So one of my favorite sports is boxing. It’s pretty unusual for a girl apparently, but I’m a pretty unusual girl. I’ve fallen in love with it. I’ve been boxing since I was small. Almost everyone in my tiny little town did. I guess things are much different in America than I thought.
All the guys at my gym are perverts and sexists. (It doesn’t help that we wear sports bras and gym shorts.) I walk into the ring and I’m greeted with whistles and comments.
Does anyone do anything about it? Does anyone tell them to knock it off or to grow up?
No. I have to bear with it.
“Hey, get outta the ring! don’t wanna chip a nail!”
“Little girls shouldn’t play with the big boys.”
“Aye slut! Get lost on your way to the kitchen?”
And so on…
Then, I fight. I’ve lost a total of four fights in my life. Just because I’m a girl doesn’t mean I can’t be tough.
And then after fights, the guys have to walk up to me and say the sleeziest stuff. I won’t bother with details. They corner me and just say that gross stuff. It feels like you’re about to get raped, to be honest. You’re in a corner with a bunch of teenage guys surrounding you and harassing you? Yeah, sounds like rape to me. I’m not scared, just mortified when they say it, and I never get embarrassed. It’s disgusting!  When I blush I get called a prude. It’s embarassing.
They make me feel like complete shit. They shoot me down and say that stuff. It’s hard to describe, but you’d understand if you were here.
A girl walked up to me today in the school hallways. She asked me if I was that one boxer girl (she didnt even bother to learn my name). I replies yes. She told me that I needed to clean up my act and that a slag like me would never get a guy. Then, she pushed my out of her way. I hate being pushed. So, I slammed that ***** into the lockers. Her nose bled but she made it seem as if I shot her!
Long story short (too late), I’ve got detention.
Couldn’t that be called self defense? She did push me first after all.
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I think what you did is justified.
It’s her fault she bled.
I’m sorry that you’re made fun for doing what you like, simply because it’s unusual for a person of your making (in this case gender) to be doing that.
It’s just like how I was, being the only Asian kid in any school class for 5 years made me a very easy target. They’d do things to me for no reason and at first I retaliated. Then, after receiving detentions and meeting with teachers, I finally learned how to just take it in, mash it up inside me and let it bottle up there. I’ve still got some issues from my past and it leaks out from time to time. There’s no-one here in my new home to talk about/understands my situation so it’s even worse.
I guess there’s no easy way out of this (that I know of). As far as I can see, you have two options. Embrace your differences and push on with it – taking all the bullshit that comes along with it – or you can change, become what everyone else thinks you should become, in your case an average girl who likes to go shopping, gossip, talk about shoes, and most likely DOES NOT ENJOY boxing.
The first option will give you a hard time, for a long time. But in the end, it’ll be much better than the second option. Of course, that makes the first option much harder to take – naturally.
Once again, I’m sorry for all the trouble that you’re going through. Stay strong, and stay true to yourself!
I never had a girlfriend and I can’t really choose. But if I had a choice and if multiple girls loved me I would rather be with a tough girl than with a regular girl.
Some people cannot handle a girl with power. And as powerful as you are, you are sometimes giving that power away when you let these idiots even affect your mood. I know its hard but who the hell are they? Do they make the rules? NOPE. I know this sounds brutal and I promise I’m saying this from experience, but think about it.. When someone acts that way towards you.. that says WAY more about their character than yours. The sad thing is, this is the way they see the world. It is kind of like when you open a door for someone and get ticked off when they don’t say thank you. Something as small as that might set you off and in your head you are like “ugh wasn’t that person raised with any manners?” But in reality.. what does that one tiny encounter have to do with the big sceme of things. People are ass holes.. and it sucks. But don’t give them any more power over you. When I say power I mean mental power. When they do something to you, and you let it eat away at you, they win. They are, more or less, intimidated by someone who does their own thing. People resist nonconformity because they are afraid of it! Seriously, who would want to be afriad of something unique?!! I would rather be like you any day than like them. Stay strong girl and LOVE YOURSELF for finding a passion so early on in life. Some people spend decades trying to find something that fits! 🙂 People will always be this way.. Change your perspective and you wont even see them anymore! Feel sorry for them, pray for them, whatever… because they, not you, need it! 🙂
It’s not self defence. That’s the use of such force that is reasonable in the circumstances to protect yourself, another or property from unlawful, imminent attack. She probably deserved it thought.
This reminds me of the time when I got into a fight with a girl at school. She was the school record holder for the shot put, could even throw it further than the boys. She was essentially a boy in all but gender clasification, which even then was suspect. It was in the science laboratory, she took offence to something I said. The next thing I know she ran straight over and had me in a headlock but I knocked her out in the end. I saw her a few years ago, working as a waitress. There were no hard feelings. She’s now a lesbian.
Well girl. There are things that you should fix.
Someone has lead you into the world of boxing. Someone has indoctrinated you with neofeminist propaganda and has turned you into a man hater. The person who has done that is a man hater herself. This is very typical for American neofeminists. They are resentful and the figure of man, they hate him for having ruled the world since the stone age.
But, you need to stop your man hating views and be proud and happy of being a female. Man and woman complement each other. Men have some qualities and women have others, and it is in the union (the properly rightly chosen union) when they benefit from each other.
You cannot expect kids of your age to have the mind that I have and they are reacting that way because they are male kids but because you are indeed going off the track, stepping on a ground where you have no need to go. Be happy with what you are.
With regards to having beaten a girl, no that is not self-defense. Because you are an expert and she is not. She was no threat for you. Now you have criminal records, and that is no joke. That is going to be following you for more years that you can think, at every job that you seek they check the criminal records of applicants.
So, my wise advice, and believe me, intelligent people follow my advice is that you should step out of the ring. For many reasons:
– it is dangerous to your health. You are destroying your brain when you are being punched.
– you are doing that not for the sake of sport, but because you hate men and someone put you there.
– you are denying your true nature, and that is a girl and there are no grounds to hate being a girl. On the contrary, thanks god that there are girls in the world. I don’t know what I would do if I could not at least dream about them.
regards
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@oracle I’m not a fucking stereotype. I don’t act like societies cookie cutter girl. First off, don’t take offense by what I say. Second, I am not a man hater. I just hate perverts who like to corner me like a rat and cut me down. Third, you don’t know my age. Honestly, I don’t think you understand me at all. Pushing someone isn’t going to ruin my life. I know what boxing can do to me, and I know my limmits. NO ONE put me there. I love boxing because it’s my passion. I won’t be stepping out of the ring anytime soon. I don’t hate being a girl, and I wouldn’t consider myself a total feminist.