Laid off from job. Applied for numerous other jobs and never heard back. Finally got a new job, absolutely hate it. I want to quit, but I have a fear that I won’t be happy in any job I find with the career I’ve chosen… though it can certainly be better than where I”m currently at.
Nearly 30 years old. Never had a girlfriend. Never kissed a girl. Longest “relationship” is 3 dates with a girl that was rather mean.
Socially awkward. I have no friends and don’t know how to connect with other human beings in the world. When talking with people I simply can’t understand them or think about what to say in a conversation. Went out with a girl from college 2 weekends in a row just recently. It would be stretch to call them dates. Not sure why she wanted to hang out with me; hadn’t heard from her in years. We go out and she brings along a friend of hers as well (didn’t tell me). She maybe says 1 sentence to me the entire time I’m there, instead, opting to talk to her friend the entire time while ignoring me. Not sure what the point of that is. Probably won’t go out with them again… makes me more depressed because it just brings the problems of my life to the forefront. Not being able to understand people.
I think I’m justified? It’s certainly not going to get better. I have a pretty sh*tty track record even when I make legit attempts to improve things. I even joined a dating site hoping to at least find a friend. That went miserably. I met one person… this was the 2nd girl I ever went out with. We went on 2 dates. It was over pretty fast.
Oh well, this was fun rambling.
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well the economy sucks so getting laid off and having to settle for a job you don’t like well it sucks but it happens. As to the rest socially ackward and all that I can commiserate with, but I have no idea how to overcome it. Things might get better the job market might pick up and if you end up with a stable job making decent money that could help you with getting into a relationship.
Sadly I wasn’t laid off due to the economy. I was laid off because my boss didn’t want to deal with a difficult client anymore so he thought it was worth canning employees over working out the differences. Another instance of me not understanding people. Did he just not care?
I was first to leave the job and have yet to hear of anyone else leaving. I felt a lot of pressure to hurry and find a new job and it didn’t seem like anyone else was getting the same pressure. In, perhaps my damaged mind, I felt like it was a ploy to get rid of me in a round-a-bout way while everyone else happily kept their job thus far and now I’m stuck with a horrible job that I hate waking up to every morning.
…but I digress :). As for the “get into a relationship” thing. I’m nearly 30. I think it’s too late to start at this point… I lied to the first girl I went out with. I did tell her I was a virgin which immediately put her off. I guess that was a mistake. I lied and told her I had relationships before her though.
well you still have your education and your training, so you didn’t get along well with that one boss, that doesn’t keep you from looking for other jobs that might be more to your liking while keeping the one you have until you find something. As far as girls well I have about 0% chance of finding one that would have me so I am no good for giving advice there lol but there are plenty that post here maybe one of them can give you some ideas 😀
geez. a virgin is like a fucking gold pendant. i wish i found one of those but as for everything else. i’m sorry i cant relate
makes me feel like a punk actually cause it seems that you have a shitload more reasons than me… & they’re rock solid reasons too
(sorry for the potty mouth)
Yes I believe I have good reasons to stop caring about myself.
I have a good family though. My Mom and Dad are truly amazing. If they were gone there wouldn’t even be a debate in my mind about whether I should keep going on and hoping it gets better. But sometimes that’s not enough to quell my thoughts that ending the sadness would be such a good thing.
I’ve thought about trying to get a job in another state… start fresh. I’ve been unable to find one though. This would mean leaving my family as well. Maybe forcing myself to adapt will create change. Either that or it will break me.
Thanks for the comments guys. It feels nice to talk about it because I certainly would never speak of this to someone in my own life. Although, if I were looking at me from an outside point of view I would think it would be pretty obvious that something isn’t right… that I’m very sad. No one has said anything to me about it, though, except once and it was quickly forgotten about. These are the people that should care about my well-being. I kinda wish they would reach out to me.
Hey there i am 19 in college and i am still a virgin.GOD!it means nothing and dont know why you should make so much fuss about it.you re a guy and from where i come from those re gems.just read works on self esteem boost and how to present urself and start a conversation thats all.you can find those online.and another thing learn to always keep talking.
At least hire a hooker before you kill yourself, not a hooker a call girl service and let the magic happen. Paid for sex there is no connection, its all about you the client getting off, who cares if you only last 5 minutes, your not there to prove anything.
They all try to upsell when they get to you, just screw’em and they leave.
Hell I might call one tomorrow, its been years since I used one yet they are everywhere in todays economy.
try a site called “backpage” whatever city your in, like backpagenewyork and go to the escorts section.
Your in luck because i’m an expert on everything.
Your girlfriend problem. Thats easier to solve than you think. You could try paying for a hooker or join an online dating site. I did the latter because it was much more cost effective.