I attended my first dance class ever. I was horrible. The worst in the group. No matter what I try I always suck at it! I suck at everything! And I can’t concentrate on anything today. Nothing to look forward to. I looked overweight in the studio mirror. I felt so ashamed of how bad I was and the way I looked. Another great day in my sadly-neverending life.
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Very few people are good at stuff they do the very first time, there’s nothing to be ashamed about. I think you should stick with it. You will get better, and as they say, practice makes perfect.
Echoing SadPotato, I would STRONGLY recommend you read up on something called the “growth mindset”.
People basically see the world in one of two ways: either their traits are fixed, and there is not much they can do about it. That would be you right now, deciding you are bad at dancing after one lesson. It means they are constantly judging themselves, and avoid taking risks for fear of failure.
The opposite is the growth mindset. Here people recognize that anyone can improve at any skill with practise.
Give yourself a massive pat on the back for GOING to that dance class, despite feeling humiliated. That was awesomely done. Then go back and do it again. And again. And again. Learning from your mistakes. Sooner or later you will be a much better dancer than you are now.
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Thank you guys for saying that. I’ll try hard to stick with it. I’m just frustrated because everyone else was pretty good/really good. And idk if I have social anxiety because it took all of me to do that and I sucked at improv too because I have trouble even speaking to people. But I’ll keep on doing it and hopefully I’ll get better :-).
I can relate, tried improv and had a massive attack of social anxiety. Just remember to give yourself credit for effort, rather than results. It’s natural to be scared when trying something new, I think the key is to ease into it.
Best of luck!
That’s good to hear. It’s understandable to get frustrated, but just keep at it. You will get better. O and also, don’t forget to enjoy it. Like muspelhem said, it isn’t always about results.
You may have had your negative depression and anxiety goggles on… I hate what I look like when I get like that.
It was your FIRST class, maybe try doing the moves at home a bit and then go back when it feels a little more fluid? 9 out of 10, most people there probably weren’t even paying attention to what you were doing, they were probably analyzing their own movements.
I wish you felt proud instead of ashamed… I’d be so proud of myself if I forced myself to try a group activity/class
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Thanks everyone :). I will definitely watch that! I really really appreciate the encouragement :)!!!