I listen to everyone talk about their problems, I don’t mind. Of course I don’t because I don’t want someone to be troubled or hurt. I try my best to cheer everyone up. Some even say that I’m a good at that. Well, of course I’m good at that because all I do is listen and try to find ways to let them be happy without saying “it’ll get better.” Oh god. I feel like shit. When I have problems, all the people I help suddenly disappears and it’s like “wow.” That is all I can say. Can you guys tell me why no one will listen to my shit while I help them with theirs every time? Maybe it’s just because I’m stupid.
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A lot of times that is just our perception. That no one cares, that no one is there for us. That no one is willing to help. Most people don’t really know what to say when it comes to talking about depression or emotional issues. They don’t know how to help. So we dismiss whatever effort they did make, since it didn’t help. I suppose you might just be surrounded by self centered narcissistic assholes who are only interested in talking about themselves. That they really all do just disappear when you need help. That is less likely though. I mean there are always a few of those kind of people around, but its unlikely that all your friends are like that.
Trust me when I say all of them are the same. I help them and help them and when I start to talk about my problems then they start talking about themselves again. Every one left me.
Those people suck. I’m not the best at advice or actually doing anything useful, but I’m here if you need to rant or anything.
Thank you. It’s the thoughts that counts.
It seems like you’re just a naturally good listener; not everybody is. I am the same way. Sometimes I feel like nobody hears me, but then I remember that not everyone is like me. And then I value that trait inside of myself. Value your traits.
I need to try but since you have those traits I’m sure you understand that the negativity starts to affect the listener too. What sucks is that all my energy is used to helping people and I’m suffering alone.