Advice? Ive always had a strong stance towards change. I never wanted someone to change because of me. Its my problem not yours. You shouldnt have to change who you are because of me. Is mental illness different? Lately ive been thinking about leaving my husband because we are 2 different people. Where as my temper gets set off because someone decided to “step on my toes” his will get set off by the stupidest little things like someone walked out in front of him. I understand why. He explained it to me. But i grew up being yelled at and now when theres anger around me even when i know igs not directed at me it can upset me. Example. One day in gr4 someone in class did something (i remember what it was i jist feel its not important to the story) we had to stay in everyday until someone admitted to doing it. And everyday the teacher raised her voice. And i would put my head on my desk and cry. I didnt do anything. The teacher even said that to everyone who didnt do it she was sorry but i still cried. Hes offered to change his anger. And he is trying. But ive never ever wanted someone to change because of me. Is it ok to allow someone to change because you are mentally broken? Thats your problem not theirs.