I am a mother of 2. I’ve been told that I am a bad mom because i make my children listen. My son ran up a 400 dollar phone bill and my mother said I was bad because I was and am making him pay me the money back by working off the money (sweeping the floor, cleaning his room by himself and so on.) I just recently realized my husband has a horrible sex addiction. My father (my one person i could talk to about anything and he would help) Passed away on the 6th of Aug. This is just too much pain to bear and just dont know if i can live to see another day. My thoughts running through my mind is… My children will be better off without me. Their dad loves them. My husband can take care of his problem without me adding anything else to him. My mom doesnt have to worry about having a messed up child anymore
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Trust me, you are not doing a bad thing by making your kid work off the money he spent, almost the same thing happened 2 me. I got myself $200 in debt and my parents made me work it off 2. I wuz a little pissed at my mom 2, but not for long. I understood what my mom wuz tryin 2 do, she just wanted me 2 understand that wen u get in debt you will have 2 pay it off, and it will not be enjoyable. And trust me, after that i will do my best to never get in debt again. Also, your husbands sex addiction can be cured, just try and encourage him to go to sum of those theropy groups. Also, dont kill yourself because you think that you r messin up ur kid. Im 14 and the only thing that could fuck me up anymore is if one of my parents just killed themselves. Wether u no it or not ur kids do love u, so dont give up on them or ur husband. Just give it sum time and i am sure that everything will turn out fine in the end.
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Making your kids listen and telling them things they should do isn’t bad, it’s preparing them for the world and explaining things to them that they need to know. I lost my mother last December and my dad well he acts like he’s dead and its sad. Don’t leave your children. Even if they might be angry because your telling them what to do, if they lost you… live for your children. As for your husband well, sex addictions can be changed. Time. Your children will never be “better off without you”. I’m only 15 but i know that. Your mother loves you, even though she calls you a bad mother. Don’t give up, don’t leave your family.
what your doing is not bad. things like that happen to me and my friends all the time but seriously your kids wont be better off without you. its just not possible. i couldnt survive a week without my mom. you love your kids and they love you. they NEED you. you can get through this. go get help i did and i promise you it works. you have all the power you need to change. do it for yourself and your family dont be selfish and take your own life. they wont be better off without you. listen to your heart and think how you would have felt if your mom did that to you. the bond of family is strong and they will help you and people go to school for years to help you. all you have to do is ask.
Been there. 3 hospitalizations in 6 years. Tons of meds. Lots of therapy.
I am so much better now. My meds work. I get therapy. I see my Pscy. I work at it. All because I promised myself I would see all my Boys Graduate. My youngest walked last May.
Call this number and get help 1-800-273-TALK (LifeLINE).
Don’t leave that Family. Your mind is exploding everything right now. You can get it back in perspective. Every Mom should teach thier Child resposblity that is our job. And don’t listen to People who should let you raise your child.