My apologies. I didn’t know that.
I wish some girl felt that way about me, but I will make a slight difference : I wont make her sad but happy.
Too bad that will never happen because I’m unlovable.
No your not. I understand that feeling I always think I’m complicated and ill to be loved who would love a girl with a thousand scars? Well when you find someone who really loves you they are blind to any flaws. They see you as perfect.
I am unlovable because in my 26 years of existence no girl has ever shown any interest in me. I’ve tried dating sites also but no luck. I think that I’m too ugly to be with a girl. Although no girl has ever said that in my face I can sense that.
I personally would love a girl with scars as long as she has a good personality. Personality is first in my book. Too bad I live in a country where girls are 90% with rotten personallity 🙁
Your boyfriend is the one who makes you feel unworthy?
And you’re willing to feel suicidal for this man because of what?
Because you’re that afraid of being alone or…?
How old are you by the way?
@Martin1987
There are many girls who want more than just a good-looking guy, they want a guy with a nice personality and someone who shows affection and kindness. Judging from your previous posts, that’s exactly what you seem to be. This girl will come along, you just have to look a little bit harder, because unfortunately, superficial girls are more prominent than they have been in the past from what I hear.
@noonoo12 Yes, you’re right I do have a good and nice personality but that is totally unimportant for girls from my country. They only want good looks and good bank account. BTW I live in Macedonia, that’s next to Greece.
No one is ugly and no one is unlovable. I know that’s how it feels sometimes, I’m not going to sit here and lecture you on self esteem when I know what it takes to gain some and how easily it’s stolen from us.
At the end of the day, love yourself. If no one else will, you have to. Never said it’s easy, it’s the opposite in fact. But when you can love yourself, that’s when you know you’re finally able to let others love you. Plus, the added confidence might be all it takes to gain a partner.
There are people out there who will tell you whatever it takes to get something from you, to use you. But there are genuine people out there too who can love you no matter what. I couldn’t care less what flaws my partner has, he his perfect to me in every way. That’s not to say he wasn’t extremely insecure at first.
Again, once you accept yourself for who you are and what you look like, disregarding what other people think; They do not matter, why should they have a say in how you feel about yourself?
Anyway. Once you can accept yourself, other’s will too.
Looks aren’t everything, in fact they’re nothing. What does it matter if someone has a rocking body and a beautiful face, only to have the most abrasive personality in the country? Handsome is as handsome does.
Take care of yourselves, you’re all beautiful people in my eyes. <3
If that’s you in the picture….you have nothing to worry about, honestly. You are no where near bad-looking. Hell, I’d say you’re better looking than the entirety of my city.
Now what I’m guessing what you don’t have is money.
I’m willing to die for this man I love him. I know what you gonna say that I’m only 15 and that I don’t know what love is. He’s going to the military to go to collage and so he can get a job to marry me. He’s almost 19. He’s making my life better slowly but I feel like I’m not good enough. He’s constantly trying and I am to but there’s only so much that I can do.
@noonoo12 Thanks for the compliments, those one of the first ones I’ve heard in a long time.
I do have money but I’m in the middle class. Girls here in my country only like guys that are higher class than me. That’s why you can see a lot of ugly and fat guys that are with girls that look like models. Too bad I can’t escape anywhere so I’m stuck in this terrible Macedonia.
I want a ticket out of this world. I’m fed up with it. I’m tired of loneliness and bad health.
@Sam
You know if you live alone for a long time, you start to become your very own best-friend. No need for another’s opinion for validation of self-worth. Good enough: not having to try hard at meeting a partner’s personal interests. Good enough comes naturally. Be happy. Do something with yourself. Give all you can. That’s perfection.
@Martin1987
You’re hawt.
There’s only one person in this world we need to impress … ourselves … live for yourself. Then look to see who “fits” who you are … don’t try to make yourself “fit” what someone else wants … it’s a betrayal to your self.
Sam, please don’t take this the wrong way. But if you don’t feel good enough for him, what is the basis of this thought? Is it something he’s said or done? I seem to recall another post of yours that said he was going away for twenty years, am I right?
You’re very young to be getting married. I know a lot of people are marrying young these days, but I was engaged by 17 and heart broken by 19. It’s completely different in reality than it is anywhere else.
I understand but it’s not for 20 years like he thought it will be for only 3 years and by then I will be 18. If I love him enough to wait I love him enough to marry him. I thought a lot about this he does not mean to say things that hurt me it’s really my fault for not telling him. He told me that I did not care. That was like a punch in the gut I have done so many things for him and I’ve proved to him that I loved him. It’s just not enough though.
I’m younger than you are and I know I know nothing about love, but that is not indicative of what you know. Age doesn’t determine anything. I know 40 year old who know nothing about love and 17 year old’s who have seen it all. He sounds as if he does love you and if he’s willing to make those sacrifices for you – you must be doing a lot right 🙂 He’s making your life better as well as his, because the aim at the end of this is to marry you – you’re doing all you can and it IS enough . 🙂
I hope this helps.
@Martin1987
You should try to leave Macedonia if the girls are truly like that. I come from a culture where the classes have to be equal in the relationship, people don’t usually marry higher or lower classes, so I’ve never heard of an experience like that. Maybe you should try looking for a girl who maybe isn’t the best-looking, but has a nice personality. She wouldn’t be able to go for guys who are higher class, because quite frankly, she wouldn’t be wanted by them.
You don’t have any friends and family or is the loneliness purely that of female companionship?
Are you ill? Because you say you have bad health.
I don’t think you should leave this world yet – you could have so much positive influence on people. 🙂
Relationships are difficult, but if you’re willing to stick around for this boy then you should open up to him. Communication is vital to a relationship. He isn’t a mind reader and so needs to be told how you feel. However, if he still makes you feel this way even after you’ve communicated your feelings to him, that’s another story all together.
It isn’t a healthy relationship if one member makes the other feel like crap repeatedly.
On another note. You need to learn that your life is your own. No one owns you, no one should need to give you purpose. You need to find that yourself. I feel that your self esteem is lacking, and that’s something that only you can work on. We can sit here all day and tell you that you’re a lovely girl. But that isn’t going to work.
Only you can validate your existence. You’re still young, and there’s so much out there for you to enjoy. I hope you manage to do so. <3
He asked a lot from me in the beginning of the relationship I broke up with him because it felt like he was trying to change me but then later on I got back together with him but all sudden he came over yesterday and was angry because I’m not trying enough and stuff like that. I smoke cigarettes and he hates that. He hates almost anything I like to do. he gets very jealous he does not want me hanging out with guys unless I’m in a group.
Thank you very much. You’re a very kind person and very understanding. I do lack self esteem I’ve been starving myself since I was 13 I was bullied at home and at school.
@noonoo12 I’ve tried dating with girls that are ……… well not so good looking and I didn’t had any luck with them either. Those average-looking girls are still living in hope that they will find a guy that looks like a model. I think that Macedonia is the worst country for a guy to find a girlfriend. That’s why there are tons of guys that are single and a big part from those guys are single for the most of their lives.
As for my health I have arthritis, which is wearing out of the joints, so I can’t walk for prolonged distances 🙁
Some people have bad luck , I think that I have the worst. Too bad I will leave this world without any girl saying just one honest : I love you 🙁
….He doesn’t seem to be a positive influence. He’s trying to control you, and undermine your abilities and views. I understand where he’s coming from about the smoking though – he may have also had experiences where it has affected him profoundly.
He also seems over-protective – that may not fade away with time. Do you really want that for years?
Everything he wants to control is just cause he wants me to live for a long time. I starve myself he tries to make me eat. I drink and he does not want me to because he worry’s. I understand everything he wants but there are somethings I can’t just stop it’s not that easy I’ve been smoking and not eating for about 3 years.
Is there really no way for you to leave?
There would be so many girls who’d love to be with you outside of that country.
Many people have that condition and live fulfilled lives. It doesn’t have to get in the way of finding a girlfriend.
What I suggest you do is leave the country. Save up some money and move.
People do have bad luck – but you can’t rely solely on that to get you through life, sometimes you have to work to make things better.
Trust me – you may even go through saying a few “I love you” ‘s in your lifetime.
Don’t quit now . 🙂
He’s a good guy then, just a little bit too attached. But I think in your case that’s not necessarily a bad thing. You need his help. Why do you not want to eat? And continue smoking?
You’re welcome, Sam. Sweetheart, you don’t need to starve yourself. D: I just wish you could see the beautiful, sweet, tender-hearted Sam the way we can. And we haven’t seen you, we don’t need to. You’re perfect because you’re you. Let no one make you feel otherwise.
As for the boyfriend, perhaps his manner of approaching you to help you isn’t right. He’s going in like a bull in a china shop with his nostrils flaring. Talk to him about this.
If smoking and drinking are things you do not want to give up, that’s your prerogative. I’d be a hypocrite if I told you to stop, I do them myself. But there’s a major difference. I’m old enough to know better and don’t want to stop.
I can advise you to stop, you’re still young and those organs have a long way to go. Smoking is a major cause of many things. Drinking is no better, that liver has to cope with your 21st. 😛 Try and keep it good for that.
@Sam
Starving yourself can lead to brain damage. Don’t stop eating because you were bullied into it. Better to eat and burn your fat at a gym. Why continue feeding your nicotine diet? You would be better off quitting health-wise. >_> whyquit.com is a good support site for quitting smoking.
@Martin1987
Why not tone your body(that is if it isn’t already) >_> How could a girl resist eye candy? With the addition of confidence, you should be set to be a girl-magnet.
@noonoo12 Thank you for all your good advices. Sadly I will never be able to leave my country, but I will not take my life just yet. I won’t do that to my loving parents while they’re alive. When they die I will join them soon after because my solitude will increase tenfold.
Thanks again. BTW I saw your picture in one of your older posts, and you are a good looking girl. I wish I lived there in your country and be 10-12 years younger, who knows we might have had some nice moments filled with love and tenderness……
I know I don’t need to. My mind tells me to I do it because I see fat in the mirror but in reality I’m underweight. I’m 100 pounds. I should stop smoking and drinking and I think I will. Thanks for all the help.
What makes you think you wouldn’t have found someone by then? Some girl is going to make you happy some day and you wont have to do that. You wont feel lonely anymore – there are over 2million people in Macedonia and around half of those are women. There’s definitely a woman there for you – probably thousands who’d love someone like you. Please think about it.
Nah – I’d rather be older 😉 and that picture had good lighting – I’m much worse looking in person. Thanks anyway 🙂
You should really talk to a doctor about this – he could help and even get you to see yourself differently. You could also tell your boyfriend – he cares about you A LOT.
@noonoo12
Self-deprecating or modest? 🙂
Girl I must say, from what I’ve read from you, you are wise beyond your years. You are well-grounded and someone to be admired.
Oh shut up, noonoo and take a compliment. 😛 You’re pretty, smart and you haven’t even finished high school. I would have been so jealous of you at that age. Take that damn compliment. D8<
I strongly believe that I won’t find a girlfriend even after 10-20 years because there is one rule here in Macedonia and that is: if you don’t find a girlfriend by the age of 20-22 the chances of finding after that age are very very slim.
BTW don’t be so harsh on yourself I’m sure that you are a real beaut in good lighting too 🙂 I’m a photographer and I know that good or bad lighting can really hide bad looks, at least not to the untrained eye 😉
…I didn’t think it would bother this many people – thanks for the compliments?
The “smart” impression is purely because I’m Asian. I spew out waffle for ages.
Although jealously would not be a word that anyone has ever used to describe me…
Don’t worry though, I’ll take the “damn compliment” because my head is getting bitten off. Hahaha
🙂
@noonoo12
I think you call yourself an idiot a lot and people agree with whatever you say. The verity in the matter is that you have the wisdom to pass for someone much older. (I would have never guessed you were that young) You seem to be well-versed in copious amounts of subjects.
I don’t understand what’s stopping you from leaving. If you gathered the necessary finances…. what’s stopping you? Or is it that you want a girl from Macedonia?
Does photography not make a lot of money?
By the way – I knew it’d pay off putting my username as noonoo. When I read it, it makes me smile. Weird thing to smile at but yeah…
Not really… they started calling me it and I just went with it.
I only think that I have the “wisdom” of someone much older purely because I’ve learned how to phrase things better and because people my age don’t read much.
Well at least not many of the ones I know.
Thanks for the compliment 🙂 . But isn’t it common sense most of the time?
The main reason for me not leaving Macedonia is the fact that I is nowhere to go to. There is no one I know that will let me live with him (or pay for the stay), also I’m little bit afraid to live in a foreign country. Even if I found a girl that would love me from some other country, that girl will have a “lot of work” to make me fit in her country 🙂
There was one girl that let me go to her and stay with her. She lived in Canada but after a 1 year of chatting she said to me one day: Sorry for me hiding this from you, but I used to be a man….
@noonoo12
Common sense isn’t very common.
If that is the case, I can only conclude that they call you an idiot because your mind works at lightning speed compared to them and they gather an inadequate idea that you ‘don’t get it’. Good analysis? Only other reason I can think of is that maybe their label is because you make poor decisions. I wouldn’t know if that were so.
Isn’t that the beauty of it? New place – new start. You get to forget about your past and create something entirely new. A lot of people wouldn’t consider it work. They might even enjoy introducing you to a new place. You already know English quite fluently but the looks of it and that’s usually the only barrier that people find other than cultural ones.
Did you ever meet her? And why don’t you try to find another person to speak with online, in the way you did with her? A year is a long time – if you made it work once, you can do it again. Trust me – not every girl you meet online was actually born a man. There are so many ways to meet people nowadays. Online is a good way to go – get on the internet and find a forum to meet people on. Or even a website like chatroulette if you don’t mind million dicks first. 😀
I’ve been trying to meet women online since 2004. But no luck. I don’t know why, but I’m a magnet for gay people. In high school, if I was born gay I could have at least 10 boyfriend or partners or whatever the hell they call themselves.
I wish I attracted girls as the way I attract guys. Once I got very curious and I asked one gay man: why does girls avoid me and guys love me. He responded: you should be more aggressive and talkative, girls love that. If you are quiet and and calm no girl will ever love you.
I could never be an aggressive person, maybe that’s why I’m single all my life. Who knows…….
No I’m an idiot because I was clumsy when I was younger and because I’m stupid.
They don’t know about the poor decisions I’ve made so that can’t be it.
I have a friend like that. All the gay guys love him. He doesn’t know why. But my other friends are attracted to him, just intimidated by how attractive he is. I’d say that’s a pretty good explanation on your part too. 😀
Girls like all sorts of guys – some like the talkative type sure, but some also like the shy, quiet guy. But you do have to continue putting yourself out there or nothing will change. Keep going online to meet people – it will pay off – I’m sure of it.
@noonoo12
quoting Voltaire.
Clumsy also crossed my mind when thinking of reasons.
I don’t understand how you see yourself as stupid by the proofs that point to the idea that you are rather the opposite. It makes me wonder what graph you are using for measure.
I’m basing this on my family’s opinion of me. They like to remind me whenever I expressed interest in anything.
They think I “cock everything up” – which is true most of the time. I see myself as stupid for all the things I’ve done.
I’m also comparing to my brother, dad and sister. My mom never went into academics.
@noonoo12
Remember you inherited the same genes they inherited!
By what I’ve seen in my life(in America), people tend to assume Asians know everything. Must be some let down to find out they don’t.
Person-“What is the capitol of Gabon?”
You-“I don’t know!”
Person-“Idiot!”
😀 (I’m not being serious)
I’m to scared. I went on this diet when I was 12 and I promised my parents I would not go to far. The pounds dropped fast and I still saw myself the same way I was when I started.
And why don’t you try to tell them? You may not want to, but they could help you get the help you need and make you feel like you deserve your boyfriend.
I don’t think that’s what they intend to do. It’s difficult to know how you’re feeling right now or even how to react to finding out your child is depressed. They’re most likely confused. I think you have got the wrong impression of them – they’re probably trying to give you space.
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For who?
Yourself or another person?
Another person. And for me. But more for the other person.
Screw the other person – do what makes YOU happy.
Who is this other person?
Maybe it’s his girlfriend
My boyfriend. I’m a girl
My apologies. I didn’t know that.
I wish some girl felt that way about me, but I will make a slight difference : I wont make her sad but happy.
Too bad that will never happen because I’m unlovable.
No your not. I understand that feeling I always think I’m complicated and ill to be loved who would love a girl with a thousand scars? Well when you find someone who really loves you they are blind to any flaws. They see you as perfect.
I am unlovable because in my 26 years of existence no girl has ever shown any interest in me. I’ve tried dating sites also but no luck. I think that I’m too ugly to be with a girl. Although no girl has ever said that in my face I can sense that.
I personally would love a girl with scars as long as she has a good personality. Personality is first in my book. Too bad I live in a country where girls are 90% with rotten personallity 🙁
I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t think you are ugly I know I can’t see you but I think what counts the most is what’s inside.
@Sam
Your boyfriend is the one who makes you feel unworthy?
And you’re willing to feel suicidal for this man because of what?
Because you’re that afraid of being alone or…?
How old are you by the way?
@Martin1987
There are many girls who want more than just a good-looking guy, they want a guy with a nice personality and someone who shows affection and kindness. Judging from your previous posts, that’s exactly what you seem to be. This girl will come along, you just have to look a little bit harder, because unfortunately, superficial girls are more prominent than they have been in the past from what I hear.
Which country are you from?
@noonoo12 Yes, you’re right I do have a good and nice personality but that is totally unimportant for girls from my country. They only want good looks and good bank account. BTW I live in Macedonia, that’s next to Greece.
No one is ugly and no one is unlovable. I know that’s how it feels sometimes, I’m not going to sit here and lecture you on self esteem when I know what it takes to gain some and how easily it’s stolen from us.
At the end of the day, love yourself. If no one else will, you have to. Never said it’s easy, it’s the opposite in fact. But when you can love yourself, that’s when you know you’re finally able to let others love you. Plus, the added confidence might be all it takes to gain a partner.
There are people out there who will tell you whatever it takes to get something from you, to use you. But there are genuine people out there too who can love you no matter what. I couldn’t care less what flaws my partner has, he his perfect to me in every way. That’s not to say he wasn’t extremely insecure at first.
Again, once you accept yourself for who you are and what you look like, disregarding what other people think; They do not matter, why should they have a say in how you feel about yourself?
Anyway. Once you can accept yourself, other’s will too.
Looks aren’t everything, in fact they’re nothing. What does it matter if someone has a rocking body and a beautiful face, only to have the most abrasive personality in the country? Handsome is as handsome does.
Take care of yourselves, you’re all beautiful people in my eyes. <3
@Martin1987
If that’s you in the picture….you have nothing to worry about, honestly. You are no where near bad-looking. Hell, I’d say you’re better looking than the entirety of my city.
Now what I’m guessing what you don’t have is money.
Have you ever considered a change of scenery?
I’m willing to die for this man I love him. I know what you gonna say that I’m only 15 and that I don’t know what love is. He’s going to the military to go to collage and so he can get a job to marry me. He’s almost 19. He’s making my life better slowly but I feel like I’m not good enough. He’s constantly trying and I am to but there’s only so much that I can do.
@noonoo12 Thanks for the compliments, those one of the first ones I’ve heard in a long time.
I do have money but I’m in the middle class. Girls here in my country only like guys that are higher class than me. That’s why you can see a lot of ugly and fat guys that are with girls that look like models. Too bad I can’t escape anywhere so I’m stuck in this terrible Macedonia.
I want a ticket out of this world. I’m fed up with it. I’m tired of loneliness and bad health.
@Sam
You know if you live alone for a long time, you start to become your very own best-friend. No need for another’s opinion for validation of self-worth. Good enough: not having to try hard at meeting a partner’s personal interests. Good enough comes naturally. Be happy. Do something with yourself. Give all you can. That’s perfection.
@Martin1987
You’re hawt.
There’s only one person in this world we need to impress … ourselves … live for yourself. Then look to see who “fits” who you are … don’t try to make yourself “fit” what someone else wants … it’s a betrayal to your self.
dawg’s dawg
Sam, please don’t take this the wrong way. But if you don’t feel good enough for him, what is the basis of this thought? Is it something he’s said or done? I seem to recall another post of yours that said he was going away for twenty years, am I right?
You’re very young to be getting married. I know a lot of people are marrying young these days, but I was engaged by 17 and heart broken by 19. It’s completely different in reality than it is anywhere else.
@Martin. Be glad I’m not single. Those are the kind of looks a girl can drool over, quite easily.
I understand but it’s not for 20 years like he thought it will be for only 3 years and by then I will be 18. If I love him enough to wait I love him enough to marry him. I thought a lot about this he does not mean to say things that hurt me it’s really my fault for not telling him. He told me that I did not care. That was like a punch in the gut I have done so many things for him and I’ve proved to him that I loved him. It’s just not enough though.
I live for others or I won’t have a purpose or the will to keep going.
@Sam
I’m younger than you are and I know I know nothing about love, but that is not indicative of what you know. Age doesn’t determine anything. I know 40 year old who know nothing about love and 17 year old’s who have seen it all. He sounds as if he does love you and if he’s willing to make those sacrifices for you – you must be doing a lot right 🙂 He’s making your life better as well as his, because the aim at the end of this is to marry you – you’re doing all you can and it IS enough . 🙂
I hope this helps.
@Martin1987
You should try to leave Macedonia if the girls are truly like that. I come from a culture where the classes have to be equal in the relationship, people don’t usually marry higher or lower classes, so I’ve never heard of an experience like that. Maybe you should try looking for a girl who maybe isn’t the best-looking, but has a nice personality. She wouldn’t be able to go for guys who are higher class, because quite frankly, she wouldn’t be wanted by them.
You don’t have any friends and family or is the loneliness purely that of female companionship?
Are you ill? Because you say you have bad health.
I don’t think you should leave this world yet – you could have so much positive influence on people. 🙂
@Sam
We all live for others – what kind of things does he say other than that? And what made him say that you didn’t care?
Ah, I see now.
Relationships are difficult, but if you’re willing to stick around for this boy then you should open up to him. Communication is vital to a relationship. He isn’t a mind reader and so needs to be told how you feel. However, if he still makes you feel this way even after you’ve communicated your feelings to him, that’s another story all together.
It isn’t a healthy relationship if one member makes the other feel like crap repeatedly.
On another note. You need to learn that your life is your own. No one owns you, no one should need to give you purpose. You need to find that yourself. I feel that your self esteem is lacking, and that’s something that only you can work on. We can sit here all day and tell you that you’re a lovely girl. But that isn’t going to work.
Only you can validate your existence. You’re still young, and there’s so much out there for you to enjoy. I hope you manage to do so. <3
He asked a lot from me in the beginning of the relationship I broke up with him because it felt like he was trying to change me but then later on I got back together with him but all sudden he came over yesterday and was angry because I’m not trying enough and stuff like that. I smoke cigarettes and he hates that. He hates almost anything I like to do. he gets very jealous he does not want me hanging out with guys unless I’m in a group.
Thank you very much. You’re a very kind person and very understanding. I do lack self esteem I’ve been starving myself since I was 13 I was bullied at home and at school.
@noonoo12 I’ve tried dating with girls that are ……… well not so good looking and I didn’t had any luck with them either. Those average-looking girls are still living in hope that they will find a guy that looks like a model. I think that Macedonia is the worst country for a guy to find a girlfriend. That’s why there are tons of guys that are single and a big part from those guys are single for the most of their lives.
As for my health I have arthritis, which is wearing out of the joints, so I can’t walk for prolonged distances 🙁
Some people have bad luck , I think that I have the worst. Too bad I will leave this world without any girl saying just one honest : I love you 🙁
@Sam
….He doesn’t seem to be a positive influence. He’s trying to control you, and undermine your abilities and views. I understand where he’s coming from about the smoking though – he may have also had experiences where it has affected him profoundly.
He also seems over-protective – that may not fade away with time. Do you really want that for years?
Everything he wants to control is just cause he wants me to live for a long time. I starve myself he tries to make me eat. I drink and he does not want me to because he worry’s. I understand everything he wants but there are somethings I can’t just stop it’s not that easy I’ve been smoking and not eating for about 3 years.
@Martin1987
Is there really no way for you to leave?
There would be so many girls who’d love to be with you outside of that country.
Many people have that condition and live fulfilled lives. It doesn’t have to get in the way of finding a girlfriend.
What I suggest you do is leave the country. Save up some money and move.
People do have bad luck – but you can’t rely solely on that to get you through life, sometimes you have to work to make things better.
Trust me – you may even go through saying a few “I love you” ‘s in your lifetime.
Don’t quit now . 🙂
@Sam
He’s a good guy then, just a little bit too attached. But I think in your case that’s not necessarily a bad thing. You need his help. Why do you not want to eat? And continue smoking?
You’re welcome, Sam. Sweetheart, you don’t need to starve yourself. D: I just wish you could see the beautiful, sweet, tender-hearted Sam the way we can. And we haven’t seen you, we don’t need to. You’re perfect because you’re you. Let no one make you feel otherwise.
As for the boyfriend, perhaps his manner of approaching you to help you isn’t right. He’s going in like a bull in a china shop with his nostrils flaring. Talk to him about this.
If smoking and drinking are things you do not want to give up, that’s your prerogative. I’d be a hypocrite if I told you to stop, I do them myself. But there’s a major difference. I’m old enough to know better and don’t want to stop.
I can advise you to stop, you’re still young and those organs have a long way to go. Smoking is a major cause of many things. Drinking is no better, that liver has to cope with your 21st. 😛 Try and keep it good for that.
@Sam
Starving yourself can lead to brain damage. Don’t stop eating because you were bullied into it. Better to eat and burn your fat at a gym. Why continue feeding your nicotine diet? You would be better off quitting health-wise. >_> whyquit.com is a good support site for quitting smoking.
@Martin1987
Why not tone your body(that is if it isn’t already) >_> How could a girl resist eye candy? With the addition of confidence, you should be set to be a girl-magnet.
@noonoo12 Thank you for all your good advices. Sadly I will never be able to leave my country, but I will not take my life just yet. I won’t do that to my loving parents while they’re alive. When they die I will join them soon after because my solitude will increase tenfold.
Thanks again. BTW I saw your picture in one of your older posts, and you are a good looking girl. I wish I lived there in your country and be 10-12 years younger, who knows we might have had some nice moments filled with love and tenderness……
There habits I have well one of them is a disorder I have I just can’t stop.
I know I don’t need to. My mind tells me to I do it because I see fat in the mirror but in reality I’m underweight. I’m 100 pounds. I should stop smoking and drinking and I think I will. Thanks for all the help.
@Martin1987
What makes you think you wouldn’t have found someone by then? Some girl is going to make you happy some day and you wont have to do that. You wont feel lonely anymore – there are over 2million people in Macedonia and around half of those are women. There’s definitely a woman there for you – probably thousands who’d love someone like you. Please think about it.
Nah – I’d rather be older 😉 and that picture had good lighting – I’m much worse looking in person. Thanks anyway 🙂
@Sam
You should really talk to a doctor about this – he could help and even get you to see yourself differently. You could also tell your boyfriend – he cares about you A LOT.
He’d be devastated if he lost you. 🙁
@noonoo12
Self-deprecating or modest? 🙂
Girl I must say, from what I’ve read from you, you are wise beyond your years. You are well-grounded and someone to be admired.
Oh shut up, noonoo and take a compliment. 😛 You’re pretty, smart and you haven’t even finished high school. I would have been so jealous of you at that age. Take that damn compliment. D8<
@noonoo12
I strongly believe that I won’t find a girlfriend even after 10-20 years because there is one rule here in Macedonia and that is: if you don’t find a girlfriend by the age of 20-22 the chances of finding after that age are very very slim.
BTW don’t be so harsh on yourself I’m sure that you are a real beaut in good lighting too 🙂 I’m a photographer and I know that good or bad lighting can really hide bad looks, at least not to the untrained eye 😉
@KBailey
I’d say truthful – my family seems to agree.
Thanks a lot, but I don’t know. Been called an idiot for so long – who knows what I am. Thanks anyway 🙂
@The_Voice_Inside
…I didn’t think it would bother this many people – thanks for the compliments?
The “smart” impression is purely because I’m Asian. I spew out waffle for ages.
Although jealously would not be a word that anyone has ever used to describe me…
Don’t worry though, I’ll take the “damn compliment” because my head is getting bitten off. Hahaha
🙂
@noonoo12
I think you call yourself an idiot a lot and people agree with whatever you say. The verity in the matter is that you have the wisdom to pass for someone much older. (I would have never guessed you were that young) You seem to be well-versed in copious amounts of subjects.
@Martin1987
I don’t understand what’s stopping you from leaving. If you gathered the necessary finances…. what’s stopping you? Or is it that you want a girl from Macedonia?
Does photography not make a lot of money?
By the way – I knew it’d pay off putting my username as noonoo. When I read it, it makes me smile. Weird thing to smile at but yeah…
Good lighting can really hide bad looks 😀
@KBailey
Not really… they started calling me it and I just went with it.
I only think that I have the “wisdom” of someone much older purely because I’ve learned how to phrase things better and because people my age don’t read much.
Well at least not many of the ones I know.
Thanks for the compliment 🙂 . But isn’t it common sense most of the time?
@noonoo12
The main reason for me not leaving Macedonia is the fact that I is nowhere to go to. There is no one I know that will let me live with him (or pay for the stay), also I’m little bit afraid to live in a foreign country. Even if I found a girl that would love me from some other country, that girl will have a “lot of work” to make me fit in her country 🙂
There was one girl that let me go to her and stay with her. She lived in Canada but after a 1 year of chatting she said to me one day: Sorry for me hiding this from you, but I used to be a man….
@noonoo12
Common sense isn’t very common.
If that is the case, I can only conclude that they call you an idiot because your mind works at lightning speed compared to them and they gather an inadequate idea that you ‘don’t get it’. Good analysis? Only other reason I can think of is that maybe their label is because you make poor decisions. I wouldn’t know if that were so.
@Martin1987
Isn’t that the beauty of it? New place – new start. You get to forget about your past and create something entirely new. A lot of people wouldn’t consider it work. They might even enjoy introducing you to a new place. You already know English quite fluently but the looks of it and that’s usually the only barrier that people find other than cultural ones.
Did you ever meet her? And why don’t you try to find another person to speak with online, in the way you did with her? A year is a long time – if you made it work once, you can do it again. Trust me – not every girl you meet online was actually born a man. There are so many ways to meet people nowadays. Online is a good way to go – get on the internet and find a forum to meet people on. Or even a website like chatroulette if you don’t mind million dicks first. 😀
@noonoo12
I’ve been trying to meet women online since 2004. But no luck. I don’t know why, but I’m a magnet for gay people. In high school, if I was born gay I could have at least 10 boyfriend or partners or whatever the hell they call themselves.
I wish I attracted girls as the way I attract guys. Once I got very curious and I asked one gay man: why does girls avoid me and guys love me. He responded: you should be more aggressive and talkative, girls love that. If you are quiet and and calm no girl will ever love you.
I could never be an aggressive person, maybe that’s why I’m single all my life. Who knows…….
@KBailey
…Then why is it called common sense?
No I’m an idiot because I was clumsy when I was younger and because I’m stupid.
They don’t know about the poor decisions I’ve made so that can’t be it.
@Martin1987
I have a friend like that. All the gay guys love him. He doesn’t know why. But my other friends are attracted to him, just intimidated by how attractive he is. I’d say that’s a pretty good explanation on your part too. 😀
Girls like all sorts of guys – some like the talkative type sure, but some also like the shy, quiet guy. But you do have to continue putting yourself out there or nothing will change. Keep going online to meet people – it will pay off – I’m sure of it.
@noonoo12
quoting Voltaire.
Clumsy also crossed my mind when thinking of reasons.
I don’t understand how you see yourself as stupid by the proofs that point to the idea that you are rather the opposite. It makes me wonder what graph you are using for measure.
@KBailey
I’m basing this on my family’s opinion of me. They like to remind me whenever I expressed interest in anything.
They think I “cock everything up” – which is true most of the time. I see myself as stupid for all the things I’ve done.
I’m also comparing to my brother, dad and sister. My mom never went into academics.
@noonoo12
Remember you inherited the same genes they inherited!
By what I’ve seen in my life(in America), people tend to assume Asians know everything. Must be some let down to find out they don’t.
Person-“What is the capitol of Gabon?”
You-“I don’t know!”
Person-“Idiot!”
😀 (I’m not being serious)
@KBailey
That doesn’t matter to them – I was just a “bad egg”.
If it makes you feel any better I’m still top of my year in Maths, English and Science.
Hahahah 😀
I could gather that much before you told me. I was the same in those areas.
@KBailey
How old are you?
You say that in past tense. 🙂
I’m to scared. I went on this diet when I was 12 and I promised my parents I would not go to far. The pounds dropped fast and I still saw myself the same way I was when I started.
@Sam
How much did you weigh when you started?
And do your parents know about your disorder?
I was 150 pounds. They don’t. they don’t pay attention.
@Sam
How much do you weigh now?
And why don’t you try to tell them? You may not want to, but they could help you get the help you need and make you feel like you deserve your boyfriend.
I weigh 102 pounds. My parents put me in counseling when they found out I was depressed they can’t deal with me so they have other people do it.
@Sam
I don’t think that’s what they intend to do. It’s difficult to know how you’re feeling right now or even how to react to finding out your child is depressed. They’re most likely confused. I think you have got the wrong impression of them – they’re probably trying to give you space.
How tall are you?
I’m 5 3
And probably I don’t know anymore they just confuse me.
@Sam
You’re seriously underweight.
You need to tell them.
I hope you get help soon. 🙂