Suicide is not a joke. Simple as that. So why is it that some people have to go out and make a joke if it? And I’m not talking just like people saying they wanna kill themselves as an expression when something inconvenient happens because I do that too. I mean things like what happened today.
Mum talking to this guy and he really really likes me but I don’t really so our conversations are fairly one sided. I wasn’t talking to him because I said I was busy which I was, then an hour later he texts me again and said he was sorry but he was going to kill him self. Obviously I don’t want that regardless of whether I want to be in a relationship or what not. I tried to calm him down by saying things like please don’t and you know like I care about you and so do others. He then went as far to send me videos of him juggling pills in his hand and “putting them in his mouth”. I say this in quotations because the videos would always end before he had his hand fully to his mouth. After I kept telling him not to and everything I could say, he said out of nowhere “okay I won’t do it”. I was surprised because it was so all of a sudden. We talked a little about it after and then he sounded completely fine and just overall happy to be talking to me like nothing happened so I asked him if he was serious about killing himself. He told me he wasn’t serious and he just wanted to see how I would have reacted. This made me mad because here I was, texting him frantically for 2 hours trying to make sure he’s okay saying he could talk to me, really all I could just for him to turn around and say he did it for attention so I would talk to him and tell him I cared. And in all of this, I even told him how i had tried multiple times to kill my so he could open up to me as I understood. That’s not something I go blabbing around and I told him for nothing. Over a sick “joke”.
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This isn’t a joke this is manipulation.
Suicide isn’t worth it too. There’s hope.
I agree with OCTR, that wasn’t joking by any stretch of the imagination, it was flat out manipulation. Jokes are about humour, not coercing people into cooperating with your agenda, and in my opinion absolutely nothing is off limits to joke about. Joking is how humans transmute the absurdity and senselessness of life into something playfull and funny, it’s one of the best coping mechanisms at our disposal. By all means joke about anything and everything.
Yeah that was manipulation. He did it to make you feel bad about not liking him. I do something like that too. Only I don’t do it. I just ask “hey what would you do if I….” Yeah the answer might not be as sincere as actually putting them through it but at least I don’t lie to them.
Yep, that was not a joke…. Nor do I think the person intended it as a joke. As stated by basically everybody before it was manipulation. This person is scummy and should be weeded from your life probably. I also do fully agree with Ennui that joking about anything is fine. Not being able to joke about something does make that something feel really taboo. This still was not a joke, it was actual abuse.
Second what everyone else has said; that’s not a joke, it’s manipulation. It could be a joke in his mind, but it poorly hid his actual intention.
I didn’t agree with the title of this post, but after reading it I 100% agree you should kick this guy out of your life.
The above are all right also he might of really felt that way then lied to make you feel better? which of coarse didn’t. the reason I say that is people usually don’t do that as a joke unless it’s obvious.
Immaturity, at best.