How do you get over someone? like … how do you get over a breakup or so? How long did it take you to move on? Are you a different person from who you were before the breakup and after your breakup and after you’re healed?
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The biggest part of getting over someone is forgiveness. Forgive the other person, forgive yourself, accept what happened and derive a lesson from your experience. Now you know what does and does not work in a relationship you can assess what you could have done to make things better or what the other person could have, you now know what to avoid etc. if/when you want to get in a relationship again 🙂 Personally for me, I get very emotionally attached to people and even years after their absence I dwell on the relationship we had (platonic or any variation) and something that was very therapeutic for me was deleting all of their photos and burning a piece of paper with their name on it, ha. It was very relieving for me, it’s worth a try. Good luck 🙂
Time. As for how long… There’s no simple answer. It varies with each relationship. And yes I’m definitely a different person. I think each relationship we have changes us at least a little.
I hope you get over things quickly and find happiness.
As Whispers said it really just takes time. Sometimes you really never truly get over someone, they keep creeping back into your mind even after years and sometimes still brings tears to your eyes. I’ve always moved on though, never wished to be back with anyone I was with. I’m like it worked out better this way, it might hurt like hell for a long time but as long as you open your heart to others you will be like 95% fine.
Well it can vary. The more time you spend with a person it can be hard to getover them not being there when it over. Esecially if you had a lot of good times together.
but if it really over now you have to just suck it up and say well the time I spent with that person was like one chapter of my life an now its time to move on to the next chapter.
I believe you can move on and getover it and new good things will come your way
think positiveley
I agree with Everything the people above have said. I was married for 5 years and she cheated on me and we divorced. I got over her in a short time and not because I found another relationship or any other reason. About 2 years ago I had what I thought was a friend for about 8 months. It all went to hell in a hand basket and I haven’t gotten over it yet. Two years!! Maybe it all depends on what I had to learn, how much I needed to learn, grow and how quickly I am able to learn and forgive. Humans…crazy. Next time around I want to be an android.
Forgiveness – that’s huge. I won’t go into my story; you can find it in bits and pieces here but I found that what kept me imprisoned for many years was the fact that I had never truly forgiven. And I found that out the hard way – when the person died and I still could not find peace or closure. All this time, I was waiting for her to do something. Just what that was, I have no clue but even though I had told her a long time ago I forgave her, I still held on to some stupid hope that she would have some moment of clarity and everything would be good. But the truth is it was me that needed to act. I needed to let go, and if I couldn’t do that even after she was gone forever I know it was on me.
I think it helps to really examine yourself and find out what it is that you continue to expect, and hard as it is you must begin to let go of those expectations.
– peace
I’m not sure to be honest. But so far in my situation, I still can’t even have a day in which he doesn’t cross my mind. It takes a lot of time, I think it depends on how deep it was and how it ended. It hard and it hurts a lot, now that I’m thinking about it maybe you never get over someone, just forget and forgive them but there will always be something inside you that will remind you that it was real and happened; and it could be bittersweet.
I’m trying to get over someone too, tctc. I wish there were some definitive answer on how to accomplish that, but I think we’re just going to have to get used to suffering for awhile.
To all: thanks man. love you guys so much. Thanks for the advice. really appreciate it.
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I’ll try to stay strong.
Look for me. Take as long as you need. I’ll always be here. No matter where you are. ?? You’ll be okay silly. You will be. It’s 1 less heartache to true love, to learn new things about life.