For some reason in the entire duration of my life girls never liked me . This was one of the main contributor for my depression getting worse. Animals sometimes ease my depression, but not always.
It sucks to be alone, forever alone, never feeling someone else’s love and have a depression on top of it all.
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Objectively speaking, if girls don’t like you, it’s not because of your looks. You look way better than I do.
I wish I knew why girls disliked me so much 🙁
Do you approach? Unfortunately, what I’ve found is despite all the moves forward in equality it’s still the man’s “job” to court a woman. If you don’t approach and talk to them then it’s simply unlikely to happen. Of course, this sucks if you have anxiety talking to anyone, let alone someone who can reject you. I agree with the person below, put yourself in atypical situations where you can meet women and then move slowly in getting to know them and then it may happen that a connection forms between you and them. That’s the only advice I can give. It’s not easy and some guys get all the girls while some of us, like you and me, struggle. It’s part of this unfair world.
Dude, I swear this works: volunteer at an animal shelter or rescue. Chicks galore. Hot chicks. Chicks who dig guys who dig animals. And there’s no competition because most guys are too busy acting like douchebags at bars & clubs trying to pick up women. Also if you volunteer, you’ll meet high quality girls & nice people in general. You’re a sharp lookin gent, you’ll have no problem finding someone you connect with on a deep level!
I’ll second Salts advice. I used to work at a shelter and am now volunteering there, not to meet women – I’m too old to give a rats ass about chasing tail anymore – but basically to avoid eating a bullet. It is an interesting environment, dominated by women. You care about animals, they could benefit from the time you spend there, the shelter will appreciate your help as most are non-profit and would have to close their doors were it not for their volunteer staff, and, yes, there are a lot of girls there. Animals, unlike humans, will not play games. You know where you stand immediately, or relatively-immediately. Huh? Anyways. You know what I mean! And since most shelters are mostly pro-dog, they can always use volunteers that dig cats.
“I used to work at a shelter and am now volunteering there, not to meet women – I’m too old to give a rats ass about chasing tail anymore – but basically to avoid eating a bullet.”
That’s the irony, isn’t it?? By the time you figure out that all the good women are at animal shelters, you’re either too old or too depressed to give a damn about gettin some.
But dating aside, that’s a great point you made about animal care being (one of the rare few areas) dominated by women, and it’s fantastic. A place where you can openly show your sensitivity & emotions, get down on the floor and roll around with pups & kitties, grin like a fool when one gets adopted or cry your eyes out when one gets put down… and this is all accepted with tremendous support from everyone around you. Because they’re all animal lovers (and quite often depressed) just like you.
I think there’s something about people who connect with animals, they cut through the social bs. Like you said, you know where you stand immediately. There are no posers at animal shelters (or they don’t last long), just a lot of genuine people. So it allows you to be the same.
If the picture of you and the cats ends up on social media, it will have lots of positive comments. Those comments will be from women who love cats, and who like men who aren’t intimidated by the fact they like cats. Those are girls and women you with whom you share a mutual interest, and many of them donate their time at shelters. Win -win -meowin.
Animals are great, my family’s owned cats and dogs. They’re nice to have around but they do require work and attention.
As for yourself, the key is to try to find someone who is in the same boat as you. Similar education, background, interests and so forth.
Then as others have suggested you have to approach girls and be ready for rejection. There are millions of people out there so there’s a good chance there’s a girl out there looking for someone like you.
You either have to try social media sites or go out in public. Hang out at malls for instance. I’ve seen many guys hitting on girls, getting numbers and so forth.
I’m single for now and while it’d be great to have gf, I have much bigger issues to deal with first. Once I have sorted them out then I’ll get out there and find her.
The fact that you are this good looking and love animals already makes you very desirable for girls I would say. You just need to socialize, talk to more girls and people in general. The animal shelter is a great idea. Trust me… The thought that girls never liked you is a big lie. Its all just in your head. I would bet all my money that you met (and will meet) plenty of girls that were super atracted to you but were too shy to tell you. As a guy you just always need to make the first moove. Its not fair but its just true. Girls probably think that you would see them as some kind of slut if they expressed their feelings for you first (which is totally stupid and not true but whatever). It is Just another example of a insecurity thats just in your head and doesnt make any sense. Also dont dwell on your lack of experience too much. I think most girls wouldnt care about that at all. After all love is not a thing that you can learn anyway in my opinion.
I have problems with girls too. I feel shy, insecure and just not worth it but I just need to get rid of that stupid attitude. I know its all just in my head. I am starting by quitting porn and masturbation in general. Its not gonna be easy but I just need to do it….
I can relate to the pets helping me out with depression to some extent it does help but I don’t have a girlfriend too shy to ask one out plus me I going through a drug education and rehab type thing to stay away from alcohol mainly, crack, cocaine, weed, and cigs-vaping, Benadryl for the suicide attempt which got me into the psych ward, mental, hospital, looney bin whatever you choose to call it which the negative becomes the positive where sure I got the help I needed but honestly now since I have “freedom again I still want to die from time to time this life of mine sure is great but me being dead seems more or less better.
But I hope everyone here gets better at some point even if I can’t be the one to help you end your suffering I just don’t have that power I am not a savior but I am one who needs to die so I don’t have suffer from myself or anyone else we all suffer some have it worse then me I am can respect mine is just the repititive nature of my own mental problems and genetic structure of existence I don’t understand why I can’t have the strength to surpass my own survival instincts to commit suicide I know when the panic sets on that is when the regret sets in but the reality is that me being dead is nothing more than a problematic solution to being a final solution.
I really want to know how I am going to die in this world 27 years old male with no girlfriend at the moment of this comment on SP yet I don’t think I will ever have that strength to do such thing ever again this is not a place for finding partners wish there was a place for such things for love with a girl who would take both our lives together so we could both die together in peace or a girlfriend who would want to cherish our lives together that maybe nothing more than a dream one that is not reality but only a dream.
Sorry for my ramble but back to the point I agree with the fact that yes pets could help allievate the pain of whatever suffering or art or whatever peaceful thing or action that helps with anyone’s suffering sure if I could end the suffering of others here I would as long as I am not the problem caused preceded to be the problem solver although death is probably something I truly desire but I am also afraid of dying or being dead because I attempted suicide only once which is not the same as actually committing suicide I know the difference maybe I just have an OCD towards suicide or maybe I really do have a death wish but may regret that if death in whatever form comes for me in some form of poetic way.