I got really annoyed today in school. In my first lesson I got called out by the counsellor, I was confused because I sorted it out all before. ( I told her I would stop cutting and she believed me) So anyway she comes and tells me someone has told her i’ve been cutting again. I was like WTF because I havn’t cut since before.  So we had a massive chat about stuff and then she says if I get called out again she would have to tell parents. And this is supposed to be confidential WTF.
When I eventually got back to class I told my friend that someone had told the counsellor about me again she said “Sure, Even if you did cut a lot of people know it but thats your business anyway they should stay out of it”  Then when I told her the counsellor would tell my parents if i was called out again she replied “What the hell is her freaking problem. Confidential my ass.”  It was highly amusing to watch my friend rage about the counsellor!
So anyway my main points were:
- Who the hell would tell the counsellor about something I havn’t even done.
- And how hypocritical can you get calling your sessions ‘Confident Confessions’ then saying im going to tell your parents.
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Yeah. Stupid cow.
Well ur friend was rather vocal, if it was me thats where id start…
well her telling your mom and dad something you didnt do makes her a lier, an no better then the people who lied about you
I think a lot of psychiatrists/psychologists/counsellors don’t follow the confidentiality guidelines and disregard the confidentiality requirements as they see fit.
I know and they shouldn’t. I don’t know whether councillors are bound by any guidlines though. If you are under age then I suppose they can override it.
Basically the reason she said they might have to tell your parents is because its their duty as a counsellor to make sure you are safe and if they think you are at risk of hurting yourself or being in any potential danger they have a right to tell someone like a teacher, a parent or even the police when crime etc is involved. That was the first thing they told me when I started counselling and she should have told you that. But I agree she is being pathetic, I think maybe she is trying to make sure she is doing her job properly but in your case I really don’t think she would need to see your parents. This is a school counsellor isnt it? there rubbish. I had professional counselling which had nothing to do with school that was much better. in future though If I were you I would be careful who you tell about your private life, like friends because thats how rumours start!
I agree with nikkix. In any counselor’s guidelines, they are required to break confidentiality if they feel that something is actually going to happen (causing harm to others or self). But, she may feel that those rumors MIGHT be true, so she’s probably overworried and wants to be cautious. Depending on the circumstances, the more worry that a counselor has, there might have been someone in her life who took their own life and probably demonstrated some signs but she didn’t notice the signs and probably feels like she failed that person. Most likely, she just doesn’t want to lose someone else (though you aren’t close or family). Take care.
Well nikkix I would be careful on who I tell but plenty of people already know iv’e cut in the past but most people didn’t ask about it because they knew its a personal subject.
And also she has no reason to break confidentiality because she knows from before I didn’t cut that deep.
Here is some information you might be interested in: http://www.school-counseling-zone.com/confidentiality.html
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