So this doesn’t apply as much to you young folks, bc you still have a chance. But for us single middle age folk- if we haven’t been able to find a suitable person to want to be with us by now, what chance is that going to happen in the next 5 years? or even 10 years (although at that point we’re getting pretty fucking old).
There’s the “left over” theory- ie those that are good quality men and women, get snatched up early. Those who are left, well, they’re not really desirable- people who are poor, ugly, disabled, depressed, unmotivated, unproductive, not smart, etc. Who would want someone who’s depressed when they can have someone who ISN’T depressed? Who would want someone poor when they can have someone at least middle income? Who would want someone who is always moaning about life vs someone who can go out and have fun and laugh and enjoy shit? Or just someone who could hold down a job?
So if someone is middle age and still single- what hope is there that we can meet someone GOOD quality our age? If they are single, then they are in the left over category too, meaning they also have issues, and thus not “good quality”?
And 2 ppl with issues is NOT a good combo. I’ve seen them get together IRL and it’s a shitstorm if someone who is bipolar is with a schizo or whatever label they are.
Yes, while I know I, myself, am in the “left over” category, I still want someone normal and stable, bc otherwise why would I want to be with someone who’s just as fucked up as me? I need stability, normality, love. But what normal stable person wants me? I am left with only other “leftovers”