Hi everyone, ive never done this. Im not sure what to saay really… Well it started when i was very young (4). Father was a voilent drunk. Never physically hit me, but did my mother. I was young so i didnt know what to do. I cut my finger with a filet knife, one of the only memories i still have. Life went on, and i was torn between my mother and father when they seperated. They used me as a tools to get back at each other constintly screamed at me about one another, like i should understand why… Thats about the time when i started feeling i didnt want to be alive. Since that time i started having night terrors of being mutalated, or mutalating someone else not anyone in particular. Ive seen what people later on explained to be a shadow man in my dream, it cut my head off. Anyways, aside from dreams. During the time i was being shifted from one school to a new home and another, i was made fun of for various things (not using the bathroom at school) basically was going theough so much stress that thats all i could think about… My father was physically and repeatedly punching my mother in the face while she was on the floor, so instinctively i jump on top of her, to my suprise my father actually stopped. I then was “kidnapped” by my father weeks later and moved around from one place to another in his attempts to avoid us being found. My mother eventually found us and the police and everyone involved was there to make sure of my safety? Or to control who gets the child support… Whos knows. When back at my moms house there a guy who was a down stairs neighbor, who molested me, picked me up twirled me in a circle and pull my pants down while grabbing my well you know… He didnt stop for more then a minute or so, all the while my sister was right there but she couldnt see anything so she thought he was messing with me and she was laughing. I was in shock so i couldnt really speak. Years later all the while still dealing with all of this type of crap, i started failing school grades when grades started to matter. I was rejected, insulted and bullied just about every school i have been to. My first attempt, was when a girl who i thought my friend had turned on me (probably my fualt) aand eventually told me my life didnt matter and told me to kms. I tried, with a knife, to my throat. However i couldnt manage to get the knife any further then a half inch with out pulling away because of the pain. I sat there and cried, cried and cried some more. Begging for something, someone, anything or anyone. Highschool years, my mother eventually got tired of me being around (16-17) told me to leave or get a job (still in school) so i was forced to get a job. I forgot to mention that my father bought me a guitar when i was 13 and i had been sucked into it ever sense my uncle taught me to play. I was a prodigy playing technical and advanced solos when i was two months into playing. In highschool i was told be a teacher they have universities for music, i was thrilled. I began trying really hard in school and got high honors accepted to MI(musicians institute). While still having a job going to school and was doing good-ish, my father calls me said he had a gun in his hands and he was going to kill himself if i didnt quit school, due to child support. I chose my father, quit school. And ended up on the streets. 3 months i slept in shady peoples homes, park benches. I turned 18 soon after and things just got worse, lost my job and ended up back at moms. Got a job lived with my step brother and met a girl who i thought was my… love? We stayed together for 4 years i had a job a place to stay and at certain times a vehicle… But everything was so exapensive i lost my car, then job, then, my fiance at the time cheated on me. My second attempt, i walked to a close bridge. It had only a guard rail made of flimsy steal and a cat walk underneith it. Before walking to the bridge i figured id sit on the rock near it. A man walked up and said ” what are you doing up here”, i mumbled. He replied, “whatever it is, dont do anything stupid it isnt worth it. ” i ignored the message and when he left, walked to the bridge and leaned over it head first. I stared down at the really shallow water flowing over the rocks under it, and thought this is it. The end. I lifted my right leg and my weight shifted forwards, i was ready i didnt flinch or even freak out. But in the instance of feeling as though i was about to fall what seemes like everything i have done, all the choices i made and all the people i met and lost all flashes through my eyes. After i had realized the amount of weight that was shifted wasnt enough to plummet me to my death. I ended up slowly settling back where my weight was recentered and thought to myself, maybe she isnt worth it. So i lifted myaelf off the ledge and sat there and cried for what seemed like hours, two trains went by the bridge before i got up and left. I walked home thinking about my next option. Later i got a job at the same place where all my stress and depression would always worsen, worst idea ever. Years went by i met another girl who i thought was mine, my soul mate and she meant everything to me. Over the period of these years i had gainend a job and lost it soon after over and over again, never had the chance to get back up, i was extremely depressed, i tried mary jane and didnt like it. Ive been through 12 or so TYPES of medication with no success. I decided it was best to actually attempt again seriously try this time. Water intoxication, i down 2 1/2 jugs of water and starting to feel the effects about to pass out with in a half hour, and my room mates walks in… Hes had seen me disoriented and ask what i was doing and i was okay. I told him i was just tired, and he left, as soon as he left i started puking, and he came back because he heard it. He stayed lingering around, and i knew he would have alerted someone if i kept going so i stopped for a later time. That brings me to to going through jobs and living arrangements over and over again still, not being able to find a way to get back up. During one job, o broke down i cracked and called someone saying if you dont pick me up right now, the next sharp object is going through me neck. They picked me up, i ended up in the psychiatric ward for nearly a month taking pills again. Got released with no help. And ended up back in the same path. The girl who i thought was my soul mate still could be? Idefk… Ended unfortunately. The all hell broke loose, lost my grandmothers, grand father, and niece all in the same year. Fucked me up and gave me ptsd in hospitals. Along side the ptsd i already have, and the” extremely severe depression and anxiety” as the doctors say, suicidal should be in there, but i never told anyone the truth about the extent. Nor will i ever. Im tired of typing, this isnt everything and it isnt in full detail either. Im sorry about the lack of paragraphing and incorrect grammar. Idek why i am doing this. Urgh, gonna go back to sitting and my chair staring at the non cable tv. 🙁
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You seem like a good person. I too have been on the antidepressant roller coaster. Seems like something is helping and then I’m back to being suicidal. I don’t share that with my shrink either.
Geesum, Im sorry, wouldnt wish feeling this way upon anyone. Its sad knowing those who are supposed to help, like a shrink just open their holes when they are supposed to be trusted. I’ve always held in things that take trust to handle. Because i cant trust anybody. 🙁
Thanks for sharing your story. It would seem to me that anxiety and feeling down would be a normal reaction to your life circumstances. Surely there are ways to address both without the meds. Many people report becoming suicidal after taking them, but others are helped by them.
It saddens me that doctors think that if they can make you FEEL better that you will somehow BE better. It saddens me that no one reached out to give you real help, like coping mechanisms that work for you.
Forgive yourself, first. Then forgive others, not that they deserve forgiveness, but so that no one has power over you.
Tell us about the music. What type of music are you into? Do you compose your own music as well?
While the reactions and symptoms could be “normal” i left out a ton of information because i got tired of typing and i didnt know what i was going to say next. One thing i failed to mention is that the “feeling down” as you say, is a constant revolving train of thought, depressive suicidal movies played out various instances and situations, i felt at ease today looking for a method. And when i wasnt, i simple could not think straight. Its a battle thats only getting worse. Today i felt weird, wasnt intensely depressive but more of a content depressive state while looking fot the method, and all the while i felt no remorse regret or guilt. Almost just comfort.
As for music, i play guitar have been for years, ive composed over houndreds of original tracks whether good or bad. I play metal, rock, classical, jazz, blues, old country(chet atkins) and knew eveything within all of the college berklee music books when i bought them felt kinda bummed out thought id learn something new. Ive forgotten alot if not all of theory and notation and can hardly play like i used to its been two years since i really practised anything.
For my brother’s birthday, I gave him an mp3 loaded with music. I threw in some surprises o make him smile.
Have you always played solo or were you part of a band?
That feeling of being in “a content depressive state” maybe nothing more than the respite of having a sense of control over your destiny that you don’t feel in the living of your life. Idk. But you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Thats sounds like a good gift id sure would like it.
Ive played everything really, solos were just a milestone that made me realize how good i was at such a young age, regardless what my family thought. Ive played for many bands probably over 20 or so, doing gigs in states around my area.
I understand im not alone never felt like i was, ive had a couple distant friends already end their life already. I dont expect the way i feel to be any worse then anyone else, nor do think theres is worse then mine. Were all in the same boat sinking.
You didn’t sound like you were trying to win the prize for “most suicidal”, but i gotta tell you, you’ve got a survivor’s heart.
How old are you, if you don’t mind?
Well i can tell you im out of high school. A survivers heart for sure. Everyone cracks, if i do i may not say anything this time around. Im not going back to the hospital. Ever.
Nor I if I have anything to say about it.
I hate sitting here, thinking about my next step. The next step could either be good or bad. Ever if i try to make the better one it always turns to crap because i can never handle the stress of a intensive job, im already always depressive and cant be around a lot of people. My last job i was sitting in a room drawing connected lines on a piece of paper for hours because i couldnt stop thinking about the relief of not being here. All i do right now is sit in a chair numb, thinking. I dont want to really do anything else. Just dont care.
Nothing wrong with sitting in your chair. But maybe get outside tomorrow and walk around. You’re not your diagnosis, so don’t allow yourself to make that your identity.
I may, depends on how i feel. Thanks for the talk. Im off for now. May check back later.
I’ve been in the psych hospital twice. Never again for me as well. I am not one to give advice, but I think that you should start playing your guitar.
I played my guitar for so many years and got nowhere, it take too much financial reutrn to even invest into music. I have no time or means to get back to where i was. I just cant.