Most people say they don’t believe in conformity. Yet, we see over and over again that if you do not conform, you will be attacked.
Come out as gay? How dare you! You are an abomination.
(I’m not gay, just giving an example)
You don’t believe in religion? You’re automatically viewed as a bad person.
You’re a Christian? And you go to church? OMG he/she must be a good person!
You actually like school? You’re a NERD!
And…what is wrong with wanting to be smart and educated?
You don’t like alcohol / happy hour? What is wrong with you? You’re so uncool. You’re antisocial.
Maybe I just don’t like the taste of alcohol.
You don’t like going to the beach? What is wrong with you?
This was back in the 80s and 90s when idiots laid out in the sun for hours on end to get a tan. If you didn’t like lying in the baking sun and sand doing nothing for hours and being bored, you were labelled as weird. Ofc, now we know something called skin cancer.
You’re a girl and you *don’t* like makeup / boys / partying / shopping / doing girly things?
What is wrong with you?
And…what is wrong with wearing pants and not liking skirts and dresses and insanely uncomfortable and impractical shoes that mangle your feet? And *I’m* labelled as the weird one?
I could have prolly used better examples, but those above just popped into my mind.
My whole life I’ve been told that I’m wrong- I’m wrong for what I look like, wrong for liking what I like, wrong for disliking what I don’t like, wrong for the way I think, wrong for my beliefs, I’m wrong for simply existing and being me.
So of course, decades later, I have issues with self-esteem, depression, and maintaining relationships with people. Well there’s more to the story but being seen as “weird” and “different” and treated like an outcast my entire life is part of it. Which, looking back, there was nothing wrong with me other than I was a scrawny, skinny quiet kid who liked to read and did well in school. I was teased endlessly, merciless by other kids, for no reason other than “I was different.” And no, it’s no different as an adult being around other adults- people still ostracize you for being “different.” Worse now as an adult as there’s no excuse “oh kids are just kids…”
There is a huge price to pay to being yourself, and not conforming to what everyone else does or thinks.
My whole life I’ve been treated as an “other.” My whole life I’ve felt as a misfit. I wasn’t meant for life on this Earth. I don’t belong. I also want no part in all the shittiness humans are doing to each other, and to the planet.
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check out the philosophy of: Diogenes
Christianity and religion are attacked just the same. I am neither, but I do believe in God and Jesus. Anyway, there are people who will say that those who believe in that are stupid and other mean things. I’ve seen it on this site even.
I’ve been through many phases of life. I’m off social media now, but it was an interesting experience. When I spoke more about worldly things, I was more accepted. Meaning when I spoke about drinking, certain drugs, sex, liking the same sex (females), all kinds of comedies and music from others who didn’t believe in anything, I was more popular. When I started to believe is when people backed off and I didn’t get as many favorites or retweets. Even my favorite musician blocked me because of it. It was all a lesson.
It actually confirmed I was on the right track. It revealed to me that I have to let go of all the worldly things that used to satisfy me because they are not in my best interest.
I think you have to be comfortable with who you are because no matter what, people won’t like you for many reasons.
That’s weird. I thought atheists and non-Christians were a tiny minority of the population, at single-digit percentages.
It makes sense if you look at the mess the world is in and the leader in the White House. It’s obvious that a lot of people are choosing darkness, Satan. Being a believer is shunned and mocked. It is said that in the end times this would happen.
I just saw this: “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.” (John 15: 18-19)
I have talked to many believers. I used to be a good ol’ God fearing theology nut. I can attest that practically every single one of them, including the ones on the Christian right who helped fill the white house with the current administration, share the same thoughts and reference that same passage for the same reason. It’s beyond bizarre to me.
Bizarre indeed! I’m not surprised though. I’ve seen so-called Christians in the KKK who act like races will be separated in Heaven. They are clearly not of love. Satan is even creeping into the churches and deceiving the masses. It’s happening now more than ever.
Wow, this wasn’t supposed to be a post about religion but apparently that one thing is what everyone is talking about. My post is about people treating you like crap for being who you are, or you thoughts, anything that isn’t “mainstream” or accepted, whatever it is.
One reply about religion and no more talk about that- religious people are the majority, atheists are the minority. 79% of the US are religious, 21% are not- so 4/5 people you meet are and 1/5 aren’t. The 1/5 person who aren’t are generally assumed to not be as good of a person as a religious person. That is what is assumed. That was the atmosphere I grew up in. Sure everyone is attacking everyone nowadays. Let’s not go off-topic with religion or religious anger.
My post is about not thinking like everyone else, not being like everyone else, and never fitting in. And none of it by choice. I’ve felt like a misfit all my life.
@eternaldarkness A big problem in my life has been because I’m different and an outsider so I agree with your post in general. Didn’t mean for it to turn into something else.
Yes, the hypocrisy and double standards.
Maybe there’s a really is a big beautiful “Island of Misfit Toys” where we can all meet up after death and live in peace. Saying things to each other like, “I wish I’d known you back in hell. It might have made it more tolerable.”