Not suicide related, just about life.
I applied for college 2 weeks before the first school day. I was surprised they had let me in considering the small notice I had given them. I’ve never really considered college before. I didn’t want to go, didn’t care for a degree, especially in a field like music where one is rarely cared about. But it was my violin teacher who suggested it. The way she talked about college made me consider into more and more over the weeks. So I just went for it. And now I’ve just gotten home from my first day of college… maybe I’ll post updates?
Day 1: first days sure are boring.. going over the syllabus, going over the syllabus.. in every class. But there were lots of things that were definite hilights. My first class is a music history class. Although nothing of interest happened in it, once the class ended, a student walked up to me. I didn’t recognize him, but he said, “don’t I know you from somewhere?” Once my mind familiarized itself with his face, I grew instant recognition. It was someone I knew from highschool, who I’ve talked to rarely, but enough to remember his name. I said “you’re Omar Laz- something right?” He laughed and said “yeah man. (He says man a lot) you’re devin right?” Since we both had a free period, we walked over to the cafateria together and ate breakfast. We talked the entire time, for an hour which is rare for me to do. But he was easy to talk to. And it felt rather natural as he is very non judgmental and kind of carefree. I wonder if maybe we could be friends in the future. We’ll have to see. He did invite me to a church youth group but it would feel weird for me going since I’m no longer a Christian.
My next class was piano. After looking through the syllabus and seeing the topics we’d be covering in the class, I walked up to the teacher once the hour was over and asked if it would be possible to test into piano 2. It was the easiest test I’ve ever taken as she asked me 3 questions. “Do you know chords? Do you know major and minor keys? Do you know arpeggios?” She said arpeggios with a concerned face, which I thought was strange but I said “yes” to all 3 of these questions. And with that she walked to one of the offices, filled out a permission paper for piano 2, and handed it to me. I thought it was quite funny that she didn’t have me actually do anything to prove I knew those things, she just had me say yes 3 times.
Third class was jazz improv. This was by far my favorite class and teacher. When he actually talked about music, he didn’t talk to us like we’ve never touched an instrument before (even though I’m sure some of us haven’t), he went straight into talking about playing by ear, the circle of 5th/4ths, transposition, key identification, modulation, ect. I’m so excited to be in this class, i has purposely arranged my schedule just so I could be in this class and I feel it was a great choice. At one point in the class he asked us to say a song we might be interested in playing by ear, a simple one. Most people said happy birthday and ode to joy and simple ones like that. When he got to me, I thought, this is a jazz improv class, so I had said “autumn leaves”. “Ohh a jazz standard, very nice.” He then asked someone to give him a key, in which he played perfectly on his sax. Which, I’m sure he’s played it a hundred times. He walked up to me at the end of class and asked, since I didn’t bring an instrument (i didn’t know we were supposed to) what I played. And I said piano, guitar, and violin. I told him I mostly play piano and he said he’d try to bring one in for me. And I said if not, I’ll bring one of my other ones. Hopefully he can though, for my knowledge on jazz scales are highly lacking on guitar and violin xc
my last class was music theory. At the end of the class, he handed out a pretest to see where we all are I guess. I scored a hundred percent on it. I asked if skipping to music theory 2 was possible and he said I’d have to talk to the supervisor guy, who wasn’t in his office at the time. We’ll see if I can. If not, it’s fine because I don’t think I get credit for any classes that I permission to skip..
thats college I guess. It seems like all positive things I guess, but there is a strong negative factor to this as well that I’m very much worried about. In order to have gone to college, I had to quit my job. My classes are Monday Wednesday Friday from 8am to 1pm and in the 2 weeks I’ve been applying to over 12 jobs, none of them have gotten in touch with me. This is my first day being unemployed in 3 years. My dad doesn’t really want to talk to me, he’s actually avoiding me quite a lot since it was his job I quit. He might even threaten to kick me out if I don’t find a job soon. Tomorrow I shall print my reseme and start going business to business applying to various job positions in person in hopes one will accept me. I guess I’ll just hope one will.
Thats all for now. My mom was watching this cute animal show when I got home and it had baby rhinos in it! 😮 it was the best thing ever! .. Imma go now.
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Sounds like trying out college was a good idea for you even though it was a tough decision, and trust me that it gets much much better over time as you really figure out where you want your life to go and you can take more specialized classes that are challenging yet extremely fun and interesting. Sucks about family life, that’s one of those things that’s hard to give perspective to if not in the situation. But try to persevere and usually industry jobs (bartenders and hostesses and waitresses) are conducive to that schedule. Not to offend you by any means, but this post was a bit off from the goal of the forum. I will never try to assume someone’s past or judge what they say, but for the most part I view this as a forum for people both seeking help and spreading insight on recovery and trying to help others in need. No offense to your post by any means, just seemed a bit off from th usual. I’m glad you’re doing so well and hope you continue to!
This post probably shouldn’t be here i agree with that. But i posted because there’s a lot of people i know on here who i think might be curious or interested in my life updates. And the event in this post actually do have many ties to depression and suicidal thoughts, i just didn’t mention any. More than anything, this was a hope post. For so long i was working a job i hated which made me depressed. and finally i stepped in, quit my job, and started pursuing what i love. I dont know where any of it will take me. Depression still exists. But for once, so does hope.
You inspired me man (chuckles)….haha i just realized that i say “man” a lot too. I’ve been thinking about playing the piano too. I’ve never had one. I’ve always had this strong urge to just get on one and start playing what I hear inside my head all the time. I feel weird about it because I feel i may not be welcomed due to being a complete amateur. Is it okay to start at 21 years of age?
Anyways I think it’s awesome how you just made a decision and didn’t hold back. That’s really something i admire about certain people. I have a hard time making decisions. Also it may be a good idea to see what this devin dude is all about. If he seems like a cool dude then it might be wise to keep kicking it with him. It’s rare to find people like him by the sounds of what you described. So many “friends” I’ve ran into only wanted my money and booze.
Hey there. It doesnt matter how old you are. Im the same age as you. Im actually in a class called jazz improv that specialized in playing what you hear in your head. That class is a little advanced as they expect you to know all major and minor keys 100 percent. But the other music classes im taking are literally just teaching what notes are currently. It’s completely fine going into college not knowing anything, just about every class they have force you to start with the basics anyways.
Im not really one to go and do things either. Im not very outgoing at all. It took me 3 years to quit my job i hated and go to college.