I just read a definition for suicide calling it a cry for help. It really annoyed me, because in my opinion it’s the exact opposite. Suicide happens when we feel there is no help to be given whatsoever, suicide is when we can’t help ourselves and can’t be helped by anyone else. Suicide is deciding that we’ve had enough of this fucking world and don’t want any help staying in it. The only way suicide could possibly be a cry for help would be if it was a purposely messy and obvious attempt, or if the person told a shitload of people their plans, or if it was just a verbal threat, never put into action or something along those lines. Suicide is not in any way a cry for help.
It’s the same with self harm too. People seem to think that people who hurt themselves are doing it for attention, or because they want someone to see how unhappy they are. No. People who truly hurt themselves do it for the act of feeling pain, just something to erase the numbness, or to make it possible to think straight just for a short while, or to have some visual representation of internal hurting, or because they’re angry and want to punish themselves and for loads of other reasons. Very few self harmers do it for people to see or notice, they do it for themselves, whether as a coping mechanism or otherwise.
And this is the case with so many other problems people have. Whether we talk to people about them or not, we’re still considered to be feeling this way for attention or something, like it’s a fucking choice we have. Like we wouldn’t love to be happy and oblivious to the crap in the world and our lives. I’d give anything to be a happy, stable, safe and lovable person instead of this broken, suicidal and emotionally unstable girl who’s too scared to feel anything. But I can’t be because I’m in too deep. And people don’t understand that this isn’t a call for help at all, it’s simply my way of coping and it’s just the way things are and always will be for some of us.
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Absolutely. Most of society, I think, believes that if we really needed help we wouldn’t cut. That we would go seek help. Sort of like if you get shot, you wouldn’t crawl around showing where you got shot, but instead you would seek help because it hurts too much. That’s just what I’ve observed.
Nevertheless there’s this big chunk of society that is just ignorant. There are people that are too afraid to seek help, and sometimes seeking help has more consequences than not. For example, if an employer researches your medical background and sees that you were suicidal or cut yourself, they might believe you’re too unstable to be professional. It’s stupid but that happens.
Also there’s a lot of people that just want to ignore that everything isn’t glamorous. They want to believe that nobody’s hurting or has a good reason to because it gives them hope. There’s much more to that but…I’ve rambled long enough.
I’m not saying it’s good to cope by cutting or that anyone should commit suicide. If you’re hurting that much though, it doesn’t matter what people think. Find someone who won’t absolutely make you seek professional help and will stay with you to make sure that you don’t hurt yourself.
Is it a cry for help if you just tell one person.. even when there is no chance of finding a solution? What would that be called? an awkward conversation?
I agree with you.. though most people that commit suicide do not simply want to die. They just figured that it was the only way to end the pain.. in my opinion.
Agree. I have nothing more to say
I could not agree more. One of the things I dread the most is people finding my cuts from self-harm. I’m terrified of people judging me and absolutely could never tolerate someone calling me an attention-seeker!