?
—
[7]
Why are you expecting to die on August [15]?
If you mean “suicide”, may I ask why?
What made you take such a decision?
& why August 15th in particular?
—
Kindly answer these & we could move on to find solutions