I’m Dani. So I guess I’ll repeat what why I’m feeling down. My boyfriend just broke up with me. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t care. I’m a sophomore in college and ever since I got here, everything just goes to hell. Fall semester, Freshman year I lived with this girl who I hate and all of the girls I lived with stopped talking to me even though I tried to be nice to them. Spring semester, my 3 closest friends betrayed me and I lost another friend because of it. Fall semester, this year, my best friend stopped talking to me after I quit pledging for this sorority we were doing together. And now this. I just feel completely hopeless and I’m literally scared of moving forward with my life because I’m worried that any new pain will send me over the edge. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
Depressed. My boyfriend just broke up with me. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t care. I’m a sophomore in college and ever since I got here, everything just goes to hell. Fall semester, Freshman year I lived with this girl who I hate and all of the girls I lived with stopped talking to me even though I tried to be nice to them. Spring semester, my 3 closest friends betrayed me and I lost another friend because of it. Fall semester, this year, my best friend stopped talking to me after I quit pledging for this sorority we were doing together. And now this. I just feel completely hopeless and I’m literally scared of moving forward with my life because I’m worried that any new pain will send me over the edge. Sorry kind of over shared..
As a fellow (former) college student, and a participant in Greek life, I’ll tell you that this is a hard time, especially when things stack up this drastically. People are really coming into their own at this point, and deciding who they want to be, who they want to hang out with, and what they want to do. Unfortunately, that can mean some friendships will be left behind. A lot of mine were when my buddies pledged or moved into different social circles. This could also explain the friend who stopped talking after you left pledging. She’s in a different circle, and it’s her choice, but it doesn’t reflect on you. If I have one piece of advice, and one that’s worked for me, it’s to find something you truly enjoy doing, and an organization that will help you do it. There are usually tons for any interest on a college campus. You’ll be around people who are into a lot of the same things you are, which makes for a great basis for new friends. Also, most colleges have a counseling center that’s free for students. It’s completely confidential, and in times of crisis, can actually be a really good lifeline. Take care of yourself first and foremost. And things will get better. Besides, graduation’s not that far away, and no reason to miss that.
I’m in counseling. It doesn’t make me feel better and plus I’m terrified to tell the counselor how I’m feeling because the last time I came in feeling this depressed he sent me to the hospital and I was kept there for 2 days.
Hey Dani. I’m sorry all of those terrible things happened to you. It is a bit much to go through..seems like you wanna talk and share. I care about whats going on in your life and things will probably get worse but they will always get better sooner or later. You’ll graduate and have everything you wanted. Forget about those who’ve wronged you because YOU are doing fine and YOU are on the right path for what YOU wanna do 🙂 I’m sure youre gorgeous and can have just about anyone at that school 🙂
You’re really nice. And I get what you’re saying but right now I feel ugly and I feel like I’m just going through the motions. I’m basically just letting my life pass me by and the worst part is.. I just don’t care, Right now I’m an English major, because it’s the only subject I’m good at, just so I don’t fail out of college. I don’t even want to do anything in English. I don’t know what I want for my future.
You can always request a different counselor. If you’re in a position where you can’t discuss it, then counseling’s going to be ineffective. I know with mine I discussed specifically that I was not going to accept being sent to the hospital because I didn’t have a suicide plan, merely suicidal feelings. But that’s just in my home state (California). Hopefully there are other counselors on hand who will be more understanding to your situation.
When I tried to resist going, he said I had no choice. And I had to be escorted by the campus police. I think all the counselors react that way to anyone who says they have suicidal feelings.
Dont feel ugly. Breakups are hard. EVERY ONE is hard..but you ALWAYS get through and wonder why the hell you were so depressed in the first place. Im going through that stage right now. -_- At least youre TRYING. Thats not letting your life pass you by. Youre doing better than most and youre smarter than most(you wont believe how many people in my class need help writing essays or research papers..and we’re in COLLEGE) *sigh* you can do whatever you want..why? because youre smart, young and beautiful. Believe it or not, youre one of the lucky ones 🙂 Keep your chin up 🙂
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I’m Dani. So I guess I’ll repeat what why I’m feeling down. My boyfriend just broke up with me. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t care. I’m a sophomore in college and ever since I got here, everything just goes to hell. Fall semester, Freshman year I lived with this girl who I hate and all of the girls I lived with stopped talking to me even though I tried to be nice to them. Spring semester, my 3 closest friends betrayed me and I lost another friend because of it. Fall semester, this year, my best friend stopped talking to me after I quit pledging for this sorority we were doing together. And now this. I just feel completely hopeless and I’m literally scared of moving forward with my life because I’m worried that any new pain will send me over the edge. I just don’t know what to do anymore.
I’m awake..always 🙂 How are you?
Depressed. My boyfriend just broke up with me. Ordinarily, I wouldn’t care. I’m a sophomore in college and ever since I got here, everything just goes to hell. Fall semester, Freshman year I lived with this girl who I hate and all of the girls I lived with stopped talking to me even though I tried to be nice to them. Spring semester, my 3 closest friends betrayed me and I lost another friend because of it. Fall semester, this year, my best friend stopped talking to me after I quit pledging for this sorority we were doing together. And now this. I just feel completely hopeless and I’m literally scared of moving forward with my life because I’m worried that any new pain will send me over the edge. Sorry kind of over shared..
As a fellow (former) college student, and a participant in Greek life, I’ll tell you that this is a hard time, especially when things stack up this drastically. People are really coming into their own at this point, and deciding who they want to be, who they want to hang out with, and what they want to do. Unfortunately, that can mean some friendships will be left behind. A lot of mine were when my buddies pledged or moved into different social circles. This could also explain the friend who stopped talking after you left pledging. She’s in a different circle, and it’s her choice, but it doesn’t reflect on you. If I have one piece of advice, and one that’s worked for me, it’s to find something you truly enjoy doing, and an organization that will help you do it. There are usually tons for any interest on a college campus. You’ll be around people who are into a lot of the same things you are, which makes for a great basis for new friends. Also, most colleges have a counseling center that’s free for students. It’s completely confidential, and in times of crisis, can actually be a really good lifeline. Take care of yourself first and foremost. And things will get better. Besides, graduation’s not that far away, and no reason to miss that.
I’m in counseling. It doesn’t make me feel better and plus I’m terrified to tell the counselor how I’m feeling because the last time I came in feeling this depressed he sent me to the hospital and I was kept there for 2 days.
Hey Dani. I’m sorry all of those terrible things happened to you. It is a bit much to go through..seems like you wanna talk and share. I care about whats going on in your life and things will probably get worse but they will always get better sooner or later. You’ll graduate and have everything you wanted. Forget about those who’ve wronged you because YOU are doing fine and YOU are on the right path for what YOU wanna do 🙂 I’m sure youre gorgeous and can have just about anyone at that school 🙂
You’re really nice. And I get what you’re saying but right now I feel ugly and I feel like I’m just going through the motions. I’m basically just letting my life pass me by and the worst part is.. I just don’t care, Right now I’m an English major, because it’s the only subject I’m good at, just so I don’t fail out of college. I don’t even want to do anything in English. I don’t know what I want for my future.
You can always request a different counselor. If you’re in a position where you can’t discuss it, then counseling’s going to be ineffective. I know with mine I discussed specifically that I was not going to accept being sent to the hospital because I didn’t have a suicide plan, merely suicidal feelings. But that’s just in my home state (California). Hopefully there are other counselors on hand who will be more understanding to your situation.
When I tried to resist going, he said I had no choice. And I had to be escorted by the campus police. I think all the counselors react that way to anyone who says they have suicidal feelings.
Dont feel ugly. Breakups are hard. EVERY ONE is hard..but you ALWAYS get through and wonder why the hell you were so depressed in the first place. Im going through that stage right now. -_- At least youre TRYING. Thats not letting your life pass you by. Youre doing better than most and youre smarter than most(you wont believe how many people in my class need help writing essays or research papers..and we’re in COLLEGE) *sigh* you can do whatever you want..why? because youre smart, young and beautiful. Believe it or not, youre one of the lucky ones 🙂 Keep your chin up 🙂
Thank you so much =)