Long story short been fighting mental illness for a long time, was in a bad relationship for over 10 yrs finally broke it off and decided to get out there. Well i started talking to this girl and she gets me like no other, really we have all the same interests well after our first date we were texting the next day and all of the sudden she stopped texting and won’t answer calls,i never got the feeling that i did or said something wrong just out of nowhere. I don’t know what to do now, I’ve been on the search for real love my entire life and it finally seems like i found my true love but now she’s silent. Do i show up randomly at her place to see what’s up? I can’t take any more heartbreak all i want out of life is to find real love, but the fucking universe can’t even give me that. Im so tired of fighting and when it seems like I can get a break it’s always taken away from me
That’s a struggle. I’m sorry and I’ll offer what I have but really it’s probably not the best. My relationship started out far from ordinarily and it’s a wonder it’s lasted so long, so my advice is not firsthand.
Sometimes people need space. Maybe she is trying to figure out how she feels about you too. I would give her a day or two or three and then maybe ask her for another date. Let her know you’re thinking about her and possibly even get her a SMALL gift, a candy bar or soda maybe, and stop by. Don’t be too attached but show you do like her.
On the self harming: After 7 years I have recently relapsed back into self harming and frankly, if you can help it, I recommend against it. I heard a good quote recently that really explains why I say that, not verbatim but basically- self harm is a love hate relationship and while you love it and hate it for so many reasons most people will not love both you and your self harm. The concern that it causes is stressful to the relationship. So please avoid it if you can.
I don’t want to go back to self harming, I’m just now getting reacquainted with my emotions because i shut them down for so long. Now after this it’s just too much for my heart to take, there’s too much pain in there again. That’s why i want to cut or burn so i can feel it though i know it’s bad
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Let’s talk. I/we are here to listen and if we have no good advice we will commiserate or offer our ear.
Like Abnormal.Thoughts said…we are here.
Long story short been fighting mental illness for a long time, was in a bad relationship for over 10 yrs finally broke it off and decided to get out there. Well i started talking to this girl and she gets me like no other, really we have all the same interests well after our first date we were texting the next day and all of the sudden she stopped texting and won’t answer calls,i never got the feeling that i did or said something wrong just out of nowhere. I don’t know what to do now, I’ve been on the search for real love my entire life and it finally seems like i found my true love but now she’s silent. Do i show up randomly at her place to see what’s up? I can’t take any more heartbreak all i want out of life is to find real love, but the fucking universe can’t even give me that. Im so tired of fighting and when it seems like I can get a break it’s always taken away from me
And have a very big urge to go back to self harming because shit like this makes feel worthless…WTF??A WHY DOES THIS SHIT HAPPEN?
That’s a struggle. I’m sorry and I’ll offer what I have but really it’s probably not the best. My relationship started out far from ordinarily and it’s a wonder it’s lasted so long, so my advice is not firsthand.
Sometimes people need space. Maybe she is trying to figure out how she feels about you too. I would give her a day or two or three and then maybe ask her for another date. Let her know you’re thinking about her and possibly even get her a SMALL gift, a candy bar or soda maybe, and stop by. Don’t be too attached but show you do like her.
On the self harming: After 7 years I have recently relapsed back into self harming and frankly, if you can help it, I recommend against it. I heard a good quote recently that really explains why I say that, not verbatim but basically- self harm is a love hate relationship and while you love it and hate it for so many reasons most people will not love both you and your self harm. The concern that it causes is stressful to the relationship. So please avoid it if you can.
I don’t want to go back to self harming, I’m just now getting reacquainted with my emotions because i shut them down for so long. Now after this it’s just too much for my heart to take, there’s too much pain in there again. That’s why i want to cut or burn so i can feel it though i know it’s bad