Does anyone else get uncomfortable when people say that care about you? When they do nice things for you? I hate it. Makes me feel dirty.
I dont like gifts or compliments. Theyre just awful. If I dont like me then what reason do you have to? Im an expert on me and I know I am not worth it.
I actively discourage others from caring about me. I think theyre setting themselves up for failure. I genuinely dont get it. Its like theyre putting pressure on me.
“But youre a nice person!” Up until im not. Then i gotta hear about how they had me figured all wrong. Well i warned you. I dont think you should expect someone to be a good person. Cause then when theyre not you put the blane on them when it was your preconcieved notions.
For clarification im nice and polite to people generally, but i dont think that makes me a good person.
Too much responsibility. Just describe me as someone you know. Thats good enough for me.
Anyone else feel like that?
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Oh yeah definitely
It feels gross when people give me stuff or when they talk to me cause I know that all of it is just going to waste and that they could be doing something more productive or could have given those things to people who actually matter
Exactly. Plus if you aren’t super excited about it then you’re a jerk. Which is what I said in the first place! So I lose either way! Seems like bullshit to me. I should never be responsible for someone else’s happiness.
When I was younger I felt much the same as you.
Don’t mistake my polite nature and easy going attitude for niceness. I’m not nice. Nice is weak.
You sound EVER so important if they are always caring about you
Just someone they know, sounds like you are someone they appreciate and want on their side
I dunno. As opposed to “this is my friend” or “Ive know this person forever” its just “Whos that?” “This person i know.” Seems perfectly adequate.
I get uncomfortable with people caring about me sometimes. That stuff glues me to the earth. My lIfe is hard and that caring keeps me on the planet. I don’t really know who is more selfish, me or them. Or maybe neither.
Same, though I believe humans are “selfish” by nature. We all want something from other people, whether it be immaterial like companionship or material like wealth. Sometimes both.
People who care about a suicidal individual don’t want the individual to die, because the individual’s death will result in them being hurt, yet the suicidal individual will often continue to suffer because of this. I want to die, yet my family doesn’t want me to, and so I must suffer. Who’s selfish? Them or me? Both.
Ok. I see what you mean. They hurt if we go and we hurt if we stay.
The vast majority of humans and nearly every nation on earth thinks that the suffering of the suicidal is trumped by the suffering of the survivors, it would seem.
The other line of thinking likely held by the majority is that the suicidal are always treatable, fully curable, and the desire to CTB is only temporary thus making every suicide always wrong every time.
I myself am being carried along by a small few normies and damn I am hoping they are right.