Help post: Sexuality and relationships

Please don’t take these words as something Holy, because EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. MAKES. MISTAKES. I’m just talking about my experiences and what I’ve learned from chatting with other people. You don’t have to take my advices like it’s the Holy Bible.

SEXUALITY

There is nothing wrong with being gay-, straight-, bi- or asexual, or liking different things in sexual intercourse. You just have to know that some people are NOT that liberal, which means, for your own safety, you need to know when to NOT talk about those subjects. You could become a victim of bullying. (But I’ll write a separate post about bullying in general)

Coming out to your parents and friends may be tough. If you absolutely KNOW that your parents are against your sexuality, before you tell them, you might want to opt for thinking things through, before going to carelessly drop words.

If you’re a minor, you might want to opt for not telling your parents yet. Because as great as it is, being in love and wanting the whole world to know, YOUR safety comes first. You never know, your parents may take it very hard and completely throw you out of the house. You have to understand that it will be tough without them. That’s why you need to think it all through very carefully.

Telling your friends can, let’s face it, be suicidal (But no matter how hard it gets, please don’t choose suicide!). It can destroy your current life. My advice is; if you’ve known them for YEARS and know that they don’t talk behind no one’s back about ANYBODY (atleast, not about something big that can be fatal to someone’s life and dreams), then go ahead. If you have friends who constantly like to party and drink lots of alcohol, my advice is to stay quiet. Because even if they’re good people at heart and mean no harm, alcohol loosens the tongue very much!

If you’re an adult, telling your family is a bit easier, but not necessarily! You still need to think things through.

BUT it ultimately all comes down to you guys. You need to make the choices, I’m just here to advise. If you take my advice or not, depends on you.

SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

Contrary to popular belief – you don’t need to get a lover as soon as you can. It’s perfectly fine to be 25 years old and single. Today’s media, however, pressures you to have a pretty girlfriend or a handsome boyfriend. It’s fine being single!

What you need to know about sex in general, is that you need to be careful. I know, I know, this has been told to you MILLIONS of times already, we’ve all heard it. But seriously, quickest way to be safe and careful is to use condoms. If you don’t fear sexual diseases, but don’t want a baby, you can also use baby pills and other pregnancy prevention devices. Girls, if you have regular unprotected sex, buy a spare pregnancy tester. Guys, keep spare condoms in your wallet or pocket. It’s not shameful in any way, shape or form to go to a store and buy these things! Because, better safe than sorry.

If you want to start a family, the safe route would be to take your loved one and going to a check up together. That way you can see if something is indeed wrong. Also, it doesn’t matter if you think you have nothing wrong with you. YOU. COULD. BE. INFECTED! Again, better safe, than sorry.

Random fact: Did you know that HIV can be transmitted by kissing? When you accidentally bite someone, while making out, and they have HIV, then you could get infected.

Being a teenage mom is okay, but please don’t get upset by that, because the baby feels what you feel. (I’ll write a separate post about depression) Get fresh air. If you feel a little suffocated by everyone else, tell them, kindly, to let you have some space. The baby develops hearing at about 18 weeks. The uterus is NOT soundproof, please keep it in mind that it hears everything that’s happening – from your heartbeat to the television. The baby also knows everything that’s happening outside, because it is a part of yourself, an extension, if you will.

My opinion is that abortion is murder. I’d advise against that… But that’s my opinion.

Random fact 2: People, when they fall in love, don’t see each other’s flaws for TWO YEARS! You will see each other from behind rose tinted glasses, as they say. Most marriages done during the 2 year period, break. I’d advise against making a family before you both know everything about each other. 🙂

TO PARENTS

I’m going to lay down the cold truth: you are partly to blame, if your teenage daughter has become pregnant. I’m not talking about not loving her enough. I’m talking about the food you let her consume.

I don’t know if you were taught this, but girls usually start puberty once they weigh about 45 kg, that is about 99 lbs. It’s the cold, hard truth, that if you let your child eat garbage food, she will grow up faster and thus her hormones will start to kick in faster. Kids at the age of 10 are having kids themselves.

Teenage parents, please raise your kid up without letting them eat all kinds of rubbish. It’s dangerous.

Also, it’s best to tell your children about sex in early childhood – but it’s never too late! It can be uncomfortable, but it will get easier with practice. Furthermore, the more open you are to them, the more likely they are to delay sexual intercourse!

And, of course, don’t be mean to your kid if they tell you their sexuality. Your kid is now a human being like everyone else on this planet.

(Whew! Done! So, this will be the first of idk how many posts trying to give you advice on certain things. I’ll be doing this, because I’ll be going to a hospital soon and can’t help you myself. You can reference these, when you’re talking to other people. You can ask questions regarding this topic in the comments section. I hope this helped!)