Is it just me or whenever you try to be transparent about what you’re feeling to someone it always ends up being about them like
“I feel like shit” and they be like “Sorry I’m useless”
“I want to die” and they be like “It’s upsetting me, stop”
Lol.
So in the end you just have to say sorry
Apologize for trying to be real with your feelings
Apologize for not being considerate enough to think about them
Fucking crabs
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Even when people die, others make it about them. Our society has convinced everyone that It Is a lot easier to be self absorbed and make even others pain about themselves or just to avoid things that are heavy all together. Because admitting mental illnesses like depression and anxiety are real would mean they would have to be held accountable for their words and more aware of how they act.
That’s why everyone comes here. Only people who understand how it feels seem to be empathetic and supportive. Two half empty glasses can make one full one.
I have often wondered why the survivors start telling accolades about the deceased suicide. I have seen the deliberate departure of one family member and three workmates. Right up to the day they offed themselves they looked like they were just going about their lives. None of them stood out in stark contrast to the rest of us during the time I knew them. They did not “light up the room, etc, etc.”
It’s because no one wants to focus on the negativity and no one wants to reminisce about a sad soul or someone who was going through the motions of their life.
Society has created this unsaid rule that we celebrate every life regardless and uphold this positive light of people that are now gone. It is unfortunate because where is all of that love and support for victims before hand? And at the end of the day those praises and comments are empty.
This is a good explanation from beginning to end. This stimulated my thinking.
The “unsaid rule” is denial based when the deceased died of a broken heart.
The love and support, postmortem, seems somehow really for the survivors to help them in two ways at least: Focus on the “celebration” so as to avoid feeling loss and to avoid admitting just how painful life can be.
if only i can like a comment