If a plant starts dying due to lack of sunlight, no one blames the plant or tells it to go on walks etc.
That’s what happened to me. I honestly would be fine if I just had a few people I was SUPPOSED to be able to trust actually be there for me. I’ve actually received some good advice on this site but I can’t act on it you could say because I lack the discipline or focus and while sure that’s true the truth is I just shut down because I wasn’t nurtured enough. I’m like a wilted plant that simply doesnt have the strength, PERIOD. And even when I crawled back to my abusive mom and BEGGED for that nurturing as a second chance to start again, even if it was later in life, it still didn’t feel too late. At the age of 28 I wonder now if I can do anything. Probably not. I chased the one non family member who could’ve shined light on my life away and they’ll never talk to me again.
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This is one of the best analogies I’ve heard about mental illness. Exactly, mental illness paralyzes and incapacitates our will just like a plant is stuck in its pot. If nobody waters the plant or gives it sunlight, no amount of therapy and advice are gonna help the plant. At some point, someone needs to step in and physically do something.
I also hard relate to what you said about begging for help only to get abused more. It doesn’t take a psychologist to figure out that’s why we stop asking for help. If there’s ever gonna be a cure for this, people will have to figure out that the problem is not the victim.
unfortunately, all everyone seem to do is constantly blame the victim.
piss me off about this world. no one steps in to help, no one even cares. they don’t want to be bothered or “burdened.” anyway, i can go on a whole rant but yeah, ppl fu*king suck.
lol, you had me at this line:
“If a plant starts dying due to lack of sunlight, no one blames the plant or tells it to go on walks etc.”
all i get told is to go on walks, go journal, blah blah, like that does any f*ing thing for us. and if we refuse, it’s “you just haven’t tried hard enough,” even among the depressed community.
the reality is that none of that shit works> how do i know? look around. why are there SO many f*ing ppl who are still depressed, despite hours of walking, journaling, pill popping, psychiatrists, mental hospitals, etc? if ANY of that shit ACTUALLY worked, there wouldn’t be so many depressed ppl. it’s all a scam. it’s all about an industry making money.
not hours, i meant decades.* there are many ppl who’ve been at it for decades. are they better? nope.