I told my boyfriend last night that at the age of 12 I was sexually violated. In the dark, held down, “wrestled with”, and touched inappropraitely. My cousin and I were just supposed to wrestle to see who was stronger….atleast thats what he told me. Then it turned into something sexual for him. I felt very violated…even at the age of 12 I knew that what had happened was wrong. I told my mom but she did nothing about it. It’s like just because I was 12 doesn’t make it a big deal…no one believes a 12 year old.
Well I told my boyfriend and he got very upset but I wouldn’t tell him who had done it to me. The reason for that was because he and my cousin are best friends. Well he got mad that I wouldn’t tell him so in teh end I did tell him. Now he says I’m wrong and that my cousin would never do something like that. He won’t believe me. The thing is though is that my cousin did the same thing again but to someone else just a couple of months ago. Nobody knows cause the girl doesn’t want anyone to know. I respect that.
It hurts that my boyfriend is choosing not to believe me… I don’t know what to do. It is hurting me but I don’t want to break up with him just cause he doesn’t believe me, but I mean it is a serious subject. What haappened was serious. I just don’t know what to do.
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I hope you find a way b4 judgement day, but I have no knowledge in this area. God bless you
I wrote a post on here a while back called;
the Symptom Bearer.
It describes the way family systems create and keep secrets, often harming those who are the most vulnerable.
You sound smart, you seem to already be aware of the trauma this has caused for you.
It doesn’t matter who else believes you,
I believe you
We believe you
You should find a trusted adult to talk to about this and so should the other victim.
Your healing is what is important.
Good luck
im sorry though iv been a similar situation, with my sister, in which she stripped and told me to like her out (which i didnt; i told my mom who only said not to that) i dont know what to do either.
I believe you too. I agree with the Guardian – is there any adult in your family that you could talk to about it? I would give your boyfriend time to digest it – it sounds like he’s in a difficult spot. But just because you were 12 doesn’t mean it didn’t happen and people should listen. That is very serious and hurtfull. Email me if you’d like.
I told my mom. The other victim was my sis which happened to her only seven months ago. It brought up alot of pain. Thank u for the nice comments…caring words.