I been feeling like nothing is real all the time lately, i never had any frens and was disliked by people for being too serious all my life. My attempts to improve ended up here. Been trying to form a relationship with a guy I met online but still haven’t met in person. He has stopped responding to me and i think i said something wrong somehow.
I’m stuck at a shitty 3rd shift manual labor job and too scared to quit.
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Apply for better jobs, try to make friends with people at work but the key is to not look like you’re desperate for friends. Casually ask them out to lunch once or twice, but if they don’t go along or invite you, then just keep it professional with them.
Also keep in mind that people like to be friends with others who are confident, funny, outgoing. If you come across as depressed/needy then it could put them off. You need to be patient as well, it takes time to build trust, familiarity.
Not everything that goes wrong in a relationship is your fault. Other people have their own issues too, so if it doesn’t work out with one person move onto someone who will be your friend.
I used to have many contacts in high school but now it’s just a handful of people left in my life. So in time I plan to add more to my group in case I lose anyone. Good luck.
It sounds like someone I know could have wrote this. So I’ll say what I’d say to him. You have a job! That’s a great thing to have to be able to work if you don’t like it find another job secure it and then jump ships don’t jump in the sea w/o anything to catch you. I’m sorry about your friend if your making continued efforts and they aren’t responding then don’t hold that on you it’s him who isnt speaking to you maybe send a message every once in a while to see if he will ever come back. The whole 2 seriousness thing and no friends because of that well that happens there are differences that set ppl apart from each other and this might be the one for you just take a deep breathe and always leave that friend door open maybe one day someone will step through it and stay. Feeling like nothing is real I know they have certain “grounding” techniques for ppl like that on the web try some of those of they don’t work then keep trying until you find something that does. You got this.?
That question mark was suppose to be a heart still trying to figure out the site~~
I doubt I am someone you know. No one would have known all or most of this except for the guy in question. I havent spoken to or seen anybody from college or high school since graduating and no one there knew me this well anyway.
My job isnt actaully so bad i guess its just that many of the people that work there are awful, for example i found out the other day a guy i had been working alongside for months was a pedo and just got caught for kidnapping and abusing a kid for the second time. This same thing happened with a different guy a few months ago. People there routinely take advantage of my softness and not wanting to rock the boat by walking off and leaving me to do extra stuff for them. I confront them about it sometimes but the people in this place who cause me trouble seem to be ex convict types so being physically intimidating is not really a possibility when I never really been in a fight.
I’m pretty sure the guy stopped responding because of something i said. I hadn’t said anything insulting at all and i am not good enough at social skills to always be able to tell but i am sure i come off as needy/depressed because i am. The guy had told me just a few days ago that i shouldn’t feel bad for having no friends and that i was doing fine with him, then all of a sudden silence even tho i asked a question (i can see that he has read my measages on the app tho. The next day i asked him how he was doing just in case the last question i asked him had been an uncomfortable one or something, but got nothing back even after like 3 more days.) proving me completely correct in my judgement of myself. I would ask him what i did wrong as i still have at least one means of contact to him i know is open, but that would make me look even more clingy, so i won’t. The guy has avpd so i havent ruled out that he just didnt feel comfortable talking anymore, but he could just let me know as I havent asked him to do anything uncomfortable and he has been active online interacting with people since then. I am not capable of having real relationships with anybody and i would rather not try anymore, i always come off as a wet blanket and people leave as soon as they can see that. Thanks for the concern anyway, at least i got some folks to talk to on here that could be called friends in an abstract sense.
I am mostly over it, we hadnt ever met irl or anything i just wanted some closure from him so i could move on and not think about it. I dont think i am blocked but he still hasnt read the last message i sent, so he must have deleted the app.
Yeah I’m sorry about ur friend and I wouldn’t say giving up on friendships or anything it could happen I just wouldn’t hold your breath you know. Maybe you wanna try working at a new place anyway I mean lets say the work isn’t bad but like your coworker sucks though so that’s a good enough reason to leave.