So we need to network you with some unluckier people, is what I’m getting here. This is a solvable problem from that angle. I get that it really isn’t, but I enjoy the absurdity of logic.
There does have to be some way to crack this nut. Risk management and mitigation we could get going, teach you to count cards, something. Passivity aint it. If you don’t mind my 2 cents.
I know I’m not THE unluckiest person out there, but I sure af am on the shit end when it comes to luck and the hand i’ve been dealt in life. the majority of ppl i’ve ever known IRL (not talking online bc you can always find every kind of person online) were born middle income and have had good childhoods with good parents and good opportunities. a few were born born and had shitty parents, but none who had both shitty parents and born super poor and had to work at age 7 and have really bad chronic health problems. oh and was abused daily from age 7. or was run over by a car and had their life ruined. or was r3ped. i mean fuck- other ppl i know have had 1 or 2 or several of those things but not ALL of them and to the degree i’ve had it.
i know i don’t have it THE worst of every single person out there- there’s always someone worse off- but if we were to put my life on a scale with others (in the US)- not comparing myself to ppl in Africa or whereever- i’m like a 2.5 out of a 10 in terms of the quality of life (or 7.5/10 for the amount of suffering i’ve had).
again, this is comparing my life to REAL ppl i know, in the US. very few ppl who are white collar have the kind of shit life i’ve had.
like i said, there’s always someone worse off. but i had it pretty fucking bad. BUT- seeing EVERYONE who grew up middle class who had good childhoods with loving parents grow up to have nice middle income lives with good ppl around them- AND to see my friends who’ve also had tough/rough/shit childhoods grow up to also have shitty or touch adulthoods- THAT burns me.
even the lazy ass stupid ppl we had good middle income loving parents do SUPER well- and the smart hard working poverty kids with shit parents grow up to have hard adulthoods- is fundamentally fucking unfair. and this isn’t even about me. this is about the fact that if you start life off life with a shitty childhood and shitty parents, you’re almost guaranteed to struggle with depression and health and relationships in your adult life.
i see that shit with ALL of my friends who had shit childhoods or shit parents. and most of the are super smart too (i tend to make friends with very educated and book-smart ppl, bc that’s what i am and so these are the ppl i meet). and the ones who grew up like me, despite being super intelligent and hard-working, ALL have problems with depression and/or relationships. It basically means our fates are pretty set at childhood we have.
yes OFC kids from good middle class families with loving parents can still grow up fucked up/depressed/etc- i can already see tons of ppl jumping on me going but but but….
@heartless, you know that statistically ppl who are born into poverty or had childhood trauma generally tend to struggle in adulthood. The odds of a kid from a good family and loving family growing up fucked up is like 1/1,000,000th the odds of a kid who grows up in poverty/abuse/etc. The more abuse the kid has had, the more fucked up the kid becomes as an adult.
Anyhow, I’m so pissed that this is my reality. I wish I had offed myself when I wanted to at age 7, when all the abuse began.
Stupid of me to believe I could have a better life as an adult.
Every single friend i know IRL who was abused or grew up poor or had shit parents- ALL struggle with depression to varying degrees, as well as health issues.
Like what happens to you as a child or who you’re born to or how poor you grew up as- literally shapes at least 80% of your life.
And THAT is depressing af, bc that meant I had VERY LITTLE chance to begin with. I thought I could beat the odds, but nope. Didn’t happen, and all I’ve had was a fucking HARD ASS life. -_-
2 comments
So we need to network you with some unluckier people, is what I’m getting here. This is a solvable problem from that angle. I get that it really isn’t, but I enjoy the absurdity of logic.
There does have to be some way to crack this nut. Risk management and mitigation we could get going, teach you to count cards, something. Passivity aint it. If you don’t mind my 2 cents.
I know I’m not THE unluckiest person out there, but I sure af am on the shit end when it comes to luck and the hand i’ve been dealt in life. the majority of ppl i’ve ever known IRL (not talking online bc you can always find every kind of person online) were born middle income and have had good childhoods with good parents and good opportunities. a few were born born and had shitty parents, but none who had both shitty parents and born super poor and had to work at age 7 and have really bad chronic health problems. oh and was abused daily from age 7. or was run over by a car and had their life ruined. or was r3ped. i mean fuck- other ppl i know have had 1 or 2 or several of those things but not ALL of them and to the degree i’ve had it.
i know i don’t have it THE worst of every single person out there- there’s always someone worse off- but if we were to put my life on a scale with others (in the US)- not comparing myself to ppl in Africa or whereever- i’m like a 2.5 out of a 10 in terms of the quality of life (or 7.5/10 for the amount of suffering i’ve had).
again, this is comparing my life to REAL ppl i know, in the US. very few ppl who are white collar have the kind of shit life i’ve had.
like i said, there’s always someone worse off. but i had it pretty fucking bad. BUT- seeing EVERYONE who grew up middle class who had good childhoods with loving parents grow up to have nice middle income lives with good ppl around them- AND to see my friends who’ve also had tough/rough/shit childhoods grow up to also have shitty or touch adulthoods- THAT burns me.
even the lazy ass stupid ppl we had good middle income loving parents do SUPER well- and the smart hard working poverty kids with shit parents grow up to have hard adulthoods- is fundamentally fucking unfair. and this isn’t even about me. this is about the fact that if you start life off life with a shitty childhood and shitty parents, you’re almost guaranteed to struggle with depression and health and relationships in your adult life.
i see that shit with ALL of my friends who had shit childhoods or shit parents. and most of the are super smart too (i tend to make friends with very educated and book-smart ppl, bc that’s what i am and so these are the ppl i meet). and the ones who grew up like me, despite being super intelligent and hard-working, ALL have problems with depression and/or relationships. It basically means our fates are pretty set at childhood we have.
yes OFC kids from good middle class families with loving parents can still grow up fucked up/depressed/etc- i can already see tons of ppl jumping on me going but but but….
@heartless, you know that statistically ppl who are born into poverty or had childhood trauma generally tend to struggle in adulthood. The odds of a kid from a good family and loving family growing up fucked up is like 1/1,000,000th the odds of a kid who grows up in poverty/abuse/etc. The more abuse the kid has had, the more fucked up the kid becomes as an adult.
Anyhow, I’m so pissed that this is my reality. I wish I had offed myself when I wanted to at age 7, when all the abuse began.
Stupid of me to believe I could have a better life as an adult.
Every single friend i know IRL who was abused or grew up poor or had shit parents- ALL struggle with depression to varying degrees, as well as health issues.
Like what happens to you as a child or who you’re born to or how poor you grew up as- literally shapes at least 80% of your life.
And THAT is depressing af, bc that meant I had VERY LITTLE chance to begin with. I thought I could beat the odds, but nope. Didn’t happen, and all I’ve had was a fucking HARD ASS life. -_-