I love reading books and to watch movies. All I read and watch are fantasy, action, and sci-fi movies, books. So, I don’t get a lot of romance. But here’s the problem. I’m desperate for romance and love. You already know I’m 15, but still, I need male attention.
Everywhere I go, I hope I’m going to meet someone special. Someone suited, made just for me. And every time I get sad and angry because this doesn’t happen. Just the opposite; there’s not even one cute guy. And I don’t know what to do. It’s soooooo hard thinking all the time about it. And I know if I wouldn’t think about it, it would be easier, but I can’t. Every time I see a cute boy I think: “He’s cute. What if he’ll like me. What if he talks to me?” And I can’t stop. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I think about it and hope for it. But it just never happens. What am I supposed to do?
I’m desperate for sweet loving (not in that way), attention (in a good way) a boy, who will like me for just who I really am, a boy who will look at me and be so happy that he has me, a boy, who will know me.
And I keep hoping, without any result.
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Not sure how many times you’ve heard this before, but I’ll say it. This is just an opinion, so keep it in mind.
I think you need to focus more about things you like to do and go from there. The best thing to do in a situation like that is to stop actively looking for someone to be with. Sitting there and contemplating being with every cute guy you see will only hurt you more, as you’ve clearly stated.
You like reading and watching movies? Why don’t you join a school book club/movie club? that way you’ll meet new people with similar interests, and maybe some guy you’ll find interesting.
Also, again, opinion, “needing” to be with a person to the point of absolute desperation helps no one involved. You need to slow down, take your time. Remember that relationships aren’t all sunshine and rainbows, and understand that there are advantages to being single as well. You’re 15, you still have time.
I know you say it’s hard not to think like that, but just ease yourself out of it. Focus on improving yourself, focus on getting through school, focus on your readings or movies, and in time you’ll see the thoughts will lessen. Nothing wrong with not being in a relationship, everyone’s survived at least one extensive period in their lives without a significant other.
Hope this helps.
Your friend,
Trey, the mindless gamer
Thank you 🙂
I’m sorry that you feel this way. You should focus on education and learning or you may end up a teenage mom. That isn’t good for you or anyone around you… I always frown upon posts like this because that is the opposite of what young girls really need. They need education and they need to learn, discover, create.
Um people, she’s 15. This is normal for a 15 year old so please don’t advise her to avoid boys and work on a career or whatever. Advise her to be as normal and social as possible lest she end up like one of us in 10 years.
Justhope, as I said, your thoughts and feelings are 100% normal. When I was 15 I was completely obsessed with dating, although I didn’t have my first date til 18. Teen years are a great time to have friends, get a boyfriend/girlfriend and …be young. You write intelligently so I’ll assume you’re responsible with romance and spare you the condescending lectures (ha as if I know any better than I did at age 15). Anyway I just wanted to chime in that this is perfectly normal behavior. At least it was for me and I turned out ok in the romance department. It’s other aspects of life that I have problems with.
Dare to dream and fall in love, or imagine falling in love. That’s the most genuine ‘hope’ you’ll ever experience. It may be frustrating when you can’t find the right boy but don’t give up, and most of all have fun looking 🙂
🙂 thank you, now I can be sure I’m normal haha
No I’m just telling her don’t go get knocked up or catch an STD cause that has happened to 75% of the people I know 13-17 y.o. and it’s just gross.
Just let things flow and eventually you´ll find a sweet guy who will hopefully make you have a good time and grow as a person. I used to be like you though in a men´s perspective and truly enjoyed the high school days having friends to hang out, girls to ask out, no responsibilities and the best of all being young and having big dreams for the future.