He left me for a 16 year old. together for 5 years. been through everything imaginable. He asked if I would be okay dating him if he was with her too. He wants two girlfriends. says he can’t lose me but he’s going to pursue her. He even shows me the sweet texts they send each other.
I said I would be okay with it.
I would be the other girl. as long as he paid more attention to me.
It’s been two days and he hasn’t called or returned my texts. So I’m done now. I was not in the mental state to be able to accept this.
I think I snapped. I think I went insane. Nothing matters to me anymore. I refuse to feel emotion. I will not eat anymore. I’ll starve until it kills me. at least ill be thinner than her when I die. But ill never get back what means the most to me.
By the way, were both 22. He left me for a sophomore in High School. She’s 16. I bet she’ll tar him to prom. oooh how lovely.
I think ill be dead before that can happen.
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he is an ass.
dont punish yourself because he is an ass. THANK him for getting out of your life and now go find a real man who will stay with you.
agreed with uselessme there is someone out there better for you! as the saying goes things happen for a reason. Be strong not just for yourself but to show him that you don’t need him in your life! if you can’t feel it FAKE IT. There is nothing much thrilling than when you show a man you are strong without him!! <3
The guy sounds like a real winner!
The concern I have for you is why you would agree to be the other woman or second woman
You know it takes 25 years before the brain fully develops so the feelings you have today are not likely be how you feel in a few years.
Hope… Reaize that youre on a planet full of people that are looking for someone to love them back too. Seriously, hes a pedophile. Call the cops then call your beautician. Now that you dont have this bastard problem, you can freely go find the guy that is looking for someone exactly like, even… you. Be happy, lady.
That suuuucks. And as everyone has said, he’s a jerk. He “asked” you if it was okay for him to pursue her but already decided he was going to anyway regardless of what you said? Real considerate. And why show you the texts?! That’s just fucking cruel. Some people can handle flexible or poly relationships… but from what I’ve seen, not many. (*I* sure as hell can’t) He messed you up, now he’s going to mess up this teenage girl… I hope you’re strong enough to tell him to fuck off if he comes crawling back (and he probably will, if he doesn’t want to “lose” you and you don’t put up with his bullshit). I wish you didn’t feel the need to hurt yourself because of the pain he’s caused you.
When I was 22, my 25-year-old bf left me for a 42-year-old. And not even a HOT 42-year-old. She looked at least 50. And she was one year older than his own mother (who, granted, had him very early in life). Plus she was a *****. I think I would have rather had him leave me for a 16-year-old who was sweet and innocent and babyfaced than an old hag (ack, I’m now much closer to her age tho :\). …well, I hope that amused you for a few seconds. Hang in there <3
Does seem like this guy is an asshat with highschool issues. Someone who never got over the highschool life/hotties/general drama. Unless you were certainly poly-amorous you probs shouldn’t have agreed. Also 2 days without contact is a tad extreme to be declaring suicide for. Even in revenge.
You could just live and accept the fact that he is distracted with a new toy. And move on from there. Either explore poly-amory if your comfortable with it (thus getting on the bandwagon) or don’t. He does sound like a jerk with no tact and you can do better. This pain your feeling could be put to better uses perhaps not suicide.
I hope it goes well regardless.