I’m trapped. I desperately want to die but doing so would leave my partner in a terrible position financially and as such could lose her daughter and her dog. My mother recently passed and has left me her entire estate in her will. I have been struggling against these feelings for so long and do not want to live another day. I have massive amounts of Seroquel and other rx drugs for the taking and I just want to take a walk to the woods tonight with a case of beer and down as many of them as I can. If I provided a written and recorded statement that expresses that I chose to end my life and that I want all of the inheritance that is coming to me to be passed on to my partner instead so that she can afford to live and keep her family together, along with the contact info for both my mother’s attorney and paralegal, would there be any chance for that to be taken as valid? I live in New York.
I am so at the end of my rope and I just don’t want to create any more damage than I already have in my life.
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I sincerely doubt it. The relevant authorities would probably need a document that’s notarized and drawn by someone familiar with the legal code revolving around inheritance. A suicide note probably wouldn’t cut it. Courts and judges and lawyers don’t like people stepping all over their fancy web of legal nonsense while wearing work boots.
That’s exactly what I’ve been figuring. This is lack so hard and I admittedly just don’t have the patience or the emotional capacity anymore to drag this out. And I don’t know how to mention it to my mom’s paralegal without it coming across as suspicious. She’s very good at reading people. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t do this anymore
I am sorry things are as bad for you as they are, it’s hard to hear, but the sentiment of having at least one person in your life that you care enough about to want to make sure they are okay when you are gone is nice to hear. I’d strongly suggest holding onto that person and trying to change medications to something different, but i’m not here to judge your decisions. I would suggest either hiring your own attorney to legally write a will for you or simply mentioning to your mother’s attorney/paralegal that you were interested in making a will of your own and leaving it at that. They will likely help you without much thought. I hope things get better for you before then tough
I am trying my hardest to hold onto this person although in doing so I fear that I may be clinging too tight. Although she has left the door open for me to talk plenty of times and I pushed her away, only for my feelings to spill over at inconvenient and unfair times for her. She does deserve to have her own time without having to worry about me.
She is upset and not talking to me right now, but I somehow managed to calm myself down. I wrote her a note that took responsibility for my actions and vowed to have more faith in her when she does ask me what’s wrong rather than springing it on her out of nowhere. I have yet to see how this will go. I just hope that I haven’t pushed her too far away this time
And thank you.
I think your best bet is to go your bank with her and arrange for her to have all money in your bank account transferred into her bank account upon your death.
If she ask why you are doing this just say: just in case something happens to me.
Either that or go to a lawyer and write a will and find some way to leave your lawyers info for her, for when you finally do the deed
So a will is usually signed by two witnesses or a notary so that the courts will not question that is indeed you who signed. In the absence of either of these, but with your signature on it, it becomes what is known as a holographic will. Be sure to check and see if your state will recognize a holographic will.
Sorry I just got out of court myself. Let me try it again?
So your signed will is usually also signed by two witnesses or a notary so that the courts can validate that is indeed the testator (that’s you) signature on it. In the absence of notarization or witnesses, but with your signature on it, it becomes what is legally known as a holographic will. Be sure to check and see if your state will recognize a holographic will if you are not going to get it witnessed or notarized.
Some will is better than no will but if you could write it on it’s on sheet of paper and get it notarized or witnessed it would save your heirs and assigns a step or two ( at the very least). Courts handle the notarized or witnessed will very smoothly in the vast majority of cases.
Thank you so much. I will look into what NY state laws are wrt that. I have intended to leave both a written and video recording of my wishes.