I could be happy if I was in better circumstances
-living in a better apt/city/state/country.
-had enough money to never have to worry. Money = freedom
-if I had a purpose and knew what my purpose was
-if I found my “soul mate” and we’re having a great life together
-if my health improves
That’s basically the 4 things everyone needs in life to be happy:
-money
-purpose
-love
-health
Missing any of that and you’ll be depressed.
Everyone here is missing one of those things.
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Do you think maybe a person could survive with money, purpose & health but no love?
I kinda had that for a while and it seemed to work, but things eventually fell apart and I’m wondering if it was the lack of love. That would kinda suck because some of us are so damaged that we’re literally unlovable. Not saying that lightly, I think some people are just too messed up for anyone else to handle, literally beyond hope. The movie Leaving Las Vegas is about that, and although it’s fiction it a little too real.
Survive? Yes. Definitely. I did that and accomplished a lot with- no money and no love- but I had my health and I had purpose.
But can one be HAPPY without love? Well, that’s a different question. If you have purpose, you kind of have “self love” to some extent. If you have purpose and a strong drive- One can be “happy enough “in the short term without love- as long as you THINK you will find love at some point. But the purpose take precedence.
Usually, one finds “love” when they’re out doing things, not staying home isolated and depressed.
I had such a strong determination to succeed and get out of my shit situation as a kid. I had no money and no love, but I had ME. and that was enough bc I believed in myself. “Me” and “I” fueled every success and accomplishment. If I hadn’t gotten sick, and if I hadn’t been in the grips of a narcissist who completely and purposefully shattered my self-confidence, I probably would be having a pretty decent life right now.
It’s sad to think one tiny change and my life would be so different. I ALMOST fucking made it out. I mean, I DID make it out. But I fell victim to a POS narcissist. And that was after my first car accident that did my health in. AND on top of that, I couldn’t get a damn dr to actually do anything about my health back when I could’ve been “saved.”
Fucking shitty ass drs. I went to several- PCPs are the WORST. And back then, you couldn’t just book an appt to a specialist- depending on state, you were forced to see a PCP to get a referral for EVERYTHING. and these PCPs wouldn’t refer me for a goddamn thing.
screwed upon screwed. maybe the universe really does want to fuck with me. bc no matter what i did, no matter how much i accomplished, i was always ensnared by evil narcissists, and had hundreds- yes hundreds- of shitty ass drs that never did anything to help, as well as being victim to chronically bad luck.
Anyway, I digress. But one CAN be happy enough with money purpose and health. When you have purpose, you have some modicum of self-love. and that is enough to keep someone going. self-love is way more important than outside love. i mean obviously, we’d want both. but if no outside love, inner love (or some degree thereof) is enough fuel, IF you have purpose/drive. I had it once. I was “fine” back then.
Everything fell apart when
1- I realized life was bullshit
2- I realized school/jobs/meritocracy/hard work was bullshit
3- When I got sick
4- I realized ppl are selfish and only there to get something FROM you, that most friends are NOT real friends. not by a longshot.
I don’t think I am beyond hope- I just need 2 things- enough money so I can be free to do what I want to do and live where I want to live- and someone who loves, supports and believes in me (physically, emotionally, etc).
If I had those 2 things- then my health would improve.
If I had those 3 things- I wouldn’t be so depressed.
Whether I’d be fully “happy” is another thing. Especially since my health cannot be “fully” healed. But I wouldn’t be so fucking miserable and depressed. That’s for fucking sure.
I agree, we definitely need these things and more.