yeah sorta? I’m not sure.. When I’ve been in relationships we were always pretty inseparable and it worked out great. But something broke inside me and now I just want to be alone and cant stomach the idea of being ‘inseparable’. I know thats the mental disorder talking. The reaction to prolonged solitude is to get used to it, embrace it even, crave it. And i think thats kinda fucked up. but its not like we have a choice.
I’ve never been in a relationship, so I have no frame of what it’s like. I’ve always just been alone. It’s always been easier that way. Sad but easier.
yeah, I’m married… and yes she is very nice, though also additional work, honestly I need that work to stay sane, relatively sane.
I like to have time for myself, and she knew that before we started the relationship. I do sometimes think about who I’d be outside of this relationship, but at the moment that just looks like me being entirely alone. I wouldn’t want another romance after this. Part of that being this is my second marriage, the other being that I just don’t have any more energy to allocate to romance at this point in my life.
It definitely felt like a meaningful relationship would make the pain go away, when I was single. Now I know the pain comes from somewhere else. The pain is less, but it isn’t going away, not that easy.
Not to be an insulting analogy; my dogs make life easier for me, they make me want to try even when I want to give up. So I love my dogs. Even so, sometimes I wonder what I’d be without them. My dogs cut significantly through part of my pain, but they don’t take it all away. Share the load.
“Not to be an insulting analogy; my dogs make life easier for me”
–>So while your wife is nice and you guys get along- is it a loving and fulfilling relationship? or it’s one you settle for? Just trying to understand ppl who are in relationships and are still unhappy. Like I get if someone who settles for someone who is “good enough” isn’t fully happy. But if someone found the “right” one and they are the one they want to be with- if someone is the right one, is there still going to be a void in one’s life and depression?
Genuine question bc I see so many people in relationships who still feel lonely/alone/or depressed and i don’t understand it.
Like for me, I’ve only met TWO ppl in my whole life who I really wanted to be with, and if I settle for someone, I know I wouldn’t be happy. I’d be less depressed if I had someone “good”, and probably would still be very depressed if they are just “decent.” I know I won’t feel truly happy unless I’m with someone who truly understands me. And that is hard as fuck to find.
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yeah sorta? I’m not sure.. When I’ve been in relationships we were always pretty inseparable and it worked out great. But something broke inside me and now I just want to be alone and cant stomach the idea of being ‘inseparable’. I know thats the mental disorder talking. The reaction to prolonged solitude is to get used to it, embrace it even, crave it. And i think thats kinda fucked up. but its not like we have a choice.
I’ve never been in a relationship, so I have no frame of what it’s like. I’ve always just been alone. It’s always been easier that way. Sad but easier.
yeah, I’m married… and yes she is very nice, though also additional work, honestly I need that work to stay sane, relatively sane.
I like to have time for myself, and she knew that before we started the relationship. I do sometimes think about who I’d be outside of this relationship, but at the moment that just looks like me being entirely alone. I wouldn’t want another romance after this. Part of that being this is my second marriage, the other being that I just don’t have any more energy to allocate to romance at this point in my life.
It definitely felt like a meaningful relationship would make the pain go away, when I was single. Now I know the pain comes from somewhere else. The pain is less, but it isn’t going away, not that easy.
Not to be an insulting analogy; my dogs make life easier for me, they make me want to try even when I want to give up. So I love my dogs. Even so, sometimes I wonder what I’d be without them. My dogs cut significantly through part of my pain, but they don’t take it all away. Share the load.
“Not to be an insulting analogy; my dogs make life easier for me”
–>So while your wife is nice and you guys get along- is it a loving and fulfilling relationship? or it’s one you settle for? Just trying to understand ppl who are in relationships and are still unhappy. Like I get if someone who settles for someone who is “good enough” isn’t fully happy. But if someone found the “right” one and they are the one they want to be with- if someone is the right one, is there still going to be a void in one’s life and depression?
Genuine question bc I see so many people in relationships who still feel lonely/alone/or depressed and i don’t understand it.
Like for me, I’ve only met TWO ppl in my whole life who I really wanted to be with, and if I settle for someone, I know I wouldn’t be happy. I’d be less depressed if I had someone “good”, and probably would still be very depressed if they are just “decent.” I know I won’t feel truly happy unless I’m with someone who truly understands me. And that is hard as fuck to find.