It seems those who are depressed are masters of self destruction. That apparently goes for me and I gather for some of you here as well.
First by being passive: depressed = no energy and no oomph to go after things / make changes / do stuff that improves one’s life. Now, it’s not that we want to be depressed, that’s just the nature of depression. When you don’t have the will to live nor the anticipation of a rainbow and a better life, one doesn’t have the will to push through to make the changes one needs to improve one’s life.
Then you push everyone away, either purposely or subconsciously, bc a lonely life is better than disappointment and heartbreak isn’t it? Then you shut yourself off from the world.