People and their phony words and phony friendships. They say they are there for me but when I reach out to them, they hang up on me, or never return my phone calls. Like tonight. Thanks for not being there for me you liars.
I’m in so much pain and am all alone. I have no one in this world, a world of 7 billion people, and not a single person I know truly cares about me. How fucking lonely is that? I don’t have a single true friend is this world.
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People are scared of responsibility, of saying the wrong thing, of being more harm than help. People have their own problems and just may not be sure of what to say or do for you. I know I tend to avoid things that I’m not sure how to deal with…
In the end we are all alone. People need their own space and need to do their own thing. Everyone has their boundaries. You can get some help from people, but there is a limit. They may have just been more busy with their own issues today. I suggest a more long-term approach and less pressure on people. Give them some lease. Let them help when they can, but don’t hold anyone obligated to it.
In the end you’re the only one who can deal with your issues. Supportive people can be a tremendous help, but don’t tie them to you or they will resent you. Instead of making contact when you feel bad, think of how they wouldn’t want you to feel that way. Trust that people want what’s best for you, even if they sometimes don’t know how or are too scared to help.
Maybe you can express some gratitude for them saying they’re there for you. People like to feel like they are important and have helped. They may be more likely to help when they can if you are grateful for whatever they can offer. Guilting people into being there for you will only make them resent you, trust me…
Scarsareforever does have some good points. It makes sense….. However, at some point you have to be able to tell people what you need. It is a tricky balance. If people are operating under the false impression that they are helping you and they aren’t, eventually they are going to think you are lying to them about everything. I believe the old idea of true friends will support you at a time like this and you won’t have to guilt them. Sadly, it might be something where those flaky friends need a wake-up call….. Even more sadly, it might take a death in their life to discover they were taking opportunities to make things better for granted.
However, I think showing some appreciation for efforts is important and Scarsareforever is right on there. Even if they aren’t helpful, maybe showing you appreciate their efforts. However, it is also important for them to know what really does help you and what doesn’t. If they are too selfish not to understand when their efforts really aren’t helpful, well…hopefully you can find a few true friends that will help you. I have been fortunate enough to share with a few friends who have been the best to me how important they have been. Sometimes they will advocate for you. I hope you find those few who really know how to be supportive and put themselves aside. For those, you really really do want to share that you appreciate them, and how important and rare they are. Hope this helps.