If this is how humans live on this planet, I don’t want to be part of it.
My conscience says that our life can be way better. Each human that sprouts on this earth is special. And has right to get all things that human race developed till now. But it’s not happening.
The first and foremost one must do ” strive for intelligent human beings on earth”. Â or at least let dumb ones know the fact ” He is dumb and don’t deserve to extend his genre”
intelligent: If problems comes, find a best or innovative solution that no one had thought.Â
dumb: If problems comes, suicide or a poetic post on sp
in simple terms ” If you have a problem and you are looking for someone who can help you. you are dumb”
Therefore be an intelligent man, and sort out how to solve your own problems.
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I dunno if it’s a matter of intelligence… there are some rather brilliant folks posting on this site. Also, the system our society has evolved into excludes some actors by design – a product of protectionism in a competitive job market that’s only being flooded by more and more seemingly-able workers, all vying for the same jobs. If you can’t get a decent job, you can’t make a decent living, and if you can’t at least start your own business easily, then making a decent living is extremely difficult in today’s economy.
Well I’m glad to know that my problems are unsortable, I guess. At least I get to be intelligent in my misery.
Well, intelligent is a stretch.
The system is a bad one and yet it succeeds in turning the haves against the have nots, and both can be made to believe the system to be fair.
i wish people could be more open and real with each other in real life
@eloquent: I dunno, I think if people really were open and real with each other all the time, a lot of fist-fights would suddenly break out all over the place, all at the same time. Then the hospitals would probably get overwhelmed by all the black eyes and stuff. Heh..
@lorax: yeah, a lot of people are too sensitive and i’m definitely included in both of these statements.
Well, the problem with honesty is that people go from honestly thinking one thing, to honestly thinking something completely different, at a moment’s notice. It’s hard to be honest and still be consistent. You might think some guy you just met is an ugly so-and-so who has a whiny voice, but after talking to him for a bit, change your perception of him due to realizing that he’s actually really smart, and maybe not so ugly as you originally thought… and maybe his voice actually has a nice tenor you didn’t notice before. Heh.. open and real is a tricky damn thing.
^ On the other hand, you may meet someone you dislike at first sight and this never changes. Reminds me of a computer repair guy I used to know. Was he smart? Maybe, but he seemed too deceitful. He always charged way more than he should have and seemed to place bugs in the computers, rather than fix them. Of course, this was a decade ago so computers are a little different to navigate these days. Still, I didn’t like him, and he didn’t like me. It happens. I do find it impossible to respect anyone who catches my intuition as being fraudulent, dishonest, or a creep, etc.
Some people do that selectively – I actually do that to the relatives of my friend’s wife (my professional ethic almost always prohibits that kind of petulance except in this one case). But they are the most sincerely deserving, child-abusing, horrible people I’ve ever had the displeasure of encountering. And they seem like such nice people when you first meet them. Heh.. But I’ve met people in the PC repair business who do it as a mater of procedure, and I usually don’t get along with people who do that sort of thing as a normal practice. It’s just absurd. If you went to a doctor for a sprained ankle, and the doctor broke your leg, why on earth would you keep going to that doctor? I mean, that’s what lawyers are for. It’s a little more difficult to get justice when it comes to technology, but the principle is the same.
Then again, I dislike most people unless they fit my standards of intelligence, et cetera (which is comparatively few of the general populous), so nobody should listen to me. I’m a misanthropist hermit in training. [I’ve been in relative solitude for most of my life, so I must be nearly there by now.]
@Lorax Yeah, I wasn’t the one who hired that guy. I would have let him go immediately, but instead he stayed around and cheated people out of their money. I would have said “I told you so,” but nobody ever listens to me, even though I’m usually right.
Heh.. some people don’t approach their occupation as something they actually take any pride in (and instead see it as a way to make easy money, and just that), which slants everything they do. People like that drive me up the walls.
There is this other suspicious character who exists in my life at the moment. I’m not the one who sought out his services, but I had a bad feeling about him from the beginning. I’m convinced he will one day be arrested for disturbing, criminal behaviour. I honestly would not be surprised if it turned out he kept captives in his house or something. He lives out in the country, so it’s an ideal location. I was forced to have a private conversation with him once in a room to ourselves, and he made my skin crawl. Something… sinister, about him. The thing is that he seems like a genial, approachable guy, so he fools everyone else who doesn’t have my perceptive powers.
But yeah, I’ve never yet been wrong about people in this regard.
He might have some schizotypal disorder that he’s really good at hiding… I’ve noticed I get that same sort of vibe from people on that spectrum – it’s like I have built-in radar for that sort of thing. lol
Did he say something in particular that weirded you out, or was it just a general sense from body language/subtle tells?
Every time he’s around, I have an uneasy feeling. He could be one of those smiling serial killers for all I know. What is more likely is that I believe he is a child predator. He takes jobs where he can be around families and children. I knew someone in the past who he reminded me of, and that was the story for that person. He ended up in court and so on. Maybe he even captures kids, who knows. It wouldn’t shock me to hear that. He apparently has some children of his own, and a wife, but maybe they’re in on it, or if he does have malicious habits, he keeps them hidden.
I mean, I could be wrong, but I greatly distrust this guy, and I just sense something ‘off’ about him.
Probably body language cues you’re not consciously aware of – next time you’re around him, pay attention to his posture and the way he holds himself. He might just feel anxious in one-on-one settings, and you’re picking up on that by the way he moves, or the way his eyes shift. But then again, he may be a super-creep, too. It’s hard to say sometimes. I’ve met some really nasty people in my life, and most of them come across the same way you’re describing.
No, he never seems anxious. On the contrary, he always seems very smooth and assured of himself. It’s possible that he might possess an undercurrent of guilt that I am picking up on, however. He could be a complete psychopath, but maybe he still has a little remorse or anxiety left for any possible misdoings.
I always avoid him now. I don’t want to see him or speak with him. I notice that if he visits my household he will ask inquisitive, unnecessary questions, almost as though he is planning the precise time to break in, like a skilled burglar. There could be nothing valuable here, but perhaps he is asking for another reason. It’s like he wants to learn the patterns and routines.
man you guys… are making me want to interject in a multitude of spots… so i’ll just skip to the last one.
“It’s like he wants to learn the patterns and routines.”
Yeah, that’s how computer-people tend to be. I know that when i have to ask people questions about their computing habits, they seem confused about why i would ask, and then perplexed at my attempts to explain the relevance of both the question, and the answer; the patterns and routines are what takes a fresh and clean computing environment to an unusable mess.
But i also have a super-smart computer-guy uncle, who is not supposed to be around children unsupervised, so… it’s possible that whatever “vibe” you’re picking up on, could be valid, but could also be tainting your interpretation of the intention of the questions, which could be totally innocent.
Lots of “computer-people” tend to have poor in-person social skills, and often act “strangely,” when around people; especially the non-tech-savvy types. Paying a person with poor social skills, to fix something you don’t understand, who has to ask you “weird” questions, in order to do his job… is a recipe for utter awkwardness.
Also(!), there are quite a lot of people out there who frequently and significantly misinterpret other people’s expressions and body language, and arrive at totally incorrect conclusions, based on a misinterpretation that they don’t even realize is wrong.
One of my best friends from a long time ago, used to get people asking him why he was mad, all the time… and he would just say “i’m not mad; this is just how my face looks…” And it was a constant source of awkwardness, crossed signals, and frustration, for him. I deal with this quite a lot myself, but in more than just the “you look mad” way.
Anyway… just felt like saying stuff, i guess.
Also: “i’m usually right, but no one listens to me.” <— i swear you stole that from me! Or at least, "yeah, i get that a lot too."
@clevername: Ha… my best friend is like that (@people constantly asking him why he’s mad all the time). Same dude I called bigfoot on that stoned camping trip, way back when. He’s very rarely mad, but when he actually is, everyone on the block knows it and doesn’t have to ask. On another note, people are always assuming I’m deep in thought, and thinking really profound things all the time, when really I’m just looking for change on the floor and not thinking much of anything.
Hi Clevername. That dude is not a computer guy, far from it. In order to protect his identity I won’t say what he does on here, but he’s had a multitude of different jobs throughout his life and most of them involve scenarios where he will be around children. There is just something about him… He’s not awkward at all. In fact, he knows exactly what to say to people. That might be another reason I couldn’t trust him. I understand awkward people, I know that they feel nervous because they’re shy or afraid of giving the wrong impression, etc. It’s not the case with this fellow.
Oh yeah… I didn’t steal that line from you – it’s how I’ve felt all my life. Maybe we’re kindred spirits. 🙂
By the way – I’m not like most people when it comes to reading facial expressions. In fact, I’m very bad at it. Whenever I take tests online that involve labeling expressions, I usually get a low score. So unlike others, I’m not going to be judging someone for whether they look angry or whatever. I can usually pick up on their emotions, though, maybe by studying their overall demeanour.
When it comes to social cues (facial expressions / body language / subtle non-verbal tells), you might not consciously pick up on it (which is one way those tests tend to be flawed – they put you into a state where you’re trying to consciously identify something that’s subconscious in most scenarios). That feeling that there’s something, “off,” or weird about the dude is probably from what you’re picking up without consciously recognizing the input, what it means, or even where it’s coming from. The mind is a mystery, wrapped in an enigma, wrapped in a chocolate candy shell. And then wrapped up in a pretty plastic wrapper. 😮
I was just thinking – I wonder if I am ‘right’ when I think I understand what mood someone is in. Maybe not. I’m not going to say to anyone “Let’s talk about your feelings.” If I know somebody I can analyze them and try to pinpoint exactly why they are acting a certain way, but if they never confirm this… does it mean that I’m wrong? I remember I used to try analyzing a friend, and they always got irritated with me for doing this. I’m not sure if I was correct or incorrect, in that situation. Some people are just really hard to read.
Being right and wrong about that kind of thing is tricky as hell without some conscious confirmation – personally, I don’t like to make conclusions one way or the other, but I can definitely make an educated guess. 😉
Hehe, that’s the best way to put it: “making an educated guess.” I think that a few times I’ve had people confirm my attempts at insight, rather surprised that I understood. I don’t like to judge people, which is why I don’t want to get up in arms about anyone… but I can’t deny my intuition. Idk. My motto is usually: “If you don’t bother me (or people whom I care about), I won’t bother you.” If I have proof that they are on the wrong side of the law, however… That’s a whole other matter entirely. I’ve studied some criminal cases, after all. I understand the mind of the perpetrator.
I just realized that I sound very self-absorbed. Why do I like talking about myself? It’s a mystery (even to me). I analyze everything, including myself. Yeah. 😛
Most people’s favorite topic of conversation seems to be themselves. There’s nothing wrong with that, considering you have a vested interest in that topic.
Everyone’s self-absorbed. It’s human nature. Actually it would require diligent effort NOT to be. Don’t worry about it.
@C4 It’s not my favorite topic, I guess I just like to be understood. People might take it the wrong way, however.
Hi Duke. I see your comment in moderation. Thanks for the analogy, it makes sense.
@Resitay Maybe you’re right. I always tend to go off on analytical spiels though (and somehow inadvertently offend people in the meantime?) Bad habit, I should quit doing that.
@Duke: It sounds like the people who purchased that horse had great expectations for him. What if he just wants to frolic in the pasture, basking in the sun as he prances about, oblivious to the high stakes world of international equine sporting events?
Nobody asked the horse if he wanted to participate. Perhaps he was born with a carefree disposition, disinclined towards competition. We should respect the horse’s lifestyle choices.
@Requiem; Ok.
My favorite topic of conversation is a toss-up between cats and the mysterious origin of lint in the dryer. O.O Also, there must be aardvarks in there somewhere because the aardvark union would kill me if I didn’t mention them.
I suppose that understanding personalties and human behaviour is one of the biggest things for me. Idk. Anyone who talks to me gets sick of my constant analyzing after a while.
Analysis is…. shit, my reverse-directional mapping processes are all discombobulated… I want to say left-brain-centric. Analysis is the amalgamation and extrapolation of facts / assumptions, sans interpretive flare. We’re all analyzing everything all the time – you do it vocally, I do it like this (the pages of our lives, oh the drama!), but some people really just don’t know how to do it well. I think those are the ones who get sick of people analyzing stuff. And them peoples may need take a class in foundational logics or sommat.
If you have hight expectations your likely to be disappointed. If you’ve got low expectations your likely to become a hermit. The difficulty people have is finding a balance between the two. Through past experience they are afraid to take any chances.
Well, I intend on becoming a wealthy, eccentric recluse at some point. You’re all welcome to visit me if you wish, you people are all worthy of my high standards when it comes to fellow human beings.
@Duke: Some people have been bit by brown recluses, and others have been pinched by hermit crabs, so it stands to reason they must be fearful of solitary lifestyles due to these encounters. It’s such a shame, too. Hermit crabs are actually really cute.
here are are hundreds of people lurking who now have something to look forward to if nothing else.
What’s that, being pinched by a hermit crab for the first time? That’s one memory that stays with a person all their lives.
My plan was to become the benevolent dictator of a clothing optional island colony for Victoria’s Secret catalog models. Our days spent on the island would consist of sipping drinks with little umbrellas in them while pondering the complexities of the universe. That dream hasn’t materialized yet, and I’m starting to think it never will.
@C4: You could do the next best thing and declare yourself benevolent dictator of a virtual island, where all your dreams can come true, in the game called Tropico. I imagine someone, somewhere has made a mod for it that enables clothing-optional citizens that might be fully customizable to your tastes. Plus, you can randomly bulldoze their homes and nobody will throw molotov cocktails at you in your daily life. Win-win.
If someone has a solitary lifestyle it’s generally not considered desirable and normal. Sometimes people avoid them because they respect their privacy and don’t want to intrude or make them feel uncomfortable. If someone goes on holiday on their own instead of thinking how great that is for the person, they become a topic of conversation because it feels good to put someone down.
Over time you become accustomed to being on your own. It’s easy because you don’t have to make an impression all the time and haven’t got anyone to worry about. A lot of people on their own don’t feel lonely. I suppose without knowing it you can give the impression you’d rather people left you alone without knowing it because you’ve not had a lot of recent experience in a sociable environment.
The only reason why there would be any need to bulldoze homes would be to build a freeway, which ain’t happening in paradise. (You’re probably familiar with imminent domain. States and counties have done that in the past).
In my banana republic no yurt would be harmed.
Do you think there’s any chance you were Mongolian in a past life? I feel a strange kinship towards Ghengis Kahn, although I prefer a more temperate climate.
Plan B is to wander the countryside, but I’d need financial assistance for that. There aren’t any sponsors knocking on my door at present.
It’s raining here, which is odd for February. It isn’t cold enough to snow.
@Duke As for me personally, I like certain people, and I enjoy company on occasion. I’m not a very talkative person, and I am easily tired out by the energies of others, so maybe it makes sense that I am a solitary individual? I’m not shy in the least, I can talk to whoever I like if I so choose. Idk, whatever.
There is also the anomalous creatures that honestly don’t mind so much being solitary, but do occasionally enjoy a bout or two of society, provided it’s under terms the creature can agree with – that don’t compromise the creature’s autonomy or corrupt its sense of self. I think starfish probably fit in this category, maybe some protozoa/amoebas or simpler forms of life, and of course, hippies.
Heh.. to be serious, though, if one lives a solitary lifestyle, the circumstance that people avoid them due to misunderstandings or the fear of the unknown other, or whatever else there may be, would seem a preferable condition. Let society do the work – all one must do is bask in the infinite quiet of non-argumentative silence, or the harmony of birds, or the cacophony of catteries.
It’s not “taking a chance” if you already know you will not achieve the desired outcome. If you already know your actions will not produce the results whose desire motivates the actions, then there is no reason to “take a chance,” because in reality, the chance doesn’t exist. It’s the same principle as “repeating the same actions, expecting different results.”
What people fear, isn’t the taking of an actual chance, but rather the squandering of time and energy, the wasting of the self, in futility, which is often attached to a heaping helping of additional strife or suffering.
I’m not interested in putting my effort into anything i do not want. I do not believe there is anyone with whom i would like to socialize. Being disregarded by those i find appealing, leaves me to spend most of my time in my own mind. If i spend most of my time in my own mind, that’s where i’ll be most comfortable, and i’ll be most comfortable there, without anyone i don’t like disturbing me and disrupting whatever i must do inside my own mind, in order to cope with being shunned by those i find appealing. It’s a “vicious cycle,” and it’s all about how you’re born, what you’re born into, and what other people think of you, based on how they’re taught to judge.
@C4: I hear Genghis Khan was cross-eyed, and I was cross-eyed for a few months when I was six (so I’m told). Maybe there’s some kind of karmic energy breaking through. It’s hard to say.
@Lorax; Yeah, I couldn’t pronounce the letter “R” as a kid, which can only mean I was Asian in a past life. (j/k).
It’s odd that Rhotacism, which means “an inability to pronounce R sounds”, begins with the letter R.
@Clevername So you’re saying that if the people posting in this thread invited you to come bowling, you would turn down the invitation?!? This is terribly disappointing. I had a nice outing planned for when we all meet up in real life.
Hmmm… this raises the question… how would people suffering from rhotacism, pronounce the word, “rhotacism?” Would it be, “wotacism?” or “hotacism?” That’s actually a tricky one. But speaking of that, my sister suffered from Rhotacism until she was 16 (I never knew what it was called until just this very moment). It may have been something else, but one phrase my friends and I always bugged her to repeat was, “The dirty birdy says a lot of dirty wordies.” She’d say it like, “The doity boidy says a lot of doity woidies.” It was adorable. And then she grew up and turned into an evil banshee of doom.
Bowling is one of those things i shouldn’t do anymore (and was never quite fond of it anyway). Too asymmetrical, bad for the body (which is bad for the mind, not to mention painful).
But anyway, i can’t afford to “go out,” and i don’t foresee that changing, and i don’t like how it feels to have people paying for me to join their activities, which is the only way i could participate. So yeah, no. Bowling isn’t my thing at all. I don’t think i have a “thing” anymore… or if i ever really did at all.
I was just kidding about the bowling thing. I’m no good at that. Maybe we could all just go out to eat or something. We’ll have adequate amounts of funding by this time, of course. Dream big, your dreams may eventually become reality. 🙂
i was just humoring you. “The bigger they are, the harder they fall…” also applies to dreams.
@Lorax; R is supposedly the most difficult sound to make, and it’s usually the last one that children master. There are languages that don’t even have an R sound.
Girls are usually faster than boys when it comes to learning a language. That’s interesting with your sister.
It can awkward in grade school when you sound like Elmer Fudd. They sent me to speech therapy when I was 7 or 8, now I have a tendency to “over pronounce”.
@Clevername Oh hush. I’m convinced that I will one day be able to fly with mechanical/technological wings, and nothing that anyone says will ever persuade me otherwise.
Hey, I just had a thought. Remember those Roller Derby Discos back in the 80’s? Why don’t we all go to one of those? They must still exist somewhere.
They still have them in England. It’s settled then, we’re going to visit the Duke.
You’re a youngster. I’m too old for that. I live in an old folks residential estate. All we do is smoke tobacco, play connect4 and read the RP.
Do you dance to Frank Sinatra and eat Belgian pastries? That doesn’t sound half bad. I might drop by if you have some good whiskey.
I don’t dance but sure, tea and pastries. I’m keeping a low profile, nice and quite. I’ve been hanging out with the old people for the past 2 weeks. I haven’t got anything interesting to tell you. Literally nothing happens.
Oh come now. There must be some spicy tales to relate. The elderly are just as capable of living it up soap-opera style as the rest of us.
I don’t know anyone well yet but it’s an isolated community. Everyone looks out for each other.
Well then there must be plenty of secret affairs. Keep your eyes open, you might catch somebody slipping someone else a note or a romantic playlist on cassette tapes. (Beware of closets and kitchen pantries.)