Hi I’m 15. My name is Maddy. I gre up with a nanny because my brother was to young to take care of me and my mom always worked and when she was home she was taking care of my dad. He had brain cancer a brain cancer that no one makes it out alive. He did though he was suppose to die the year of getting it. He didn’t the doctors told my mom it was god but because of all the radilation and surgery he had problems he couldn’t see out of one eye never could remeber anything. He only rememberEd things well that happened before all this. And what thiwhat’s to do with me? Well I was the child born after the cancer the one he forgot. Hs never remembered me. I knewnot was his sickness but it made me mad, I always told him I hated him and I made him mean. He was always calling me names telling me how much of a ***** I am. But it was because of his illneknow how now that he didn’t mean it he was frustrated I went years not telling him I loved him ignoring him arguing with him,. If be admitting to loving him then it would hurt when he was gone. He lived 17 years like this he passed away this September September 15, 2011. Be ause I was so horrible to him I always had depression andanxiety when he died it got worse he didn’t know how much I loved him i attwmpted suicde many times i ended up on pills and in a a hositpal more times then ive probbably like been to the movies or something like that. I don’t want to live with this regretbut I do.i should have been better to him, I’ve been a cutter I’ve done DIFFRENT drugs I just want to feel happy again. I cry probably everyday why am I alive everyone loved him he changed so many people’s lives for the besotted why couldn’t I see how amazing he was I’m that stupid ugly girl at school every girl bullies and gets away with I have like 3 friends that are actual friends and my biyfriend sometimesdoesnt even seem to care my brother parties hard and doesn’t give a fuck he’s 20 and living in his mothers basement. Then thinking of this all makes me remeber my mom lost the love of her life. And I’m to self centered to be here for her. I was worried about my self and didn’t think of the women who’s always been here for me. No matter whathappening in her life. I’m horrible I don’t deserve to live. Well yeah that’s just some of my story.
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Ah, saddening, guilt. I guess it’s sort of hard when that person basically sees you as a stranger. It’s hard holding in how you truly feel and not being able to tell it to a certain person now makes it even harder. I know you felt neglected and all and that’s sort of why you “hated” him but loved him because he’s your dad. Now you think you’re all self-centered and selfish and all but really you’re not. You’re basically trying to kill yourself over ANOTHER person. I know the high school years are tough, I’m on my last one, but I think it truly gets better after that, people are WAY more mature and don’t really care how you look, etc, just basically personality and such. Just slowly build that relationship back with your mother and talk it out here, it really helps having people with open arms willing to listen to you no matter what. Not sure what wise words I can put, just my thoughts.
Best of luck.
i love you and god loves you dont blame yourself for what happend to your dad he know you loved him your just a kid he forgives you your not ugly to god god thinks your special and he wants to heal your heart right now cry out to god please heal my life and save me and make my life worthliveing. so please dont give up your are greatly loved love john
john 316, stop.