Not suicide related
My new friend told me the other day that ‘I remind him of his abusive ex’ and apparently I look like her on some angles, and I have some mannerisms and sort of act like her in some ways.
We seem to have a good time together when we spend time together (although that’s limited because we both live rurally and 1-1 and a half hours away depending on the route taken).
But I feel like I’m just traumatizing him with my existence, unfortunately. Who would want to be with someone who reminds them of an abusive ex?
He said it’s his problem not mine though.
I wish I looked different, and acted differently 🙁
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Hey Wisp I don’t want to throw water on it if you really like the guy, but wow that seems like a crappy thing to say to someone: “you remind me of my abusive ex” WTFFf??
He got one thing right, that’s all his problem. And imo he needs to keep his trap shut until he can work it out because that’s just hurtful. Please don’t blame yourself for any of his issues. He’s projecting onto you. Just be yourself, loud & proud, and if that reminds him of his failures then boo hoo for him.
Yeah it was very hurtful. I did talk to him about it and he admitted he shouldn’t have said that and that he was sorry.
I’m going easy on him as he was born with a cognitive disability (I should’ve put this in my main post, but I wasn’t sure whether to put that there or not – I didn’t want to look like that I’m ‘shaming’ him for his disability).
It’s not a severe cognitive disability, it just affects the way he thinks a bit and other things. (his words….)
But he does really EMPHASIZE that he really needs to deal with this problem of me reminding him of his ex.