Don’t you wish we could go back in time and do things differently? And mot make the “mistakes” that we made?
Instead of prioritizing education/work/career, we could have prioritized having fun, relaxing, finding our soulmates, and just living life.
Well, that’s just ONE of the things I’d do differently.
We were duped. Lied to. And we believed career was a ladder instead of a hamster wheel, a rat race we are doomed to run around in.
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I don’t know anymore, because time has shown me I was wrong about so much. I dated girls when I was younger that I thought were rich, for example, and when I was younger I thought “Oh if I had just stuck with dating rich girls I could have hung onto rich daddy’s coat tails and I would have had it made in life”
You know what I found out later in life? Those families weren’t that rich, any more than mine anyway. “Rich” daddy is now dead, and if those rich girls hadn’t of been really smart and gone to school and charted a much better path in life than me, they’d be suffering just as much as I am.
The EXACT same thing goes for picking the wrong career. I thought for a long time I would have done better in engineering. But I know people in engineering, it’s not looking any better for them in this economy either. There AREN’T any good careers, it’s about attaching yourself to the right people, the right companies, and I don’t know where you learn that, no one I’ve ever met has figured that out.
The only solid regret I have is marrying my ex wife, she was a mistake, we spent something like $10,000 on the wedding alone and for what? for her to fuck someone else and run out on me. She didn’t love me, she loved the idea of who she could turn me into.
I mean at least she’s getting a happy ending, she’s got three kids with some other man now, she’s got her grad degree and a career, life works out great for awful people. She even got out of Oklahoma, everything I wanted, she got.
Yet she has the gall to demand money from the sale of my house that I’ve been stuck in for 17 years because she didn’t have the guts to stick around and be responsible, to live with the consequences of her actions. *****.
I hope there’s a special place in hell for people like her because I can’t believe that she’ll never face a hint of accountability for running out on everything she promised to do.
Lucky for you, she has no Legal claim To the proceeds of the house once you sell it.
Why does she think half of the house is hers?
It would be great to have a Do Over knowing what we know now, but it wouldn’t change a whole lot in the direction of my life. I would definitely be smarter and more careful in my choices, but the choices would remain the same.
Even though I’d have a way better life if I took the selfish route, kept my high paying unethical job working for the fucking military, partying with asshole friends (and joining the club), it would eventually creep me out and I’d dump it all. I’d end up right back here, thinking too much about the shittiness of the world and what I should be doing about it. And if I can’t do anything then planning my suicide. Nothing would change that.
Money and distractions might delay it a bit, giving me more happy days than miserable ones. But I’d always end up in misery and suicide so why not cut to the chase.
I would definitely change my life, by loads. Which is why I’m so pissed life had to throw me all those lemons.
Nay, rocks. Life threw me a bunch of jagged rocks while giving others a wooden spoon (middle class) and silver spoon (rich).
Hell, growing up I didn’t even have a pair of shoes without holes. And I only had 3 pairs of old raggedy socks that I had to cycle throughout the week -_-
Yeah, MY life would be so different if I could go back and change it.
Lol you have an even more “doomed” perspective than me. For me, having money and being in a different environment would definitely alter my life, especially my childhood.
And also, I’d tell myself to NOT FUCKING TRUST PPL!
Hell, if I could go back in time,
1- I’d tell myself what stocks to buy (tho that wouldn’t change my childhood)
2- I’d have to tell my younger self some things to change to change my childhood
3- I’d definitely do adulthood differently
4- I’d give my younger self a book on narcissists and to watch out for USERS and fake ppl, which are 99% of the population
Ok fine that’s a lot of changes but I’d have to go back to pretty early in life if I want my life to be different.
But fuck. I’m old and what are the chances that life would actually get better? Im nearly half a fucking century. Do I have any fucking chance anymore?
-_-
Who says you have to take the selfish route? What if you were born in a Scandinavian country instead? Just being born a different country will drastically alter one’s life. Who is the say growing up in Sweden you would still be depressed and miserable?
I think so many Americans are miserable because of how shitty America is, and how shitty Americans are. Just being in a different country, a better country makes a huge difference.
I’m not saying in YOUR particular case you’d be better off. Maybe you’d still be a miserable lost cause. But chances are, most people will be very different having grown up in a different country, with different peers, different classmates, different friends, different societal “engines,”
Aka less of the “fuck you” predatory capitalist structures in place
I put a lot of blame on America, (the systems in place to keep the poor and minority down), shitty Americans, as well as my shitty family.
If I was born in a Scandinavian country, Or grew up in one, or living in one currently, I’d probably have a better life.
Hell, at this point, I’d settle for even Canada. Yes Canada still has lots of issues and it’s not great now, but it’s still Loads better than the US of fucking A.
No guarantee I wouldn’t have issues, I still might. But it can’t be worse than the life I’ve had and currently have. Statistically, and logically, I’d be MUCH better off.
you know, growing up, they were all these Sally Struthers adopt a child commercials as a kid. And every day, I wish I was adopted by a nice middle class white family. I literally wished for that.
I mean obviously not all middle class white families are happy, clearly. But odds are, I’d have been MUCH better off.
I grew up watching all those documentaries about all these minorities from 3rd world countries getting adopted by middle class and well to do white families. Obviously not every single one of them are doing well, but most of them are. Most of them did have really good fucking lives with their adoptive parents.
Adoption is not easy process, so the people who really really wanted to adopt foreign children, we’re generally “good” people or at least people who really really wanted to have children. Unlike my parents where I was born the third daughter. In my culture being born a daughter is a horrible sin. And being a THIRD daughter is worse than dirt.
And yes, I still wish I had been adopted by a better family to this day.