What the fuck? The other day you were saying you loved me and how much i meant to you, you made me feel wanted, loved accpeted, you brought me out the dumps, my rock. But then things went wierd, you started to ignor me, so i message you “just asking but have i done something wrong?” and then his GIRLFRIEND replies from HIS phone, “This is his gf who thw fuck is tthis” and ofcourse im like, his girlfriend? he said he was single, why is she messaging me, he has my number, why is she asking? So i reply “Who is this” as in like who are they , why are they messaging me , and she replies “*****’s gf :s” and im so confused! I replied “k, i’m his friend” just thought i would tell her, thn she starts saying stuff like, “Who are you he doesnt know you” AND im sat here thinking ;
why is he lying?
why wont he admit he knows me?
why would he do this?
what have i done?
Now i feel so so un worth it.
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You didn’t do anything. He had a girlfriend already and was cheating (at least emotionally) on her. That means even if he dumped her he’d do the same to you in the future. He’s garbage, understand you haven’t lost anything and move on.
People that will cheat on their current partner to be with you will also be willing to cheat on you for someone else once they get tired of you. That’s how it works, yet people think that they have the power to suddenly make someone with a history of cheating monogamous.
But he said he wouldnt do that to me, he said i was special to him.
*Si~gh* Don’t base your self-worth on other people…. As for the “special” comment — actions speak louder than words, y’know.
Chelsey, the principal you’re missing here is to never try to “steal” someone’s boyfriend. Don’t ever try to convince them that you are somehow better for them. If they can be persuaded to leave their girlfriend for you, that means another girl can persuade him to leave YOU.
Such behavior means the man is unwilling to work out problems in his relationships and will float around to whoever makes him the happiest at the moment. He’s noncommittal, shallow, and immature. This kind of man will leave you just as easily as he’ll leave the girl you pulled him away from.
It doesn’t matter what he says. As Umbra, mentioned, actions speak louder than words. You can’t always just take what a person says at face value. Sure, being trusting is a good quality in my opinion, but it’s naive to ignore a person’s past completely and suddenly think things are going to be different just because they say so. Women are as easily manipulated by words as men are by sex. If a man has cheated before, it’s a red flag that maybe you shouldn’t give you heart to them so easily.
It’s important to realize that men know how to make you do what they want simply by telling you lovey-dovey things. Demand more from your relationships than lip service. If a man does not back up his words with actions, he’s manipulating you or a liar. I know you didn’t know ahead of time that he was already dating someone, and in that sense this isn’t your fault. He’s just a shallow, douchey guy who will have a long series of failed relationships. You didn’t miss out on much.