I can’t imagine what it is like to feel love for a human. I can think of noone that I could or would ever love. Not family, not friends, noone. Absolutely noone.
Sociopath? Is this what I am?
We toss around sayings like “You only have one family!”, and “Blood is thicker than water!”, yet I would have absolutely no problem walking away from my family and never speaking to them again. I’m single, no children, big surprise there. I’ve learned love from animals, and can’t imagine a human being who is worthy of that kind of intense emotion.
My mother was an irrelevant figure in my life. Consequently, I see no use for a female partner now as a grown man. I’ve been in many relationships, and only felt miserable and trapped in every single one.
My dad was distant and aloof. The best advice he ever gave me was “Brush your scalp twice a day and you’ll never lose your hair.” Seriously. That was his best offering to me.
Genetically, my folks gave me a lot. I won’t get into the details, but they were good people, and they passed along quite a bit, but in terms of being role models who instilled in me the ability to feel loved, or to feel love, they proved incapable. No doubt they simply passed along what they experienced, so to be angry at them is pointless.
I will never have children, which is the best gift I could ever give them.
Love.
Love for a human being.
What??? Why??? What a waste of time and energy. How do you even begin??
Chuckle.
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What do you replace love with, for humans with?
For me, it’s animals. Specifically my cats. I’ve learned what love is by caring for them for 8 years. I could never care for a human the same way.
What do you feel for people, what do you think about them?
I tolerate people. We all have to interact with one another, and I will be respectful and helpful towards other people, unless they just don’t deserve respect or tolerance, but I can honestly say I would never be able to “love” a human. I know I’m in the minority, that most people are capable of loving other people. It makes my skin crawl just thinking about telling someone “I love you.”
You’ve never been in love?
@tellmewhy – No. Not ever. I thought I was on a few occasions, but no, it wasn’t love. It was just me being needy and wanting someone to care about me, while I wasn’t willing to care about them.
Hi Once! I’m glad you have experienced love through animals. I can relate my dog taught me a lot about emotion. Animals are too good for this world.
Hey Atintofgreen. Animals are amazing. They live in the world as it is, as the world was intended to be lived in, if that makes sense. Granted, human animal owners can make life better for animals. But yeah, I’ve learned so many life lessons from these two cats. They have changed my life in ways no human has even come close.
Dogs are so full of joy and happiness. It’s crazy. What kind of dog do you have?
Had, he was a little one.
Humans are too scary to love.
@atintofgreen – Oh. Sorry. If we could bottle canine happiness and sell it. . . the world might be a different place.
Like Monsters Inc and the bottled up laughter
Yes. Humans are so unpredictable. We’re too complicated and devious.
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men, talking about love… how much more pathetic, does it get.
@ Bisban
As pathetic as you
How is that pathetic? ^ @bisban
Man, is not capable of deviation, by the way.
Thanks for your opinion, Bisban. And look – you actually composed a semi coherent sentence for once. I’m so used to things like “the sand of warp speed is blistering universally while astro spikes deem the unforgivable simpletons.” You should stick with what works, bizz.
How’s the weather..
How is your day Bisban?
Christ, now, or never. 2019.
Amen.
I am a family of one and PROUD of it, I’d never have it any other way, or doing so would be a waste of time. I’ve never needed anyone else and always have felt strongest on my own. I mean sure you might feel a bit of fondness (for example what you wrote about your father) but no one really measures up in reality, they are too flawed, they can only weigh you down.
We’re too abstract, humans. But don’t forget, we are animals too. I wish people would call them “other animals”. A matter of respect for both sides of that divide. My dearly departed dog…a better person than many, many humans. I always told him he was a better man than I. I didn’t chop his balls off…who would do that to their friend? Humans…taking the easy route, absolving their selves of liability and robbing their selves of love in the process. Who TF kills their friend when they get old and helpless? Humans do, to non-human animals they call their friends. My dog wouldn’t have done that. He killed himself…went out and partied on a Friday night, partly crippled but so in control of himself, then drowned. My friend found him frozen in the ice. I saw the piece go out when the river broke up. Best man I ever knew.
I can appreciate your sentiment towards animals. They are wonderful, and genuine. I believe there is a time that is appropriate to put them to sleep, and it is a decision based on the concept of mercy, and I wish it was also practiced with humans, regularly and often.
Sorry you had to experience what you did with your dog, that would’ve crushed me for a while.
I don’t miss not being able to love humans. . . .it seems so troublesome and risky. @cause-of-death-suicide , I totally get your family of one reference. Same here. When you can’t love people, you’re just kind of “alone”, so what choice do you have?
I personally have never known many people who are “in love” and also happy. The discussion usually centers on all the negative issues of the relationship, followed by a sigh, and a statement like “Well, things could be worse”, or “What can you do?”. It’s as though we feel that we MUST be experiencing love or we’re defective non-conformists.
I don’t get it. I can love animals, so at least I know I’m capable of the emotion. That will just have to do.
Fake it until you make it.
I know I can love because I’ve been in love, love, love with guns since I was very, very small. I always imagined ending my life like that, it’s too bad.