im going to start with yes anyone can have depression but im going to be talking about the way people use the word “depression” and the things they complain about.
first the way they use it: “omg im sooooo depressed today” wrong. you are SAD. even better in most cases i find its not even sad its a tantrum because your mommy didnt get you that $2000 phone. if that is your biggest problem in life i dont want to hear it. im happy with a $20 phone that has so many cracks the screen is cutting your fingers (ok i broke the screen myself but i was happy with it. the phone itself still worked. thats good enough right?) By using the word in this sense it is taking away the meaning away from those who are actually depressed. (i guess that basically is both of the problems lol)
i know this person that is in college. and b****ing about it. i would love to go to college. i would love to learn more. it must be awesome to be able to afford that. so shut up and be grateful for once. or this other person that came to me saying she had to throw out a shirt because there was a small hole in it along the seam. instead of throwing out a perfectly good shirt take 2 seconds and fix it. there are people out there that cant go to college. that cant afford clothes let alone new ones. people this day in age only think about themselves. (no definitely not everyone) i find the more money you have the more you b****. what is with that? or am i alone? i know that if i had more money, enough that i could take care of myself with a bit left over, id help others out. it wouldnt be much but itd be something. id give someone without a home a sandwich. or maybe i have clothes that i dont want but are still good. why throw them out when someone else can use them? why are people wasting so much money on things they dont need or throwing stuff out thats still good?
i think i might have digressed lol. im really good at that some times. oops 😛 so where was i? right “fake depression”
i cant be the only depressed person out there that finds that annoying. and (ok a bit more touchy but ill try to explain it the best i can however if someone is offened id like to say ahead of time im sorry but i dont mean the way this is probably going to sound) this doesnt go under fake depression. it is stress. which i get and if someone is currently in this state and would like to explain it to me instead of just saying “thats mean” or im wrong” we can talk. but stress not depression. if you previously have depression then the stress starts to add up that makes sense. but im talking like everything is perfectly fine at first. and then you get laid off. fall behind on a bill. so on and so forth. why not make a list of priorities and start to fill in that hole instead of letting it just get bigger? the main reason im failing to understand it is…..lets start from the beginning. i got kicked out of my house. i got kicked out of school. my husband (friend at the time) almost went to jail. major debt. like he refused for years to even tell me the amount. my landlord picked the worse roofing company in town so you can guess how thats working out. the cats and dog going behind me and destroying everything after i work my ass off to clean it, EVERY TIME. maybe i just sometimes have a functioning depression or i just refuse to lose hope. i have no idea. but i have one problem after another andi just keep saying “its ok we’ll figure it out” and ive previously had depression before i even got kicked out of the house (btw i got kicked out for being an adult which im finding confusing). am i missing something? if i am please tell me. basically my point is yes things happen but instead of looking at it like “oh fuck i lost my job” why not find another job? literally every place in town here is looking to hire ANYONE but everyones complaining there is no work. thats awful you have to be a cashier instead of having your dream job. but when your down on money and falling behind on bills should that really matter.
again if that sounded b****y im sorry im just trying to understand things and im hopeful someone can explain. btw if you try to explain it will probably be met with a bunch of “but why” questions because when i want to know something i like to completely understand it instead of just agreeing and saying ok to something i still dont understand.
i think i digressed again but that first part explained it enough i feel.
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I don’t see “fake depression” as you call it as being a thing only very privileged people do, I attribute it mostly to the word depression having lost a lot of its bite and a lot of people do kind of just use it to describe sadness. Sadness is different than depression both do feel similar but one is just a temporary condition while the other really isn’t. But I’ve seen very non-privileged people do the “I’m so depressed thing omg.” thing too, which only slightly annoys me. I’m probably far less annoyed by it than most though just because I make it a point to never argue with a person about how they feel so I just quietly ignore it.
Depression from a privileged place does sort of seem weird, but depression makes no sense. I’m fortunate enough to be rather privileged and was able to go to college (wasted like 5 years at college and I have nothing to show for it but also no debt) and currently don’t have to work in a soul-crushing job that I can’t handle but I’m still miserable and hate life, and understanding that my life is great compared to most people alive right now makes me feel even worse that I hate it…. However I’ve also never thrown a fit about my parents not buying me something either, even when I was young…. I did once throw a fit about going to McDonald’s once after a thing when we normally went to burger king instead but that was when I was 8 or so and it was really jarring, and I do still feel horrible that I even did that.
It’s weird though and I know it is. Although I do find it even more strange that it’s possible to not be depressed because things are horrible, I see so many things that I really wish I could change and I know I can’t so I don’t even try, and I understand that not trying is not helping and people if everybody just decided to give up nothing would ever improve…. But I don’t care enough to even try. -_-
I’m sorry if this is upsetting or too rambly or completely missed a point somewhere.
too rambly no. missed the point no. upsetting no. i get the privileged and depressed thing thats why i said anyone can have depression. something horrible could have happened to them. their parents could hate them or just argue with each other all the time and thats all they see. their parents could expect too much of them. but i mean on general terms. that mcdonalds thing, you were 8 too be expected so i dont count that however its things like that that makes it so when kids reach about the age of 7-9 i lose interest in them because i find its all me me me me with them and most parents this day in age dont correct that. they just hand it over to shut them up. yep let them think they can have whatever by complaining that helps them and the rest of society. good job mom and dad (maybe i was just told no about everything i asked when i was little so thats why im like this. idk but i still feel its a good point)
to expand on the sad and depressed feels the same….i do have to disagree on that one. when im sad i just feel….blue. when im depressed i feel like theres a black hole inside pulling me. basically sad is skin deep and will heal but depression (for me anyway) is a come and go thing that lasts FOOOOOOREVER. of course over the past few years ive developed a rather entertaining mood disorder. basically at this point my happy makes me sad because i know its just another fucked up part of this depression of a hell im in.
I did say similar not the same :p (might have said same somewhere maybe though I was rather tired) but sadness at least for me does have some of the same tones just a lot lighter and is lacking the whole cold hopeless feeling of never being able to enjoy things that depression comes with. Sad is like a sampling plate of depression sort of with only the least bitter flavors included, and only in very small quantities…. That’s at least kind of how I see it, I’m honestly not sad very often. But I can understand why people seem to get the two confused. Just like how my father seems to think that anxiety is just being stressed -_- Since when he found out I was prescribed medication for anxiety his question was “What has you so stressed out?” >.>
I’m really not very fond of children in general, I can start to tolerate them at around 11 or so though, before that they are far too much for me. I do try to be kind to them still, but I will avoid them as much as possible.
I actually am not around any privileged people, and when I was ,you know rich families, where the kids got everything, there life all became tragic they couldn’t deal with the real world, I was never a privileged person but I did work hard all my life, which was mostly tragic due to my own stupidity, I left on my own at 18 and never went back, I look around me and feel sorry for everyone. Depression is really strange, I see people depressed really over nothing and wonder why after what I’ve been through, Depression is a sickness and can strike anyone, even those who I think shouldn’t be, making mountains out of mole hills.
I don’t believe in the idea of normal people, normal to me means another fxxxxx up person. I’m not disagreeing with you and I am agreeing with you, nothing is black and white and everyone is ill in the head! Me included.
Still nothing on spookichick?
Nope not a thing.