Why don’t you just become friends with each other?
I don’t understand.
You’re saying no one cares but you guys keep posting about how lonely each of you are without even responding to each other most of the time.
If you’re so lonely, go read other peoples’ posts who say they’re lonely and say hi.
Talk. But more importantly, listen. Make friends.
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Is it right to make friends when you intend to end your own life?
Also — a lot of the problem isn’t just others, it’s us. We’re not always the best friends. And even people who want to be friends drift away due to biological imperatives, time, and circumstance.
I’m not saying people here shouldn’t make friends with each other. I’m just saying it’s not necessarily so cut and dried and if it was, everyone would have a lot of friends already.
Random, it’s the very reason I’ve cut out all my friends in life. I don’t talk to anyone. The only person I talk to now is someone who is supportive of my decisions no matter what. I don’t want to grief or disappoint my friends, and they can’t understand why I want to die so much. So to save both sides grief, I cut my ties. But that’s my decision.
Also, if you (and not you specifically) are going to be a shitty friend, why would anyone want to be your friend? Friendships goes both ways, it’s not one-way. People should think about how good of a friend they can be to someone else before bitching about having no friends. If you’re a good person, and the people you are trying to befriend don’t acknowledge you – fuck them. Not worth your time, nor worth being sad over.
Some things are pretty cut and dry, Random Man. A friend is a friend, whether online or in person or whatever the circumstance. The choice to reach out for friendship is always there.
@Jj, I think they do become friend on SP CHAT extremely often to suggest this. You yourself are closer to the people on the chat you created than you are to anyone here. These are like the personal adds of a news paper and the chat is like actually picking up the phone and getting in touch.
People can think about how good a friend they will be to others or how good a wife, husband, boyfriend, or girlfriend … all they want.
But humans’ thinking includes a lot of self-delusion. And most people will choose biological imperatives over previous commitments in the end,
Well put on both points, Random.
Even when we aren’t so self-absorbed, we tend to give to others what we ourselves want, not what they necessarily want or need. But trying is better than nothing at all.
And I never said someone should be my friend.
But whether it’s because people suck or I suck isn’t the point. There’s a mismatch there, a lack of a fit.
The end result is I’m not cut out for this place.
That’s why I put the you in parentheses. You, just referring to a possibly applicable audience. I’d probably be your friend, though.
Oregon is gonna win. There is a God.
I insist this is not the place where people make friends. They do it on the CHAT room. They see them all there being like best friends, knowing about each other’s lives and socializing big time. People don’t comment much here cause all of the “action” happens over there.
I’d probably be yours too even though it would be a short friendship, at least probably.
Here’s to short and sweet.
Lucy, I got my ******** tank confiscated. Unless I can get the nerve to jump off a building, get the turkey ready.
I would have to communicate outside of here to consider it a friendship.
Otherwise, you’re an intelligent insightful person, I suspect, with a pretty good set of ethics, based on a real understanding of subjective experience including pain. And it’s a welcome thing seeing that. But that wouldn’t be a friendship either.
They took away your ******** tank? What sadistic evil bastards.
I don’t care how much they claim it was out of love.
Sure it was — to their genes. The genes they have inside of you, that they consciously or subconsciously want you to carry forth, to ensure the only part of them nature gives a crap about carries on.
But love “you”? The psychological and emotional center of experience that is you? They wouldn’t have removed someone’s pain-relief plan, and tyrannically imposed their will over yours if the real “you” was their prime concern.
I realize you may love these people (and probably do in a more real way than they love you), but that is how I see it.
And of course, that’s not limited to them. Most people are selfish in that way.
so i deccided tomorrow will be my last day on earth…. how should i tell my parents after im gone
Did they at least have the decency to pay the financial costs of what they were stealing?
I didn’t think so.
My sister and cousin barged into my room (and no they do not live with me) out of nowhere and said I should get lunch with them. My sister saw my set up next to my bed and took it. It was a bad idea to call my dad the other night. I’m guessing he called her.
They are quite very convinced that this is another phase I can get over. In fact I know it’s a phase that I can get over. And also will relapse into many more times. Which is what I want to avoid.
Every living thing is self-motivated. Just to varying degrees.
You’re welcome to join us in chat, http://www.******.com/38362470935680 , or email me at jjgirl13/gmail. or even call me, if you’d like. 4083135108. If you’d like to talk.
And no, I’m not shy about posting my information online.
Actually my sister said if I need it for anything else, she’d give it back to me. Or sell it and give me the money back. They did give me all the money in their pockets which totaled a hundred fifty or so, since I had no money left to eat. And also paid off the 50 bucks I was short on rent.
I don’t think they are ultimately, metaphysically, responsible for their actions, even wrong ones.
We appear to be physical machines in an extremely complex universe. Yes, quantum physics seems to add randomness to events, but we don’t control that either. We do what our brains say to do because they are us.
I’m tempted to text you, but I’ll go old school and give you a ring.
About them compensating you for what they stole.
Well, that’s something. I think they love you in the normal family way. Just they aren’t as empathetic to your feelings as they could be.
Which is hard, I know, since it goes against instinct.
Its extremely rare I sneak a peek back in SP, and for my confusion at the moment I’m glad I did and seen this post first. thanks jjgirl for post and some random man & Black swan for your comments it help cleared my mind up a little. 🙂
Silentblue, glad to hear it helped you.
Lacrosse, if you’re still here. I’ve found out there’s no good way to tell them. Leave a letter.