Is it even possible? Maybe only slightly depressed people can find love, but the severely depressed are unlikely to find love or a partner.
If the divorce rate among the general population is listed around 40%-50%, and that’s the gen pop, where only 1 out of 2 find love (or something like it), what’s the rate for us depressive sacks of potatoes? 20% chance?
Do you personally know any severely depressed people who have found love? Or a good partner? Or manage to finally have a good life and live happily ever after? I feel like the super depressed are hopeless. While it’s certainly possible, it doesn’t seem very likely.
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I think it depends on what else you have to offer. Some people are super depressed, but have highly-developed social skills. So they conduct relationships regardless.
You are then referring to the slightly depressed. By definition, the super depressed are too depressed to engage much with the public, even if they’ve got good social skills. Hence, I made the distinction between the slightly depressed (depressed but still out and about, and engage on a decent level with other people) and the super depressed (who are more shut-ins and avoid engaging with people).
I’m guessing there are some different opportunities, depending on whether you’re male or female. I mean, let’s face it: Many men will stick by a depressed woman if she lets him sleep with her.
My friend was depressed to the point that she slit her wrists with broken glass while in the psych ward.
My impression is she is never short of options. Then again, she has that female pride, you know? Also, she is quite proactive socially. She always has socializing lined up on weekends.
Also, as someone probably on the spectrum, if you have social skills but choose to isolate yourself because of depression, that is a choice.
Overall it won’t happen to any depth, if at all. It interferes too much with relationships, even if the other understands,,, it just won’t work in the end. I have been there, still am, but at this point, I no longer care given Im sick and already resigned to the fact I loved the best part of life and ready to die anyway and be totally at peace with it.
depressed people can connect too. i’d rather be someone who is also just as messed up, if not worse than i am. let’s suffer together. “normies” just don’t get it. i’ve met people that “get it”. they’re really rare, but it’s refreshing when you find someone that actually does. they were platonic interests, mind you. i’ve always been drawn to the dark ones, even before i was this messed up.