not suicide related
Just wanted to say it, and no I’ve not recently left/had someone leave a relationship with me (aka breakup)… Just remember that people can and do leave others just because they feel like it, and they’ll make an excuse to ‘soften the blow’ for you. But of course that won’t work and you’ll be left hurting and aching for a long time anyway. I know someone who was ghosted.
Imagine spending months or years on someone just for them to LEAVE! Look I’m sure many lives are greatly improved by a seemingly good relationship, but remember that this ‘good’ relationship can change at any time.
I just think its something that people ought to know.
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*shrug* seems like a good idea at a time. I lost the ability to believe a relationship is any kind of safe after my divorce at age 21. 14 years later, the whole not trusting in relationships lasting any longer than today seems to be working for me. For the last decade I’ve been in a surprisingly stable relationship. I think it kills jealousy and many other issues that I’ve been upfront with my partner; you want to leave? go.
so she has to actively choose to stay, and I feel good that she signed up for this. I don’t know if it’s healthy, but I don’t know if there is such a thing as a relationship that’s healthy once all the facts of it are known. Our close couple friends are a little codependent, but they make it work and it’s kinda sweet.
but it’s better to be alone than to be in a sick relationship. Both people have to be committed to it, and if that isn’t there, get out quick.
Why do some people seek a relationship? I could tell you why I’d want one. To feel love, to feel wanted, someone to cuddle with, someone to connect to, and ect. Also someone i could hold on to during my worse days and have someone to help me get through what this awful world has to brings. I could keep going on, but you did make some good points. Yes it’s true they could leave you at anytime and they could betray you. Is it worth the risk? I’d say yes and no for that. Still though, having someone in your life could do wonders to a person. Everyone is different though. I’m more of the lovey dovey guy. I know others can be the opposite. Those would be my reasons why I’d want someone. I’ve been in a few relationships. None of them last, but just knowing I had someone really brought me up and made me feel like the luckiest guy in the world. There was no depression or sadness during those days usually other than the break up and fights. I feel that we should love ourselves first before stepping into a relationship because if we don’t, then the person leaving could break us and make us feel worse.
You mean aside from the fact that humans require love, acceptance and socialization? While it’s true the younger generation (you zennials and some millennials) view relationship as “temporary” till “i get bored” or “i find someone better,” for us older generations, relationships were longer lasting. Believe it or not, there are millions of couples who have been together for decades. The older generations don’t view relationships as fleeting as current the younger generations.
The older generations don’t view relationships as fleeting as the current younger generations do*
Being alone your whole life sucks. Someone you love breaking up with you also sucks. Which sucks more…? Down to individual preference I guess?