Does anyone have any advice on how to get the inner strength to wear a t-shirt in public and let my self-harming scars show? They are all over my arm, on the inside and out. All up and down. They stick out so much. It’s obvious they are from cutting. I’m able to wear shorts and I have cuts on my leg but not as bad as my arm. I just don’t want to wear long sleeves when it’s 90 degrees outside anymore. But I don’t want people to stare. I know it’ll happen though. I just want to be normal…but I am not. And I have to live with this for the rest of my life. So how should I go about getting the courage to do this?
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Are your scars raised? I’ve heard of people putting make-up on their scars to hide them in public.
I’ve been thinking of exposing my scars, as well. My plan was to go somewhere where I didn’t know many people, and exposing them there, but I’ve yet to do that. Like you said, you’ll have to live with this for the rest of your life, so you’ll expose them sooner or later, and there’s no time like the present, right?
I hope you’ll get the courage to do this. It’s tough and just knowing that you’ve considered this shows how brave you are. I wish you luck.
You made them one by one and perhaps that is the same rate at which others can bare it…folks empathize and feel pain when they see the traces of it on others.
Can you go to a group where other folks have done similarly?
Depends too on the response you want: to be nurtured and loved to heal your pain? To be seen and not reacted to? Something else or all of the above?
As for shame it certainly isn’t yours alone to bare: It takes a village to raise a child, to not raise one and to help the adults heal.
I have track marks use make up to cover them up when I wear short sleeves at work. if it’s 90 degrees though, the sweat tends to melt the makeup off and it looks kinda funny and requires constant matienance
There is a special make up they give to cancer patients i believe its like a filler and doesnt come off with sweat.my mum uses it in a scar on her nose you cant tell its been cut to pieces it does a fine job ringvthe cancer society they may point you in the right direction