The consequences of today are determined by our thoughts & actions of the past. To change your future, alter your thoughts & actions today. There is never a better time then the present.
1.“Action is the foundational key to all success.†– Pablo Picasso
2.“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.†– Jim Rohn
ie by changing nothing, nothing changes. You can’t expect to be doing the same thing, thinking the same thing and then expecting a differet outcome. ie a positive 2012. We are but the product of our habits & thoughts ~ if they are poor then so shall you be. Instead of looking at only negative things, go join up or just read positive websites.
Hell if all i did everyday was come here, then i too would naturally be depressed because that then becomes my habit. Change your habits in everyday sense.
If your life is made up of 100% – try decide what percentage of the day do you fill it with positive thoughts/actions/habits vs negative %? Then you will know how you think.
It’s not enough to stare up the ‘steps of life’, we must climb them daily!
We all have abilities current and future if we work at them. The difference is how people use them. For good & positive or for less then good & negative. Agains, it’s your choices & thinking that defines you.
If you have anxiety, then nothing diminishes it faster then action. In life, if you never step forward, then you will always be standing in the same place? So step forward and make the changes in 2012 and beyond. It’s about taking daily positive steps, not just one big step, rather daily small steps to affect change.
Just remember, the best preparation for tomorrow, so to do the work today. There is no starting or finishing something, there is just doing something. Keep doing something positive and the tide will turn in all areas of life, from family, friendships, relationships, money, and life in general.
In the time it takes to whine and complain about something, you could have had a hundred positive ideas and done a number of positive things to chnage the thing you were whining and moaning about in the first place. No one likes a whiner and moaner, because they never achieve anything, so don’t become one in life. Take positive steps forward in 20012 & beyond.
But you need “committment” (so make it) to yourself and your steps / path forward, not get blown down as soon as a change of wind comes from the opposite direction. Are you a strong tree in the changing wind or a leaf getting blown around by life and the external environment as it changes daily? I don’t believe in too much luck. Or as they say, the harder i work, the luckier i get. Luck/Hope = Leaving things to chance and outside world. I believe in being harbingers of our fate, taking action and creating our own path and destiny in life. Your life is yours to create – Don’t let others do it for you. But nor should you create a poor one for yourself.
Just remember, the elevator to (an easy) life is ‘out of order’, you have to take the stairs upwards, one step at a time. We are made to persist. That’s how we find out who we are in the future. We are never the same person we were when we were 1, 2, 5, 10, 15, 18, 20, 25, 32, 40, 55, 75 are we? We are here to grow so remember this.
Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan ‘press on’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.†~ Calvin Coolidge
Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.
~Leo Buscaglia
And let me end it with my favourite philosopher/thinker ….
Do not try in life. There is no try ~ Yoda 🙂
Ad Astra As Pera has spoken …. have a nice 2012 (print this out if it helps you remember and stay committed to being positive in 2012). Good luck ~ Your Friend…(little minds ahve little worries, big minds have no time for it, nor should you ~). iF you ever want or need to chat, or seek some advice, or just a friend, always happt to oblige ~ just add my nicname here to 389@gmail.com or 389@hotmail.com (for msn)
ps just remember, For every minute you are angry/upset/anxious…. you lose sixty seconds of happiness 🙂
ps, some of you don’t forget this ~ The more you extend kindness to yourself, the more it will become your automatic response to others. – Wayne Dyer
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That was all very nicely said. However, it’s easier said than done. I am an anxious person, and I’m sure you’ve noticed. It can’t be changed by just thinking positively. I know because, I’ve tried it. I always go back to being anxious. I really think it’s just a part of me that won’t ever go away, no matter what. Even if someday I become a happy, productive person, I will ALWAYS be anxious. I also just want to say that while my depression may be situational, not everyone here is like that. Some people here, telling them to think positively, will do no good. It just doesn’t work like that.
AND, I can’t speak for everyone but, coming here everyday has actually increased my happiness. As weird as that may be. I like being able to talk to people I can relate to and can understand how I’m feeling. It did not perform miracles, since I’m still depressed. It did however, change my mind about commiting suicide.
I think you are a very nice person, with good intentions, just wanted to tell you those few things. I hope no one snaps at you for writing that. We don’t need anymore arguments on here.
“Hell if all i did everyday was come here, then i too would naturally be depressed because that then becomes my habit. Change your habits in everyday sense.”
No it’s better to come here and shame people.
Hey Good,
Nice to hear from you.
I actually don’t disagree with you for most of it, but i do for the key points, namely “I WILL ALWAYS BE ANXIOUS” ….
DON’T EVER ASSUME YOU will not/cannot grow/mature/become better, because it is inherently a terrible assumption. It defies the very concept of the universe ~ to grow/to evolve.
I do agree, JUST TELLING people to be positive etc isn’t enough. That is a starting point, but a very important starting point to any form of recovery or improvement in life. So the first part is this, many do not even get here!?
the mind works like this okay – it has reference points….. ie; in given situations, it refers to “memory reference points” which then give us our “reactionary/immediate” thoughts vs say be consciously aware of this (few are). These reference points are often a combination of positive & negative memories about everyday life.
When we pursue and have New positive experiences in life, with ourselves, moments of achievement, with others, our mind (our memory storage unit if you will), overwrites past memories with newer memories.
Your right words arent enough, but conscious (and i do mean conscious effort) in thinking and being AWARE of your thinking is THE most important……STARTING POINT…..(NOT END POINT) IN TAKING STEPS TOWARDS a more positive life
You might be surprised with yourself, but you are actually already, taking small steps
in gaining new positive experiences by obsessing less about your own, and helping others via this website and possibly others.
That said let me tell you a little story (ie nothing major). As a teen, i was relatively normal, but really shy as a kid and not every outspoken at all. I went to a good school of sorts, but other then a few close friends from primary (2-3) i didn’t have a lot of friends, was often anxious and hated anything to do with being the centre of attention etc (often normal teen angst issues perhaps?). In my final year, well i deicided i want to change subjects and off course, ‘the esteemed powers that be’ said no, you will have to stay down a year and repeat. Then a little voice inside me suddenly got big and said, UMM, NOO, NO WAY IM STAYING DOWN AS IM SMARTER THEN THAT. OFC, they all (ie 4 teachers) disagreed. So i said excellent, but stuff you, I’m out of here then.
At that point, i deicided Im no longer going to rely on others, but myself and i will do anything i set my mind too. I went to what is called TAFE, or an intermediary school between highschool & uni, and suddenly met all these new people who were kinda like me, starting afresh, didnt fit in into their old schools, but wanted to still be someone and were positive.
I made a lot of good friends and had new expereinces and came out of my shell ever since. If you met me now, you would never think i was shy. Granted, Im still what many call considered in their thinking, but i’ll happily voice my opinion be it positive or negative. The key i think is to be tactful, as that shows more considered thinking.
Everyone can disagree, but few do it well.
From the posts I’ve read about you, and forgive me because i don’t recall everything, you seem quite smart, capable, empathetic, aware and intelligent. These qualities will take you far in life if you are prepared to also show some resilience/perseverance ~ often the secret ingredient to life.
That said you know my email/msn, always happy to chat/befriend new people.
You disagree with my statement uttilini? Do you actually think it’s innacurate? Happy to hear yours….
Statement of facts, are still statements of fact, whether you/me/humanity like them or not ….maturity means acepting facts as they are and still doing your best…… i prefer facts over opinions, the world is full of opinions that bear no resemblance to reality ….they usually take you further
That said, if you think that statement is wrong always happy to hear other alternatives. I occasionaly may not word things as well as they could be, but you shouldn’t miscontrue my intention as wanting to cast shame , moreso promote a higher self understanding/awareness.
If some people don’t like that, that’s perfectly okay. I don’t get my value from others.
Some people LOVE their negativity so much, they wear it like a badge of (miscontrued) honour. They dress that way, their body posture hangs that way, amost defiant in their attitude, and if/when you try say something positive or help them, they become so defensive, as if you are attacking their honour or quality of thinking (usually poor which is why they are struggling).
In reality, all they are doing is clinging to their ‘intellectual indentity’ they created/fostered over some time. Being negative takes “a considerable investment” (it aint easy) in time and effort and thought……, but so does being positive. The question is again, one of choices…..which one pays off more?
Obviously you disagree with my statement too. I don’t have the energy to argue with you. What I said was more for others than you. You are having fun preaching to people who are down and out, telling them that they are just being weak and moaning and whining and moping. That’s your choice.
utt,
Not here to fight with you either my friend …. but i stand by what i said yep ….
“If” you choose to respond negatively to positivity, thats entirely your choice isn;t it? …. i would argue negativity is regress and takes you back, positivity is progress and takes you forward.
Thats a pretty simple roadmap for life for everyone.
What you say is very interesting and you sound quite bright and intellegent,i wish i could stop being anxious but thats how my brain is wired ive suffered from it all my life…i think of myself as a forward thinking soul and im always interested to hear what you have to say i dont moan or mope or weep or sit in s corner feeling sorry for myself i do that here on this site but nowhere else this is my safe place that i can ***** and moan and share my anxiety problems i stay active and busy and distract myself by writting and reading what everyone has to say some of your posts like this one are really big and too much to take in i say keep it simple and it will be more helpful …are you a dr or something???
Molly,
You sound lovely & quite genuine and dare i say it, with quite a robust intellect & resolve, based on what Ive read so far.
Who I am doesnt really matter, it’s who you are that does….focus on that and then be that.
As AdAsra says, Just remember, the elevator to (an easy) life is ‘out of order’, you have to take the stairs upwards, one step at a time. We are made to persist”
@adastra, First off, thank you for the compliments. :]
I appreciate you using a more scientific approach to how your memories work and such. Facts not opinions, like you said, right?
I do agree that making a conscious effort to be positive can help, I know it’s helped other people. Apparently it’s helped you. I just have such a hard time with it.
Based on what you’ve written on here, I would never have guessed you to be shy, ever. That suprised me. So thanks for sharing your little story.
Ahhh, I always have this problem where someone writes a lot back to me and I don’t really know what to say. Forgive me. lol
So Molly,
Let me ask a simply qs if i may?
What makes you anxious?
ps ofc people are allowed to ***** n moan, most will just find it unproductive in the end ….
GG,
Like I said, anyone can add me to email/msn…. please feel free.
Like i said before, nothing ever stays exactly the same, so don’t think it does. It’s not fixed. Life and people evolve in many directions. It can always improve with some effort & awareness. Rather then always wait for others to help, take the initiative in 2012.
Stay well everyone, I got some home things to do @ the house.
“Just remember, the elevator to (an easy) life is ‘out of order’, you have to take the stairs upwards, one step at a time. We are made to persist.”
ps: ive said it before, it’s also usually ‘quite intelligent’ people (both young n old) who ‘overwhelm’ themselves to such a anxious state, they usually can’t think straight …. i think this applies to many here ….;)
and ps1 GG, never be afraid to express your opinion/thoughts, even if wrong. Lord knows I am often 🙂 (well not that often 🙂 🙂 🙂 haha.
Here’s to a better 2012 to all of you okay….
It’s all about the ‘Law of Attraction’. This post sparks good stuff!
“ive said it before, it’s also usually ‘quite intelligent’ people (both young n old) who ‘overwhelm’ themselves to such a anxious state, they usually can’t think straight …. i think this applies to many here”
If this is true adastra, I’m a genius. ;]
ahahah.
“never be afraid to express your opinion/thoughts, even if wrong.”
I’m glad people keep pointing this out to me. I never realized how bad I am with that until I came on here.
Thank you. :]
well you post all the time now taylor, so I’d say your getting better at it.
I think you’re right, Carolyn. :]
I think she is too 😉
yay im right for once!
ps: you may well be a genius, you just never know … or possibly just plain smart …. either way, you seem a nice human being …. often that is enough for some people ….
I am looking forward to seeing/hearing how you pave a positive path forward next year. Need help along the way, just ask …. happy to offer my 4 cents …
solitary, if i was as smart as you and GG at your age, christ almighty ….. i could be like lex luther running the world (or trying b4 superman foils my dastardly plots) 🙂
You are both smart cookies, don’t ever let negative things or people overwhelm you. Stay strong and positive and I promise with a little bit of work, life gets better. Talk to people you respect, whether here or real life.
Our thoughts can sometimes run like ‘a tape/cd’ on automatic and it often takes other people whom we like / respect to press the pause or stop button, or better yet, change the tape/cd to something new.
Being smart and isolated is fine for small bouts of time, but never for any length of time, simply because after a while, all we here are our own thoughts.
In the meantime, because you are multi-dimensional individuals, whilst you may be addressing aspects of your life you don’t like, don’t forget to focus on other aspects you may like or at least have some interest in. Join other fourms to meet / discuss things you may be interested in. Don’t spend too much time here.
Peace for 2012.
this sounds sort of forever alone, but i like it here. i know that i have to leave sometime, but not now. i do things im interested in, and that takes up eighter hoours a week, but at night, i will always end up here
lol, adastra, I like that lex luther comment.
“Being smart and isolated is fine for small bouts of time, but never for any length of time, simply because after a while, all we here are our own thoughts.” Ain’t that the truth.
I agree with you, Carolyn, for now, I’m good with being on here. I know that it won’t be forever though.
hmm forever…i wonder how long tht is for me
Well, the average life expectancy is about 78 years. So forever would be that long. lol
That is, if you don’t off yourself. I don’t want you to off yourself, Carolyn. You’re still so young.
but I’ve lived beyond my years…and I’d like to end everyday in school when i hear something and burst out crying. too many memories…and too many people know. just today another friend found out. my hand was freshly ripped up and i was on sp…she guessed correctly.
But you’re barely even a teenager, there’s still so much living you haven’t done. One thing I have to say is, school doesn’t last forever. It’s over with before you know it. And the people you go to school with, what they think of you, won’t matter in the long run.
i don;t really care what they think of me. why else would one day i wear all black and black eyeliner, and the next wear bowties button ups, and spoons and forks in my hair? anyway, all i see in my future is pain and failure. I’m going to die anyway.
You know one thing you have going for you? Intelligence. When I was twelve I couldn’t articulate like you can. You can have a really bright future, Carolyn. You just have to focus on the good attributes you have. Don’t give up on yourself. Yes, you are going to die someday. Everyone does but, why not give yourself a chance at life first?
umm…..what is articulate? i know that this doesn’t reinforce my vocabulary…
It means able to express thoughts and feelings clearly.
good to know
I find myself smiling proudly to watch you guys help and support each other – it’s infectious 🙂
dawg
hmmmmmmmm having a lot of random ideas that don’t make sense….
@SW – such as? let make sense of them 🙂
well, sometimes i can’t tack them down. and when i do, they sound like the idiotic ideas of a six year old on crack.
I’m sure the “idea of a “motorized carriage” seemed idiotic when there were plenty of horses around to pull a regular carriage anywhere it needed to be 😉
Some ideas will be silly and others may be brilliant – but daring to think and dream is the very heart and soul of America itself!
no its obvious ideas like, why doesn’t Obama talk to clinton about the debt crisis? Under Clinton we were able to bring it down.
Trust me – they do talk – just not publicly known because the teabaggers would run around saying he’s an idiot and doesn’t have an original thought … besides, even if Obama and Clinton came up with the most brilliant plan ever, the tebagging reApublicans would never bass it because it came from that “commie Kenyan black guy”
🙁
Dawg
* Pass … not bass
Maaaannn, there aint no relationship with the President and the people,,, HA FAWK NOTHING FUCKEN MAKE SENSE!!!! HAAAAA!!! like a fucken somekind of ….. mechanical mindless setting where things are just the way they… where things are just the way they are … and nothing fucken matters .. Ha.
Like somekind of fucken Matrix Ha Ha Ha…
like somekind of fucken Matrix ….
*im just wandering around singing my thoughts
X-boy, how old are you? and about the government, Dawg is right, teabagers just suck. they wont do anything right. so yeah, they screw things up and i doesnt make sense
im 21, solitary you should straight out become PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! seriously
are you kidding? I’d be assassinated in like a month, and every bill would be vetoed that i’d try to pass. I am a huge fan of gay marridge (and its not because I’m a homosexual) and I would be seen as week because I’m a woman. The republicans would hate me more than Obama, and nothing would get done. 🙁
Nah – you’d do fine as Prez – besides by the time you’re 35, which if memory serves me, is the minimum age to become Prez, gay marriage rights will be well established – and you wouldn’t be the 1st woman Prez because I thing Hillary will run after Obama wins his 2nd term 😉
President Walker – has a good strong sound to it 🙂
is that your last name? If I don’t change it it will be President Shannon. Ha, i remember when my parents first told me about the outrage of a catholic prez…imagine america with a hindu one.
Like a fucken Matrix ha ha ha
Where half the World is mechanically set to … Spiritual Repressed
Where the other half (experimental) thrown into the mix
And only the brave ones shall arise uncomforming to this.. Order of Life
No – I was using the “walker” pat of “solitarywalker” … yeah – there was kind of an uproar about JFK – but that was just a bit before my time – as for Hindu – it shouldn’t matter
dawg
while i wonder
I ponder
the mysteries of the world
the wars fought
and what we ought
to do
yet my journey
seems lonely
a solitary walker am I
while the others, gone
have sprouted wings to fly
I ponder
as I wonder
in a lonely wood
what I am
What I can
if I am for good.
oOo
whats the O’s about?
im saying ‘ oOo ‘ ..
like… ‘ oOo intErestinG ‘
you are so odd…:D
xboy, why do you capitalize some of your letters? just wondering
why? well…. i dont have an answer for that haha,
😀 I meet the strangest people, many of which don’t even know how old I am. you included.
why the name x-boy?
Who you calling “strange”? LOL
well, that would make me a hypocrite (did i spell that correctly?)
Perfect 😉
yes!
X-boy
cause X marks the spot o_o
just kidding…
*~ iono ~* _ just because
such a world we’re in
when every matter contemplates
everything you do
random haiku…
::Like::
🙂
im glad you do
word.
i could see you as a rapper, defiantly.
Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.
Solitary/GG you’re hijacking my thread damn it! 🙂 🙂
Solitary what the…. why are you even thinking about the debt crisis?
Let the silly adults, with their PHDs, MBAs, fix it – your 14… as damn smart as you are, you’re job is to have ‘some fun’ in life as a teen and sure, work hard at school.
I have NOOo doubt I will one day see you in some high public post, and say damn, I knew that girl when she was young. Now look at her….i wonder if she will remember lil ole me…..?
Stay good pples…
I’m twelve 😀 I just wish that i could make a larger smiley face, it would suit better the real thing. I’m concerned about this country, if I somehow get over being suicidal, i will be the future, And of course I will remember you, I remember conversations from when i was three and a half. Its kind of scary….And as for the MBA’s and PHD’s, I know many people that have them (they are from the college my parents work at) that i can right better papers than. So maybe I should think about these things when I’m younger, and get into more serious stuff when im older, the things that interest me more (Ebola for example)
But, we’re just so good at hijacking threads. ;]
Hmm … youngsters doing things they aren’t supposed to … I’m Shocked, SHOCKED I telz ya!
Don’t give yourself a heart attack dawg
Ha – I couldn’t get so lucky! 😀
tee hee
You are evil child! LOL
you know it grandpa 😀
damn you smart kids, you are going to make me looking foolish!!
Quick ~ think of something smart to say ~ oops, i have nothin 🙁
Seriously though, have your parents ever thought of putting you in an advanced school? That said, that can be a lot of pressure to do well and good things will come in good time when you are ready to tackle complex issues like say ebola … *lolz*
You have the mind of a scientist, and the heart of Mother Theresa.
I wish you well in your journey padma (star wars), stay strong & positive. Let your light shine & urs too GG.
The world doesnt need so much good girls, rather it needs girls who are willing to make a difference and buck conventions. Be those girls …
I think Einsten said it best, … Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Albert Einstein
GG, Be good, but don’t be too good, to let others walk over you either. Because their is always some weak sod that will, it’s the only way they feel powerful, by abusing when there is no resistance. As soon as there is some resistance, they back off, or run, or even cry.
Jesus said turn the other cheek when you are slapped. Yeah okay, i can see it’s merits, but i’m more inclined to say, “If you slap me once, I’ll slap you twice. If you slap me twice, I’ll slap you four times”.
Good people will never abuse you, but sadly, not everyone is good. Hence don’t care too much about what poor people say or think (be they past present or future).
Don’t let poor thinking (your own or others) define you …..
AdAstraPerAspera (from the future 🙂
It’s hard to ignore people when they are beating you physically.
utts
did you read my other post in response to your post?
Are you still suffering from physical violence?
Yeah I read it.
ok then. All im saying is dont let your past define your future. You cant control past actions but you can control future ones.
Is that all you’re saying?
In summary, I am saying don’t let the past contaminate your future yes …. you seem genuinely decent.
YOu are saying “Get over it”
Wouldn’t be so bad though, to let go of the past and move on.
Hm… lots of comments on this post. I am not going through all of ’em so I have no clue what is going on here. A disagreement perhaps?