If you have the time I’d appreciate your thoughts on the following extracts by writer Matthew Parris:
“When I die, and if I have to arrange it myself, I will consult nobody, and do it unassisted if I can. I entertain not a flicker of moral or practical doubt on the subject, and never have. Speaking only for myself — in such matters one should never judge for others — if Nature does not do the job in a timely manner I shall consider it a duty to take matters into my own hands.
I can’t tell you how simple I find these arguments: so simple that I’ve hardly bothered to write about the issue. Suicide is the greatest of human freedoms, underwriting all the others, for it gives us the possibility of defying every thing and every one there is. The possibility of suicide is what makes life voluntary and each new day an act of will. No wonder the faith community gnash their teeth at suicide. God Himself, if He existed, would gnash His teeth at suicide: the supreme act of defiance, the final rasberry. The knowledge that I’m here by choice, that every breath I take I take by choice, injects into my soul a transcendent joy”
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“Is suicide not the greatest of all tokens of the primacy of the human will ? How shall a man ever demonstrate with more finality that he is the captain of his soul, the master of his ship, than by taking it by his own choice on to the rocks ? Self-inflicted death is the ultimate defiance, the one freedom in your life and mine which nothing and nobody – not even God – can take away…. I have never contemplated suicide and hope I never shall. But to know that I can — to know that tomorrow I too could make that splendid, terrible two-fingered gesture to creation itself is more than life-enhancing: it is sublime”
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Two questions if I may:
1) Do you believe Parris is right when he says that suicide is….. ‘the ultimate defiance’?
I think he has a valid point.
Perhaps if one sees life, for whatever reason, as having an unbearable ‘thing’ an entity, something you continually battle with, then you could be said to be defying it — ultimately, you are saying…. ‘I don’t have to live you’.
Also, it would seem to me that suicide can perhaps be the most rational and logical of acts. The will to live comes from instinct and emotion, hardly something that should be given over to as a matter of course. They are there as evolutionary processes, a process not known for its compassion or rationality.
2) Do you object to any of this?
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I think Parris said clever things. I dont think it’s “ultimate defiance” because is it ultimat defiance of life? Ultimate defiance of life is to deny that life ever was. And to reverse it. And never to be born. Kind of. Not I dont have to live you. Because for so.e time you have. So it’s more like dont have to live you anymore. And well, its not like anyone’s is forcing someone to live.
However I think that suicide is final option if you dont really want to be there. And its good option.
Parris reminded me of Herman Hesse by the way.
Personally i object.
Ever since i can remember i have felt like this life wasn’t meant for me in a way, that i don’t value it enough and that if i died tomorrow it wouldn’t matter much.
I don’t think suicide for MYSELF would be about defiance but i get how others would believe that.
My suicide would be about life long pain, suffering and the need to leave because i never wanted to be here anyway. It is such a cruel place.
Also, i am an atheist so i wouldn’t have any guilt or feelings towards the rebellious defiance Parris is talking about, by what you have said it seems that he was speaking in a religious frame of mind and so i cannot relate.
Hope this helps