I doubt anyone would take a look at this. But I have no one else to turn to. I have screwed up my life so tremendously, I feel that I have no other choice but to kill myself. My boyfriend, the one whom I love more than life itself, saw that I was texting my ex. I was just texting him to see how he was doing, but my bf had told me explicitly that he didn’t want me talking to him. Now he is calling me a liar and that I’m going to regret ever lying to him. I don’t know what he’s going to do; post pictures of me, tell my family about what I have done with him; I don’t know. I haven’t been completely honest with him before about my history, which is why he is so upset. I feel horrible, like trash, like a dirty slut and whore. I wish I had never been born. I want to kill myself, because I am so tired of life, of disappointing others, of not living to other’s expectations. I’m so tired of putting up this facade just to placate those around me. I wish I could escape and not have these people pestering me all the time. I hate myself; for being the complacent one, the one who never stands up for herself, the one who is always getting stepped on and manipulated. I want to die, but I can’t find the courage to take away the life my mother tried so hard to create. I wish I can somehow just cease to exist, and I won’t have to think about the consequences. I hate myself so much, and I hate him for making me feel this way. I didn’t know he was like that. I wouldn’t have dreamed that he would be one to threaten me like that. Everyone will know how messed up you are, he said. It seems like I am always making the same mistakes and never learning from them. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am just waiting to see what will happen.
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@mwea
You are not what he claims you are. If he wants to start trouble, let him. It will just prove he is a manipulating jackass. When it comes to learning from your mistakes…well that is not easy. I have continued to repeat foolish choices over and over. Now that I’m older it seems a lot easier to make the right choice.
Don’t let him think he’s in control. You are!
Iron
hello you know give thanks god you foot have this boyfriend anymore remember when one door is close is because 100 more will open for you believe in yourself and call your ex and tell him go and fuck his mother you deserve more besos
I agree with Iron. If he does what he says he is going to do, then he isnt worth being with, and he is just a jackass. If he really loves you he wouldnt do those things to hurt you just because you made such a small mistake. When you love someone you want to protect them no matter what, not make them feel like crap.
Loyalty, friendship, love, respect.
These are to be earned and help sacred.
He has toyed with yours
You deserve more
based on that single post: you’ll always perceive yourself as a mess and failure as long as you don’t want to take responsibility for your actions and well-being
also, you should google self-sabotage
Not helpful,
Let’s reframe this for empowerment;
Mwea, your thinking and dwelling over this are causing feelings and your feelings around all that has happened are causing crisis. This is often the case in suicidal ideation.
You deserve to have friends who respect you.
You are allowed to txt and talk to whom ever you want, love isn’t control.
No one should control you.
You can choose you friends just as they can choose you.
Don’t blame yourself for all of this.
Take care of yourself.
I want you to make it through this, to heal.
You are already becoming the beautiful perfect person you hope to be.
It just doesn’t feel like that yet, does it?
That’s ok, all of your feelings are valid and important.
Accept them, accept yourself, as I accept you.
Peace
I don’t remember appointing you to assess my posts ….
a) clearly, I’m not here to play a benevolent parental figure
b) maybe reading about self-sabotage could give her some insight on what leads her to making the same mistakes as she stated .. it doesn’t imply all the blame should be put on her
Sometimes, but not here, I actually am appointed, oddly enough.
But here I simply wish to be a voice advocating for the view that suicidal ideation is, much more complex than the thoughts in our head, much more subtle than the cuts on our arms, and much more prevalent then we realize.
Like any first aid there are guidelines;
Do not judge
Do not make a promise you cannot keep
Do not blame
Do not advise
And yes, in this place, to fulfill my wish, I appointed myself.
Peace
oddly enough, I can’t care less..
you may want to add do not patronize on your list
I still care, always, always.
Good luck