Hi just broke up with bf…we were toether for three years
i don’t know what to do now…i feel like back to him but he will treat me sh** again…
he was the only one who knew about my major depression..and also that i don’t take medications yet due to some personal reason…but he always blamed me..this time he said that he don’t feel the love no more..because i am moody all the time..and i said i am sorry but his reply was “i don’t care”
so did i do right by breaking up with him? its no doubt that i still love him like there is no tomorrow…but i don’t the pain to start all over again
and yes he is my first love
pleaseeeee some suggestions as i am crying my eyes out with suicidal thoughts
thanks
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It depends. If it’s just one incident and this is the first time you have fought then you might think about giving it another shot. If it’s a gradual decline then that’s not so easy to repair. You might just have to cool down for a while. Try bringing your depression under control before thinking about another serious relationship once you are stable. Only have contact with guys who have a good record and take it slow.
its been a while since i have been dealing with the same fight over and over again…everytime i am low…he starts the fight and ends up blaming that like either i was rude to him or i didn’t listen to him or even i might have someone else in life.
I know it is so not worth going back to him. But this pain is just killing me and forcing me to call him and tell him that i can’t live without hm.
I have never understood this because I’m just incapable of having those feelings. Sad really. I think you should share the burden with a friend or family member.
You say it yourself you are special, but why do you know? Because you are amazing, for staying and compromising with that man, even though you were in depression yourself. You should be proud of yourself, but i will also tell you that it was to happen. Someone so self centred doesn’t deserve someone as selfless as you are.
How to move on? The only way to heal i can tell you is time. How to distract yourself is by keeping busy; hobby, job, education, travelling, socialising. Its like a ladder step by step you have to climb higher you can’t jump any steps, and it takes time but eventually you will get to the top. Also can you not tell a friend or family member?
You are special
Take Care
I don’t think that anyone deserves someone who doesn’t treat them right. You need someone who will be completely respectful of you, be sweet and caring, make sure that you barely worry about anything, and make sure that you’re happy before he is. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months almost and we have NEVER had an argument. 4 months doesn’t seem that long, but we’ve been through a lot.