I lost my Dear wife just over two years ago at the age of 54. We had planned everything together for our later life but this is not to be. I have come to the end and cannot go any further. I see no point on my own, I want no one else apart from my Dear wife.
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Love is strong and compelling, I understand. At your age, there’s not a lot of things (in my opinion) that can motivate you to keep going other than love or Just.
I wish you the best of wishes, madmax1. I believe you will someday reunite with your wife and you two will be happy.
Man I am so, so sorry. I’m only 18 but I do have a little experience with losing someone you love; it leaves a giant icy hole right in the center of your chest. I hope you find happiness in whatever you do. Good luck, happy trails.
Max, your life isn’t over just yet.
I think it would be plain SELFISH of you to end your life simply because you want to be with your wife again.
There is at least one person who would be devastated by your death, no more than one, ’cause I would be also, despite not knowing you.
If you feel you can’t stand the pain, then don’t think about it.
There are people’s lives you can touch, whou would be grateful to you for generations.
Think deeply on this, and gather yourself together.
If you think you want to talk, you can send me a mail via juliaceltel@yahoo.com
I completely understand why you would feel like life is not worth living. When we invest in one person for such a long part of our adult lives, there is no one else who will ever understand us in that way. Some tragedies are insurmountable, and unlike juleze, I know that wanting to end your pain is not selfish.
If you do decide to go, I hope that you experience the smallest amount of pain possible, and that you find sweet reunion with your wife. If you reconsider, for whatever reason, I hope that you find a way to share your wife’s spirit with those of us who never got the chance to meet her. You obviously were deeply moved by her life.
So sorry that you are in so much pain!
And juleze, I am emailing you this as well–telling people that they are selfish for feeling suicidal is like blaming someone for having the flu. It’s a sickness of the mind, emotions, and soul, and the person suffering is NOT to blame. Telling someone to “gather yourself together” is insulting and only reveals your own ignorance. People struggle with pain as long as they can, and then they simply may not have the will to keep going. If you are trying to help, educate yourself before you cause further damage. Many suicidal people are only FUELED to commit suicide because they don’t want to be a burden on others, so telling them that their feelings are selfish is counterproductive, cruel, and ignorant.
Julia, I kindly ask you to stop slinging insults. Calling someone selfish or telling them that they are not ready to meet their creator isn’t going to help and soul. Is that what our God calls us to do? I am not suicidal. I come here to help, and you clearly do not understand these people, and honestly I don’t believe you want to. I kindly ask you to stop, and seek another location for your service work.
Matthew 7:1-6 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others; you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured with you. Why do you look at the speck of saw dust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
yeah fuck that why say selfish you have no idea what kind of retarded bullshit that is who else is a person to think about but themself.yeah if married or with children there are others to think of but i swear the comment you left made me think about how people can believe that suicide is selfish at most its a self calming technique. learn or think about what the fuck your gonna say dont be idiotic smarts and good sense come from the ability to understand
knowing youll never want another is hard to deal with when there is lose it comes from the feelings we held for something/someone. i dont blame you for feeling the way you do. maybe you could get a friend or pets someone caring that will love being with you as muched as you with your dearly departed wife. im not best for advice but i think your worth a second chance
I do not think it is appropriate to call anyone selfish because you are not in their situation. With that being said I would respect either decision whether you end your life or not but I do believe that your wife would be heart broken to see you end your life because of her. She would want you to carry on and live the rest of your life happily for both her and you. Im not sure what I believe in as far as what happens after death but I do know if she is watching you she would want nothing for you but for you to be happy, any loved one would want that. If you cant seem to live for yourself currently, try and live for her and regain some of that happiness you once had through happy memories.